Sad News, Need Help Moving Forward

[dopeylover]

I am extremely heartbroken to say that I miscarried our 7 week old baby this week. This is a very hard time, but we are trying to move forward and stay positive for ourselves and our 2 yr. old DD.

I had posted on here a few weeks ago about a trip we were planning and bringing along our newest addition, and my husband and I have decided to keep the trip planning going, as it is a bright spot and gives us something to look forward to. We are hopeful that perhaps there will still be a new addition we can bring along, and even if there isn't, it is a special time with our little girl and a much needed vacation.

We are planning Nov. 2013, which is still a ways away. I always hesitate w/ trip insurance b/c I think it's extra money I don't want to spend on 'what ifs'. The only trip I ever booked without it though was the one I had to cancel, and we lost only our deposit and got the rest back. Since it is a ways away, I was concerned about if we needed to reschedule our trip. The only reason we would reschedule is if I was lucky enough to be pregnant again and too far along to travel, or if we were lucky enough to have another child who was a little too little to go away at the moment. We wouldn't cancel completely, just postpone probably for a couple of months.

My question is, with the circumstances above, should we get the insurance or skip it? We are anxious to book soon so we have something positive and fun to focus on as a family. Thanks for your time.

 

[WDWmazprty]

First of all you have my condolensces. My mother miscarried twice and just recently my sister in law miscarried as well, and I know how painful that can be. Good news is my sister-in-law and her husband tried again and got pregnant a month later; the baby is due in January =).

I would get the insurance just because you never know, if anything it may just give you a little piece of mind.

 

[Goofy6294]

Honestly, I wouldn't get trip insurance for WDW solely based on the potential for not being able to make the trip. Given Disney's cancellation policy, you would probably be out of pocket for roughly the same amount whether you lost your deposit or paid the premium for the trip insurance. However, some of the other features are pretty nice. We had a medical emergency on one of our trips (which was insured) and had $5,000 in ER expenses covered, as well as a reimbursement for a day's park tickets.

Sorry to hear about your loss. My wife miscarried when we were trying for our second child. It was a difficult time for a while, but we were eventually blessed with a second son and later were blessed again unexpectedly with our daughter!

 

[UberMouse]

I completely understand your heartbreak. My wife and I have had two miscarriages since 2005, once we began trying to get pregnant. The last miscarriage was in 2008. That was a very hard year to overcome, and I did sink into mild depression. One thing that ironically did help was that we decided to go to WDW about 3 months after she miscarried. Things were still tough, but we were able to use that trip to perk our spirits up substantially. I am pleased to say that as hard as that was to overcome we continued forward in life. We look back on those times with heartache and it still hard, and like most people I imagine what might have been, but only briefly. I can honestly say that for us the best thing about that year was our trip to WDW. I always associate that trip with what happened, but I also use it as a bookmark in my life's journey. This reminds me that no matter what, I can move on, and happiness does return.

Now, because of that trip to Disney, that allowed us some joy and most likely kept us together, I can proudly hold up my twin baby girl and boy that were born in October of 2011. We thank God every day for our blessings and see our little Jameson and Journey as God giving back to us, what we had lost, due to our unwavering faith. May God be with you during this time.


-Jeff

Our sleeping Princess and Prince....Ahem, and my Wife. (May 2012)

 

[Britt]

Oh my gosh, all of these happy stories have me in tears, especially those beautiful twins <3

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss DopeyLover. Hopefully you will conceive again soon and go on to carry to term <3

I would not use the trip insurance, personally. Good luck to you guys!

 

[Mukta]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[Nemo14]

So sorry for your loss. I also miscarried after my first baby, and I know how heartbreaking it is. Allow yourself time to grieve the loss, but don't let it define your life. I too was blessed with another child after the miscarriage, and i will pray that God blesses you that way too. In the meantime, focus on the fun you will have on your trip.

 

[NYwdwfan]

Sending you sympathy on your loss and pixie dust to help get you through.

Regarding the trip insurance, I personally would not get it either. A WDW reservation agent once informed me that once you pay the deposit, if you need to cancel your trip don't actually "cancel" it, just postpone it to a later date. This can be ANY date, just something to buy you extra time. Once you decide when you really want to go, you can reschedule the trip again, just re-applying the deposit.

 

[LizC]

I am so sorry for your loss. My husband and I had a very similar situation about two years ago. We had a trip planned in Nov 2010 that would have been early in my pregnancy, and ended up being just after the miscarrige. The trip boosted our spirits and we did concieve twins only a few weeks later. In October we will be taking our twins on their first trip and we could not be happier. I hope you can overcome this sad time as well.

If I were you I would schedule a trip, if your like me (and most of us on this site) a trip to WDW may help with the healing. Not to mention the fun of planning one! As for your insurance question, I think it depends what else you are getting for your trip. ex. rental house, plane tickets, etc... I believe Disney has a pretty good policy as far as the hotel, and if you buy tickets in advance you will surely use them eventually. But if you are renting a house or live in another country and have very expensive plane tickets then I would cnsider insurance. We just got trip insurance through AAA which was very reasonable. We are renting a house and it covered that and our rental car. (we have AP's)

 

[gccgrad1996]

I am very sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is. I miscarried at 9 weeks in November of 2009. It was very hard, but we realized how lucky we were to have our two beautiful daughters at home. I would have been due in June, so we had told our daughters that we would not be taking our yearly summer trip to Disney that year. They were upset, but excited at the same time to be getting a new little brother or sister. I can remember lying in bed that night after coming home from the hospital and saying to my husband all I want to do is go to Disney this summer, booking a trip and planning it will help me to get over this. Needless to say we did and we surprised our daughters with the trip. They had no idea we were going until we woke them up one morning in July and said we are going to Disney today. The best news is that a few weeks later I got pregnant with our wonderful son who was born in April of 2011. We missed our trip last summer, but we arrive in Disney in 9 days for his first trip. I can hardly contain my excitement.
I know it is hard now, but you will grow from this and I bet within a few months a new little one will be on their way. I wish you all the best.
By the way I never get insurance. I think if you do get pregnant and it coincides too close to the date or your trip you will have plenty of time to reschedule without loosing too much money. By the way I have been there three months pregnant, and it didn't stop me. My sister-in-law was there at 7 months pregnant and will be back this year at 7 months. She takes a lot of breaks but says she keeps up pretty well with the other 4 kids and hubby. I know I wouldn't want to be there that far along, but it can be done.
I wish you all the best.

 

[dave&di]

I have no advice but want to say I'm so sorry you're going through this, sending pixie dust your way for a happy outcome.

 

[ThinkTink721]

I am truly sorry for your loss...having been through similar situations 3 times before having my 3 kids, I totally understand what you are going through.
Still planning & going on your trip will give you something to look forward to.

 

[mouse_luv]

I don't really have any input on the the insurance, but I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss. *HUGS*

 

[Pooh Lover]

Very sorry for your loss but glad you are going forward with your WDW plans...it will give you all something to look forward to and the planning is definitely a mind diversion. You know, I NEVER get trip insurance but since you usually do, if you think you're going to spend too much time worrying about it if you don't, buy it. I don't like having anything out there that I'm going to second guess. Have a wonderful trip, hugs and best wishes to you and your family!

 

[Mr Toad]

So sorry for your loss. Stay strong...it will get better day by day.
I get trip insurance if I am travelling overseas or Hawaii. I have never purchased trip insurance for WDW.

 

[dopeylover]

Thank you all so much for your help and support. It touches my heart that there are people that care, and I thank you for your stories. I am moving towards not getting it, but I think I should decide for sure when I am thinking a bit more clearly. I'm still a bit up in the air, b/c you all have good points. But planning this trip is definitely something that helps us move forward. Thank you so so much.

 

[disneygirl76]

I am extremely heartbroken to say that I miscarried our 7 week old baby this week. This is a very hard time, but we are trying to move forward and stay positive for ourselves and our 2 yr. old DD.

I had posted on here a few weeks ago about a trip we were planning and bringing along our newest addition, and my husband and I have decided to keep the trip planning going, as it is a bright spot and gives us something to look forward to. We are hopeful that perhaps there will still be a new addition we can bring along, and even if there isn't, it is a special time with our little girl and a much needed vacation.

We are planning Nov. 2013, which is still a ways away. I always hesitate w/ trip insurance b/c I think it's extra money I don't want to spend on 'what ifs'. The only trip I ever booked without it though was the one I had to cancel, and we lost only our deposit and got the rest back. Since it is a ways away, I was concerned about if we needed to reschedule our trip. The only reason we would reschedule is if I was lucky enough to be pregnant again and too far along to travel, or if we were lucky enough to have another child who was a little too little to go away at the moment. We wouldn't cancel completely, just postpone probably for a couple of months.

My question is, with the circumstances above, should we get the insurance or skip it? We are anxious to book soon so we have something positive and fun to focus on as a family. Thanks for your time.

I'm so sorry. This is an extremely difficult time. Hug your little princess and know that you will be blessed again. If you ever want to talk offline, I, in some ways, know what you are going through. My DH and I have been doing IUI/IVF for most of last year and all were negative. We are going on our trip in September because we need a happy memory. WDW is our favorite place. So we are going on a magical wonderful trip before we try again. My thoughts are with you and your family.

As for planning, you can book and pay for it, and then still cancel 45 days prior to travel and get a full refund. You will know by then if you are pregnant again. I hope this info helps.

 

[popcenturylover]

I am extremely heartbroken to say that I miscarried our 7 week old baby this week. This is a very hard time, but we are trying to move forward and stay positive for ourselves and our 2 yr. old DD.

I had posted on here a few weeks ago about a trip we were planning and bringing along our newest addition, and my husband and I have decided to keep the trip planning going, as it is a bright spot and gives us something to look forward to. We are hopeful that perhaps there will still be a new addition we can bring along, and even if there isn't, it is a special time with our little girl and a much needed vacation.

We are planning Nov. 2013, which is still a ways away. I always hesitate w/ trip insurance b/c I think it's extra money I don't want to spend on 'what ifs'. The only trip I ever booked without it though was the one I had to cancel, and we lost only our deposit and got the rest back. Since it is a ways away, I was concerned about if we needed to reschedule our trip. The only reason we would reschedule is if I was lucky enough to be pregnant again and too far along to travel, or if we were lucky enough to have another child who was a little too little to go away at the moment. We wouldn't cancel completely, just postpone probably for a couple of months.

My question is, with the circumstances above, should we get the insurance or skip it? We are anxious to book soon so we have something positive and fun to focus on as a family. Thanks for your time.

So sorry to hear about your loss. I had a miscarriage back in 2004 and it was very painful but, 4 long years later we got a beautiful baby girl! Go ahead and plan that trip and keep moving on with things. God may bless you unexpectedly!

 

[bgoebel]

Condolesences to you and your husband! I had a miscarriage 2 years ago within 6 months was blessed with our third child ( a boy after two dd's) ! I want to send you positivity and prayers that it all works out for you and yes moving forward with a trip is a perfect way to find peace and comfort as a family

 

[maryszhi]

i am so sorry for your loss i will keep yall in my prayers <3 also i am a firm believer that trip insurance is a must, if possible.