IMO, even the experts need to watch when they are leaning into "wishful thinking." While messaging could be better, certainly about masks, I don't think it would have the behavioral impact toward gatherings that they think it will.
We all know drunk driving is bad, how many laws and how many public service campaigns and yet surveys regarding drunk driving indicate that over 20% people admit to driving drunk once or twice in the previous 30 days and over 50% believe they are capable of driving safely after drinking. 24% of men admit to driving while blackout drunk. (
https://americanaddictioncenters.org/learn/drunk-driving-statistics-in-america/).
IMO, even without the politicization, COVID behavior is mirroring drunk driving behavior. In both cases people tell themselves they know best, they aren't really that drunk, they aren't driving that far, they didn't have another way to get home, and all the other excuses for why they are safe while other people might not be. But we don't say, "We should have a relief valve, the restrictions for drunk driving are too strict." We don't say, "Most people who drive drunk don't end up in accidents, so we shouldn't have restrictions." No, we tell people, "when you drive drunk you endanger other people," end of story. And we also don't tell people, "If you are worried about drunk drivers, you need to stay off the road not them." Since some people love to insist that it's the people who are fearful who need to stay home, while others are unknowingly free to spread COVID.