I agree with almost everything you said. My one disagreement is below in red.
I understand what you are saying. The problem is Disney thinks a different way then I do. Here is how I think as a consumer. I could be the only one, but this is just my opinion:
I am a hard core Disney fan. I have loved the princesses since I was a child. Aurora was my favorite and I called her 'Sleeping Beauty' before we even knew her name. She wore a blue dress and I still have my original doll with her featured in it. The pink was the secondary color.
So...here I am, 31 and still in love with Disney. I go every year. I spend close to 2,000 to 3,000 dollars every year on just Disney trips. I am going again in October after just coming back in April. So I am a repeat customer. When we go, we stay at the Polynesian Resort. I would think Disney would prefer my business to a family that could only afford to go every 3-5 years. If they choose Disney at all.
Also on that note. When we, as fans, wear a shirt, or carry a bag or sport any other merchandise, we are giving Disney free advertising. I am more than happy to give Disney free advertising because I love them and want to show my support. However, I, as a customer, do not like their new product. Because of this, I will not buy the product. I can't remember the last time I bought a doll, or card, or bag, or shirt, or anything princess related when I use to a lot. For the Disney Halloween Party, I was thinking of going as a princess. But the redesigns have annoyed me so much, I think I will go as something else. I haven't even gone to a princess meet and greet since Cinderella was changed. I refuse to meet her in the new look. Basically, I will not advertise the redesigns because I do not support them.
It starts with little things. How soon before I am done with Disney all together. Then the repeat customer becomes a customer who goes somewhere else instead.
This. Disney is betting that the answer to "How soon before I am done with Disney all together?" is "You'll never be done with Disney all together." You said you no longer purchase Princess-line merchandise, but you DO drop $3K every year on your WDW trip. There are a lot of people saying "how much more of X, Y, or Z can Disney do before they start losing customers," but the fact is that Disney ISN'T losing customers. They're growing on just about every front.
Sure, it sounds petty to many people but if we just subside and don't voice our opinions or displeasure, then we might as well not fight for anything. What is happening with Merida shows that, as customers, we do have a right to have some say in what we are purchasing. Disney did wrong and if they want to keep their dolls selling, then they should listen to people. Whether they are a casual Disney fan or a hard core one. Our opinions matter.