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[k.hunter30]

I think I'm going to be sick....now this girl has told someone else that she intends to punch Abby tomorrow at 2 o'clock. What am I going to do? I sent an e-mail to the principal making it clear that if she follows thru, we are pressing charges and asked him to call me with a follow-up to what occurs. :hurl::hurl::hurl:

Well, you could keep her home from school tomorrow, but schedule an appointment with the principal tomorrow, and just go.

You could take her out of school early tomorrow...

Or you could hope it's all talk...and if she does hit her, then, yes, press charges.

Wow! I'm so sorry you're going through this! Not being a parent myself and not beig in this situation, I really don't know what to say. I know my first thought is not pulling Abby out of school for this reason, but sending her and definitely keeping the principal up-to-date on the latest threats, so that they will be more prepared. Hopefully, as Nibbs said, this girl is all talk. If not. Yes, pressing charges would appropriate, don't you think?

 

[Dancing Queen]

I would call the police and deal with it now, before Abby gets seriously hurt. This girl sounds vicious with no remorse for what she does.

 

[nibblesandbits]

Wow! I'm so sorry you're going through this! Not being a parent myself and not beig in this situation, I really don't know what to say. I know my first thought is not pulling Abby out of school for this reason, but sending her and definitely keeping the principal up-to-date on the latest threats, so that they will be more prepared. Hopefully, as Nibbs said, this girl is all talk. If not. Yes, pressing charges would appropriate, don't you think?

I agree with Kat. It would almost send a bad message if she weren't in school at all. That's why I suggested maybe pulling her out early.

But then again, that could send a bad message too...I'm on the fence though...

or Abby could "fight" her...:lookaroun A co-worker of mine let a girl who harrassed her hit her and the harrassment stopped. Not what I'd recommend, but it's what my co-worker did.

 

[PotteryGal]

Wow! I'm so sorry you're going through this! Not being a parent myself and not beig in this situation, I really don't know what to say. I know my first thought is not pulling Abby out of school for this reason, but sending her and definitely keeping the principal up-to-date on the latest threats, so that they will be more prepared. Hopefully, as Nibbs said, this girl is all talk. If not. Yes, pressing charges would appropriate, don't you think?

I would call the police and deal with it now, before Abby gets seriously hurt. This girl sounds vicious with no remorse for what she does.

I agree - I don't wish to pull her out, because she shouldn't miss out on her schooling because of this girl. Like I said, I have already e-mailed the principal and will probably call tomorrow morning as well. I told Mike that perhaps we should call the police and just get info as to what our next step will be if she tries to follow thru. Mike's honest opinion is that she is more talk than action....but as I said before, she's Casey Anthony in embryo imo....she would be incredibly stupid to try this....

 

[nibblesandbits]

I agree - I don't wish to pull her out, because she shouldn't miss out on her schooling because of this girl. Like I said, I have already e-mailed the principal and will probably call tomorrow morning as well. I told Mike that perhaps we should call the police and just get info as to what our next step will be if she tries to follow thru. Mike's honest opinion is that she is more talk than action....but as I said before, she's Casey Anthony in embryo imo....she would be incredibly stupid to try this....

I'm more with Mike on it. Get info from the police on your next steps, but have her go to school. I bet she's more talk than action too, as most girls are, but like I said, if she is action, then at least you'll be prepared with what to do next.

 

[PotteryGal]

I agree with Kat. It would almost send a bad message if she weren't in school at all. That's why I suggested maybe pulling her out early.

But then again, that could send a bad message too...I'm on the fence though...

or Abby could "fight" her...:lookaroun A co-worker of mine let a girl who harrassed her hit her and the harrassment stopped. Not what I'd recommend, but it's what my co-worker did.

Nope, no hitting...that's lowering herself to this girl's level....and I know Abby would get in trouble for that too.
I just can't see even pulling her out early - I think it sends a message to run away from her fears, instead of dealing with them. And lets this girl know that's she's 'won' to a certain extent, y'know?

 

[nibblesandbits]

Nope, no hitting...that's lowering herself to this girl's level....and I know Abby would get in trouble for that too.
I just can't see even pulling her out early - I think it sends a message to run away from her fears, instead of dealing with them. And lets this girl know that's she's 'won' to a certain extent, y'know?

Yeah...I get you on the no hitting thing....and I probably wouldn't hit either...

Like I said before, I agree with Mike. I think that's going to be your best option in this situation...as sucky as it may be.

 

[PotteryGal]

I appreciate the sounding board, guys, thank you.

 

[nibblesandbits]

I appreciate the sounding board, guys, thank you.

:kiss:

Good luck tomorrow. ((Hugs)) Please keep us updated

 

[joanna71985]

Wow Jenny, I'm sorry Abby (and you as well) has to go through all this. Hopefully nothing will happen tomorrow

 

[cdunbar]

I think I'm going to be sick....now this girl has told someone else that she intends to punch Abby tomorrow at 2 o'clock. What am I going to do? I sent an e-mail to the principal making it clear that if she follows thru, we are pressing charges and asked him to call me with a follow-up to what occurs. :hurl::hurl::hurl:

Well like Nibbs said it might send Abby the wrong message but she could just fight back...:shrug:

 

[WDWmazprty]

Morning everyone! :wave:

 

[PotteryGal]

Morning Jon :wave:

 

[joanna71985]

Morning!

 

[PotteryGal]

Abby update:
She forgot to take her lunch to school, so we took it down and while there spoke with the principal face to face. He had already addressed matters with this girl, and while he wasn't allowed to tell us exactly what he said, he did tell us when she left his office, she was trembling. (is it wrong that I hope she had to make a quick stop at the bathroom on the way back to class? ) He also confiscated her cell phone (YES!) and will be looking for anything inappropriate on that. Since she texted Abby from her Yahoo account, I don't think there will be, but there may be messages of her shooting her mouth off about it to others on her cell. And they will be monitoring things very closely - he is not messing around and I appreciate that. And I hope he passed on to her what we said about pressing charges. She may be full of hot air about the whole thing, but we are NOT.

 

[Pongo]

He also confiscated her cell phone (YES!) and will be looking for anything inappropriate on that.

Is that... allowed? I feel like that's a crazy massive invasion of privacy. I mean, I know they're only teenagers, but looking through a person's phone? That's like looking through their mail, to me.

 

[PotteryGal]

Is that... allowed? I feel like that's a crazy massive invasion of privacy. I mean, I know they're only teenagers, but looking through a person's phone? That's like looking through their mail, to me.

If they're threatening physical harm to another person, they need to document that. He would only be looking for anything pertaining to my daughter and her safety. He's not going to be reading just to read, know what I mean?
This girl needs to realize words matter...and that there are consequences for such things.

 

[Pongo]

If they're threatening physical harm to another person, they need to document that. He would only be looking for anything pertaining to my daughter and her safety. He's not going to be reading just to read, know what I mean?
This girl needs to realize words matter...and that there are consequences for such things.

Hmm, yeah, I see the point. I mean, looking through the messages makes sense, but it just seems like it would be more... right if maybe the girl was there with him as he did it.

Maybe I'm giving 13-14 year old girls too many personal rights? :shrug:

 

[PotteryGal]

Hmm, yeah, I see the point. I mean, looking through the messages makes sense, but it just seems like it would be more... right if maybe the girl was there with him as he did it.

Maybe I'm giving 13-14 year old girls too many personal rights? :shrug:

You couldn't trust a thing this girl said with a ten foot pole....and my personal opinion is he wants to make her sweat a little. Her rights have to weighed against the rules that are set forth in that school. She turned her phone into a 'weapon' of sorts by making threats. He will probably return it to her by the end of the day, though, I have every confidence he will do the right thing.

 

[cdunbar]

Hmm, yeah, I see the point. I mean, looking through the messages makes sense, but it just seems like it would be more... right if maybe the girl was there with him as he did it.

Maybe I'm giving 13-14 year old girls too many personal rights? :shrug:

I see where you're coming from Luke I do, but seeing as my niece experienced Abby's exact situation except for the fact that she was actually beaten by the girl and is in high school, I tend to agree with what the principle is doing. I mean you're only about a year younger than me but when we were in high school, midddle school kids were mean but they didn't have cyber bulling like they do now. I mean I for one am glad that this principle stepped up to bat, in my niece's situation the principle was very non-schilient about the whole thing; O fights happen it's just part of having so many raging hormones in one place, sorry but I call faul on that! :shrug: