Hi all, I'm a longtime reader and these forums have brought me a lot of magic in between my Disney visits. I'm hoping the nice folks on this site can give me some advice. I am 1 month away from my next Disney vacation. My husband and I have visited Disney World with our children several times in the past but this will be the first trip we take with extended family. Unfortunately, my family had a big blowout last week and my mother, brother and I are not on speaking terms. We have made reservations and fastpasses together and now I am worried about how to handle our upcoming trip. I honestly don't see a resolution to the conflict prior to our vacation. Has anyone experienced anything similar and how did you handle it? My greatest fear is that my happy place will become a place of sorrow because of the conflict. Thank you for your help.
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Family Argument Prior to Disney
- Thread starter maria_wdw2012
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CaptainAmerica
Premium Member
Cancel any dining reservations you have together. There's not much you can do about the FastPasses, but the odds that you run into each other consistently in a one hour window are pretty slim.
HwdStudio
Well-Known Member
This! I hate to hear this happened @maria_wdw2012 but try not to let it damper your trip. It has to be a huge let down for you. I am hopeful that the conflict will be resolved but even if not go and have a blast!
Thanks for the replies. It is a huge let down. We've been planning this trip for a year and I was so excited to bring the rest of my family to Disney World. It will be their first visit.
GlassHalfFull
Well-Known Member
even if the issue is or is not fixed before the trip.. it is best for everyone to have some time on their own to make their own decisions in a time where space may/should be given. I would agree with cancelling most if not all the big family meal reservations.
You could also ask when you get there to sit separately if it is to a place like Be Our Guest where ADR's are nearly impossible to rebook
You could also ask when you get there to sit separately if it is to a place like Be Our Guest where ADR's are nearly impossible to rebook
jloucks
Well-Known Member
That stinks. Similar thing happened to us many moons ago and the offended parties just didn't go on the trip.
So, if nobody is in a snit big enough to just stay home, that's a good start. Just separate dinner plans and sorta go it desperately. I'd book a different flight too. Maybe even swap out hotels. Odds of you running into each other are pretty slim.
We are not sharing rooms but staying at the same hotel in the preferred section of POP. We could request a different building but we paid for preferred rooms.
note2001
Well-Known Member
That should work out - Pop is pretty big. My bet is you'll see each other on occasion, but only enough to say "Hey! How's Disney?" before moving on. Who knows, little encounters could help to mend a bruised relationship.
NeedMoreMickey
Well-Known Member
Does each family have their own reservations, paying their own way? You don't want to get stuck with a big balance due if all the room reservations are in your name.
Yes, each family has their own reservations. And thankfully we are arriving and departing Disney at different times.
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Thank you everyone for the words of encouragement. Disney World really holds a special place in my heart for my children, husband, and I. I too complain about the price increases and wait times, etc. but it is still the one place I can escape from the troubles of my life back home. And now I feel that those troubles are following me there. Maybe it is selfish of me but I don't want for this argument (not Disney related) with my extended family to ruin that for me and my children. We've built up years and years of beautiful memories there.
BoarderPhreak
Well-Known Member
Hopefully of course, this will blow over before your trip - but considering the details you've provided... Cancel the ADRs, see if you can change your FPs or just leave them - one hour is indeed a big window. Request a room further away if possible. Otherwise, just go and have a great time!
EricsBiscuit
Well-Known Member
I'm no therapist and know nothing about the situation but family is one of the most important things in life. I know the feeling of hating family members and having big arguments and such but in the end it is all solvable, even if the answer isn't obvious. Remember that WDW is a place where you're supposed to forget your problems.
DisneyFreak
Well-Known Member
Don't let family ruin your trip. Take the advice of others...cancel the dinning reservations and enjoy yourselves.
We had a family blow up during a trip (my in-laws). We were all staying in a 3 bedroom condo. My wife and I checked out and found a resort for the last few nights. Best part of the trip!!
We had a family blow up during a trip (my in-laws). We were all staying in a 3 bedroom condo. My wife and I checked out and found a resort for the last few nights. Best part of the trip!!
wannabeBelle
Well-Known Member
Call TODAY and request to specifically NOT having rooms that have doors open into each other's rooms, as they may have booked it with rooms that are requested to be connecting or adjoining. I agree with everyone else, go and have fun with your family. Modify your dining reservations if possible, to have your family do their own thing. FP's should not be an issue. I feel for you and I hope that everything ends well for you!! Best wishes!! Marie
networkpro
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Children are not the only ones that have meltdowns in the parks, we see them every trip (but mostly in The Magic Kingdom). I'd sunder the MDE party association with them, so that they will have thier own agendas.
KCheatle
Well-Known Member
Having no idea of the circumstances of the situation, I feel a bit ignorant in saying this, but I am a big advocate for communication, communication, communication in situations like this. Even if you at 100% sure you are not in the wrong, it is still beneficial to communicate so you can understand their perspective and they can understand yours. I firmly believe that people take actions that they believe to be logical, so I bet there is information that both sides are missing and communication is likely the key to repairing the relationship.
I got into a pretty serious family confrontation a few years ago. At the time, I almost got up and just walked away because it seemed like the easier thing to do. Unfortunately, my nature is to conclude I just don't need that person anymore in my life. However, thankfully, I quickly realized that that person was not someone I could just right-off, and so I forced myself to confront my family member and the situation directly, but with love. In the end, feelings were hurt and words were said that couldn't be erased during the confrontation, but talking it through allowed me an opportunity to hear their perspective, and they go to hear mine. We realized there was a lot of information that was missing, and we began to heal as a family. It's been a few years, and we are now better than ever.
I got into a pretty serious family confrontation a few years ago. At the time, I almost got up and just walked away because it seemed like the easier thing to do. Unfortunately, my nature is to conclude I just don't need that person anymore in my life. However, thankfully, I quickly realized that that person was not someone I could just right-off, and so I forced myself to confront my family member and the situation directly, but with love. In the end, feelings were hurt and words were said that couldn't be erased during the confrontation, but talking it through allowed me an opportunity to hear their perspective, and they go to hear mine. We realized there was a lot of information that was missing, and we began to heal as a family. It's been a few years, and we are now better than ever.