Several years ago, I hadn't put in for any vacations...we weren't planning to go anywhere, and I only get paid for hours I work, so it didn't make sense to take time off for no reason. What I DID ask for was one 1/2 day around Christmas. I only worked 1/2 day on Wednesdays, and my husband was off from his job that whole week, so I put in early in the year for that 1/2 day and it was approved. (This was before they changed scheduling and I had to put in availability each week) As we approached the holiday season, it was getting really busy at work and we started getting behind. We didn't have enough people and they couldn't seem to hire enough to handle all the work. So they put a blanket ban on time off at Christmas not already approved. I happened to be the only person who had put in for time off early in the year, so I was the only one who had time off around Christmas, and it was literally 4 hours off. I hadn't taken a single day of vacation the whole year...not one, and this coworker starts telling me that it's not fair that I'm the only one who gets time off and asking what my plans were, were we going somewhere, etc. And when I said no, we weren't going anywhere, she told me I should give up that half day off because it wasn't fair for me to get to sit at home while they all had to work and several people had asked for time off and were told they couldn't have it and if it were her, she'd think of someone besides herself and come in to do her part to help the company. On and on, giving me a guilt trip about taking 4 hours off in a whole year. Meanwhile SHE had taken 2 weeks off in the Summer, another week in October, and I think a week or so in May as well. I just asked her...how many weeks of vacation did YOU take this year, while -I- was here working and doing my part to help the company? I didn't take any other vacation and I think taking 1/2 a day for myself is less selfish than several weeks. I won't be giving it up. She kept at me, trying to get me to cave, but I didn't.
People NEED time off sometimes. And we all take turns. Do you begrudge your coworkers a vacation now and then? Are you thinking daggers at them because they have the audacity to be on vacation when you aren't? Of course not, because you are a good person and know that they've earned that time off, just like you have when you take it. I think we get caught up in feeling bad because we're kind of conditioned to feel bad if others are working and we aren't. And if you're actually at work, then that's very valid. But we forget that it's ok to take that time off....those other people take time off, too. It might not be at the same time as we do, but they all get their moment, so there's no need to feel bad for taking yours. I don't think most of my coworkers were bothered by my taking that time off...I was smart and put in for it in like March....they had every opportunity to do the same, but didn't. And they ALL got vacations throughout the year that I didn't take. Most of them understood this and thought I was smart for arranging it early and wished they'd had that foresight. Only the one gal was nasty about it and it was pure jealousy because she was one who had asked for time off and couldn't have it, even though she had already taken several weeks of vacation. Some people are just terrible people and can't stand it when someone has something they don't.