I'd welcome you, or anyone else, to provide some examples of how civil rights in the U.S. are being routinely denied to LGBT people.
This was mind-blowing to read.
The answer has thankfully changed throughout my lifetime, but is not complete, and now people are actively fighting to rescind or devalue the gains we’ve made.
The Stonewall riots were in 1969. I was born in 1971. I realized I was gay in 1983. I didn’t act on that or tell anyone until 1995.
At that time, I could be denied housing without recourse. Back then as well as today, I could be fired with no recourse.
When friends adopted a baby girl, they had to temporarily set up residence in California for it to be legal. (They lived in NY at the time.)
There are over 1,000 rights and responsibilities associated with marriage.
In 3 months and 1 day, we’ll be celebrating our 15 year wedding anniversary on our first Disney (or any) cruise. That seems straightforward enough.
But at the time in our relationship when we were ready to marry, the only place to do it legally was Massachusetts - and you had to live there.
We went ahead and planned our wedding, anyway - in NJ. (We lived in FL but my family were in NJ and some don’t travel. My mother is in her 70’s and has never been on a plane.)
While we planned it, NJ passed Civil
Unions, the “separate but equal” cousin of the colored drinking fountain. Our license was #0001.
Apparently, we could have been denied a venue, a baker, and a florist - but once we found the venue, the rest fell into place. Obviously we couldn’t get married in our family church where I had been an altar boy, but a Unitarian Reverend performed the ceremony.
That wasn’t recognized where we lived in FL, so we also had to get a Broward County Domestic Partnership, which didn’t do much at all as far as legal protections went. I still couldn’t be added to my spouse’s health insurance, for example.
The following summer, marriage became legal in California, and you didn’t have to live there. We flew out and got the piece of paper. We now had a collection of 3 versions of marriage, most of which had no practical effect.
A couple of years later, as other states worked things out, we flew to Boston and then drove to NJ for Thanksgiving with the family. As we drove, I thought, “In this state, we’re married, in the next, we’re civil “unioned,” in another, nothing, etc. I morbidly joked if we had a car accident, it would be best to happen in MA or NY for legal reasons.
Years later, we joined the Key West-based lawsuit against the State of FL. We were ultimately strategically removed from the case before it went to trial because we were not similarly situated with the original couple. (They had never been married; we would be technically seeking FL recognition of our CA marriage, which is a different legal standard.)
As of a few weeks ago, if we adopted or had a baby via surrogacy, they couldn’t talk about us when we sent them to the school our property taxes support. That’s a new one. We expect more attempts, such as allowing certain entities to ignore our legal marriage.
What rights are you denied?