Everything I've read about them indicates that that's just how they were. They were both very well-known in the community and she was known for looking in on the sick, etc. They were prominent members of the church community, he having been a minister in 3 different churches and apparently walking long distances to do services in other towns, and of course he was also a government official for a while. It sounds like they were just really involved in everything TOGETHER, so they would probably also have talked about everything. It sounds like they were a very strong couple...it's kind of sad, actually, because it seems to have stopped with them. Their son, (my grandfather's father) was basically abandoned by his mother, and never knew his father. BUT, I did hear from our cousins that his father didn't know he existed until he was an adult...I guess he and my g-grandmother were never married, or divorced before my grandpa was born. Just makes you wonder, since my g-g-grandparents were so TOGETHER, what led to the situation where my grandfather never knew his dad? I'd love to hear the whole story. My grandpa was very resentful toward his mother because he had lived with her parents until he was 5 or 6 and he LOVED them. Then one day his mom showed up with her new husband and took him and his half sister away and they left for...Nebraska maybe? I know my grandmother was from Nebraska, but I don't remember how they met. But my grandpa was very close with his half-sister and she got sick, but their parents belonged to some religious group that didn't believe in medicine and refused to do anything but pray. She died and my grandpa never forgave them for taking them from her parents and for letting his sister die. He ran away as soon as he could take care of himself. He had a very hard life...and I can only imagine how different it would have been if he had known his other half of the family who didn't even know he existed, and/or been allowed to stay with his mom's parents. I find that whole branch of the family tree fascinating and I wish I knew more about them.