Note I never said pickup and move on a dime... go back and read where I said 'what are you doing about it?' - Are you saving? Are you researching what it costs in other possible locations? Are you prioritizing your spending? Are you finding out what you NEED before moving, etc? I can guarantee you 95% of the people complaining about where they are now - are not doing those things to work out how to break the cycle. Just going around complaining about their town... and how it's so bad. Most people are afraid to move because they don't think they can afford it. Ok, so what are you doing to make it so you can afford it?
These are life changing decisions... but the entire point is "Are you working to change things, or are you gonna sit and just be miserable forever?"
You aren't stuck where you are - anyone telling you that is holding you back. People just have to be willing to do their part.
With the lockdown going on.. my niece's normal gig had no future. With all the J-1 visa students unable to come this year the beach resorts are DYING for people. So they got a group together, in one weekend found a seasonal rental and had 3 job offers in one day. She's only 17. They're living there now. Sure this is only temporary... but they're making money now vs nothing and making enough to bank savings to work out the next step. Or she could have just stayed at my sister's house for the summer twiddling her thumbs about how shutdown sucks.
My oldest kid had both her jobs shutdown by covid, as did her fiancé. After a few weeks, she found a job that would give her hours working the counter at a food place. Eventually one of her jobs came back, and in the interim kept pushing and found an even better full time job. So she's been working part time in two jobs even during the pandemic, and is setup to work full time plus one of those jobs part time starting later this month. This weekend they moved into their first house after living on their own for the last 2 years in an apartment. The only support she gets from me is she's allowed to be on my insurance and my phone plan.
The world doesn't have to be as miserable as people describe CM working conditions in Orlando. Stop acting like 'this is how it has to be...'. Put together a plan, find out what you need, then start doing the things you need to make it real.
If you don't - yes, you'll be stuck there forever or sliding backwards.
I see it even in my high paying industry. People doing the same exact job for like 10 years. You talk to them about their direction, and they have none. They're just happy to treat water and hope the pool never gets drained while they are still in it. Then, when the layoffs do hit, they wander aimlessly wondering 'why me...'.