Well, I was pretty blessed when it came to the funeral and burial. For one thing, my brother didn't really give a rat's patootie about any of it so I could make decisions without his objection. For another, a good friend of my dad's (he was staying at their house when he passed and the friend was the one who found him...they thought he was napping) was there to help me make the arrangements. Anything I didn't know, he filled in. It made it so much easier to have that help. And then for the burial, my grandfather had bought a whole bunch of plots for his children and their spouses and eventually even some grandchildren...he had like 10 plots. So there was no question about where he would be buried...he's right next to his parents and when I visited the grave a week and a half ago, they already had his military cross there. So the funeral arrangements were relatively painless as far as those things go, thank goodness. I'm so sorry you are still dealing with all of it. And it sounds like in your case, everyone has their own opinions about how everything should have gone....I didn't have that. I was free to choose.