Family Argument Prior to Disney

[ninjaprincesst]

Just my opinion but as hard to come by as some of the Fastpasses and ADR's are I would not cancel anything. i have been the person up at 5am getting ADRs and fastpasses and some of them if you cancel you are pretty much out of luck getting anymore.

 

[Sirwalterraleigh]

Doesn’t seem like an easy or fun situation anyway you approach it...also a reason why I don’t like travel with other parties.

 

[wannabeBelle]

I am going to disagree sort of with some of the later posts. Family matters are always complex and should be resolved one way or the other. I just don't think Disney is the place to be doing that. Have your vacation in your happy place with the people you love. Deal with the family issues before you go or after you return. No need to have that kind of dynamic on your vacation!! Marie

 

[Sirwalterraleigh]

I am going to disagree sort of with some of the later posts. Family matters are always complex and should be resolved one way or the other. I just don't think Disney is the place to be doing that. Have your vacation in your happy place with the people you love. Deal with the family issues before you go or after you return. No need to have that kind of dynamic on your vacation!! Marie

The OP seems to indicate that your solution is not feasible/is an oversimplification

 

[wannabeBelle]

In a later posting the OP indicated that it might be possible to go without the one person in the family who is causing the disruption. I hope that is the case. Marie

 

[Wendy Pleakley]

Just because it's family, doesn't mean you *must* fix the relationship or do so within a specific time-frame.

If you can resolve the issues and make the trip happen, great, but don't try and force it or rug sweep. You are right when you said this would not be a good idea.

Lots of options, from sticking to yourselves completely or minimizing family interactions while there.

As has been pointed out, and as you have said, Disney World is not actually a magical place where everyone is happy and family issues will suddenly be resolved. It's a place that can be hot, crowded, stressful, etc. You can make the trip work for whatever the family dynamics are like when you go, but base your trip on where things stand, as opposed to assuming it "will all work out".

 

[maria_wdw2012]

So update...I haven't seen or heard a word from the offending party. I'm just going to send a text to see if they're still going. I'm about a week and a half out from our trip and super stressed about the whole thing. Wish me luck!

 

[wannabeBelle]

Best of luck that all goes well and you have a wonderful time!!! Marie

 

[ninjaprincesst]

So update...I haven't seen or heard a word from the offending party. I'm just going to send a text to see if they're still going. I'm about a week and a half out from our trip and super stressed about the whole thing. Wish me luck!

Good Luck, and have a great tri, no matter what the family does, don't let them ruin Disney for you, use your fastpasses and dining reservations and don't worry about what they decide to do.

 

[JusticeDisney]

You should start and end this situation by realizing that life is too short and family is what really matters most in the end. I don’t care who is wrong and who is right, you should all just get together and not leave until you have made up. Not speaking to loved ones, if even only for one day, will be the biggest regret of your life at some point.

 

[KBLovedDisney]

I don't know your situation, but even though family is very important and this is only a vacation...tread very very carefully. I speak from my own personal childhood experience that Disney vacations were the only place my family got along.

Yes, I said that and mean it. Before and after vacations, no communication and fights. During vacation, "Oh, we were happy-go-lucky people" or so that is what my family tried to portray while in the parks. Whenever we got back to the hotel room, my parents would fight/leave, more so leave and us kids would have to stay put in the hotel room by ourselves.

Yes, life is short, but if one blow-out is all you guys had, I would talk. Get it out, a.k.a communicate! However, if there are problems stacking up that have been stacking up for years and talking hasn't been the solution and nothing has changed for the positive, well, life is too short.

I say all of this because I had to make a very hard but long coming decision with my own family and had to cut ties and go No Contact, but that is the ultimate extreme move to make. From what your first post sounds like, I think something just got lost in translation and things need to be talked out. But again, I don't know your personal situation.

I just know this, at the end of the day, you gotta look after you.

 

[Chef Mickey]

Get over it or cancel the whole trip. Why spend money going with people you don't want to speak to?

I'm quite sure it's petty if you're "not on speaking terms." LOL, what does that even mean?

 

[note2001]

Best wishes for a good trip! Don't worry about what others outside of your immediate family (spouse and kids) want or expect of you -- this trip is your down time. Take lots of pics and videos of the kids - share them - cherish them. If other parties decide to stalk you to pi$$ on your parade, they can book themselves an early flight home.

@FlamingMonkey Good luck with your wedding planning. I remember having fun with it all: 90% fun, 10% agony.

 

[EngineerMom]

Everyone keeps saying things like family is important and you HAVE to resolve it.
I hope you do and that is ideal but not always practical.

We had a family fight 7 years ago that involved 4 people. Us 4 got over it but another family member who was there just can’t especially with me. (nothing earth shattering in terms of the fight) I continued for years to try and resolve thing with this family member but they refused and continue to be CRUEL (no other words for it). We’re talking I ask them to pass something at dinner and they yell at me about being a self centered jerk. Finally my mom said you need to stop seeing them and live your life.
I will add the way they act to me also changed after they met their wife so we feel there is a bit of her influencing him.

In terms of Disney I would go
I would cancel nothing
I would make sure they have the Disney app and tell them to go ahead and change their fastpass if they like. If you call the Disney Experience folks hey can help you if you need things delinked, etc.
Then if I wanted I would try and modify my fastpass, easier if the group is smaller

We just went with friends we love and ther were no issues but there were times especially later in the week when they and we wanted to do different things. No issue then we’d meet back up! Nothing wrong with doing your own thing!