working out for Disney

[Sans Souci]

Hello-

Today was a stretch/flexibility workout, followed by a walk in my neighborhood. I made banana bread baked oatmeal this AM and I took it out of the oven to cool down while I walked. I wanted to cut it up and freeze it for individual breakfast servings. I came back from my walk and a lot was missing. I asked my husband if he ate some. He said, "Yes. What was that? Was it meant to be cake? It was weird." I said that it wasn't cake that it was baked oatmeal. I guess if you're expecting cake and you ate baked oatmeal, you might think it was weird. I had some and I thought it was tasty, but I wasn't expecting cake.

Other than that, there's nothing going on.

 

[Figgy1]

Guess what I won't be doing for a while @Mr Ferret 88

 

[Songbird76]

I am glad you shared your experiences about your mom. So many people yell at me when I say I am in very low contact with my mother. They say things like, "That's the only mom you'll ever have." or "I know she hurt you, but that's your mom, how can you be like that towards her?" I just change the subject. I don't have to justify my life choices to people who refuse to understand what my mom did to me growing up.

At the back end of May, we had to remove my grandmother from my mother's care. My brother had to fly up to Chicago and bring her back down to Florida, where he lives. His house is one level, mine is four. She is in a wheelchair. My mother was abusing my grandmother. The plan was to bring her to FL and get her into a home. At that time, Chicago and its suburbs were a hot spot and now she is at my brother's, but she understandably doesn't want to go to a home in FL right now. My brother said my mom is always calling my grandmother telling her to come back. The only person who really talks to my mom is my husband and he's cut back on how much he talks to her.

My son is majoring in Computer Science. I am really hoping they do online instruction for the Fall term. I know people are saying this just like a regular flu season, it's not deadly to young people, blah, blah, blah. They can do what they feel is right for their children. I don't feel safe having my son live in a dorm in the middle of pandemic.

Oh, I've heard those same things...mostly about my dad because when I was a teenager I would break out into a rash every time I saw my dad. I'd just get so stressed out. I finally did manage to get past those issues, but a lot of those were because my mom was always saying bad things about my dad, and my brother hated him, and I always felt uncomfortable like I was being disloyal to my mom and brother if I loved my dad. And he could be very very hurtful, but our relationship improved when I got older, whereas my relationship with my mom got progressively worse because as I tried to become independent, she tried to keep control. Some people are just too toxic and you have to keep your distance. People who question your feelings have probably never experienced that. I had two toxic parents in different ways and I was able to get past it with my dad, but my mother never improved. But other people weren't living what I was living...if you've never had a parent tell you you're stupid, or call your boss behind your back because they didn't like the way you handled something at work as an adult, you can't judge. I'm sorry your mom is the way she is...and I'm so sorry your grandmother was being abused. She's not going to go back, is she?

 

[Songbird76]

Yeah, even their faces are aggressive looking. I see a lot of those cicada killer wasps around here. I read they are docile compared to regular wasps, but they fly so low, I am scared I am going to walk into one and it will sting. But my goodness, those things are huge. They are the size of my entire thumb.

I have a friend, who I swear is half-nuts. He took a can of hair spray and lighter and made this homemade flame thrower to obliterate a wasp nest. There's too many things that can go wrong in that scenario.

My husband's aunt and uncle lost a shed that way. The neighbor was trying to get rid of wasps and used something aresol and a lighter. Burned his own house down and it spread to the next house over, which was where DH's aunt and uncle lived. Minimal damage to their house at least.

 

[Songbird76]

Guess what I won't be doing for a while View attachment 485363

Leaping over tall buildings?

 

[Figgy1]

Leaping over tall buildings?

Something far more dangerous, getting the mail At least the purple now matches my new shorts

 

[Sans Souci]

Guess what I won't be doing for a while View attachment 485363

Yikes! I hope it heals quickly.

 

[Sans Souci]

Oh, I've heard those same things...mostly about my dad because when I was a teenager I would break out into a rash every time I saw my dad. I'd just get so stressed out. I finally did manage to get past those issues, but a lot of those were because my mom was always saying bad things about my dad, and my brother hated him, and I always felt uncomfortable like I was being disloyal to my mom and brother if I loved my dad. And he could be very very hurtful, but our relationship improved when I got older, whereas my relationship with my mom got progressively worse because as I tried to become independent, she tried to keep control. Some people are just too toxic and you have to keep your distance. People who question your feelings have probably never experienced that. I had two toxic parents in different ways and I was able to get past it with my dad, but my mother never improved. But other people weren't living what I was living...if you've never had a parent tell you you're stupid, or call your boss behind your back because they didn't like the way you handled something at work as an adult, you can't judge. I'm sorry your mom is the way she is...and I'm so sorry your grandmother was being abused. She's not going to go back, is she?

She wants to go back! I paid dearly for a one way ticket to FL bought at the last minute. I told her I will not be paying for her return fare and my brother told her if she is going back, he is bringing her to the airport and she will be flying on her own. I am not paying for her to go back into an abusive situation. The pair of them have such a toxic relationship. My mother is thinking of moving to FL. I hope she doesn't.

I remember about this time last year, my mom and grandmother were visiting and I saw the way my mom was treating my grandma. I was venting about here and some who NEVER posts in this thread came in here to lecture me about caregiver stress and that's why my mom was acting out. No, this goes back much longer than that. They have always had this co-dependent, toxic relationship. My grandmother enabled my mom's behavior since I've been alive. Then people were shocked when I met a man from the UK and went to live with him over there.

 

[Songbird76]

She wants to go back! I paid dearly for a one way ticket to FL bought at the last minute. I told her I will not be paying for her return fare and my brother told her if she is going back, he is bringing her to the airport and she will be flying on her own. I am not paying for her to go back into an abusive situation. The pair of them have such a toxic relationship. My mother is thinking of moving to FL. I hope she doesn't.

I remember about this time last year, my mom and grandmother were visiting and I saw the way my mom was treating my grandma. I was venting about here and some who NEVER posts in this thread came in here to lecture me about caregiver stress and that's why my mom was acting out. No, this goes back much longer than that. They have always had this co-dependent, toxic relationship. My grandmother enabled my mom's behavior since I've been alive. Then people were shocked when I met a man from the UK and went to live with him over there.

I remember you posting about how your mom treated your grandmother while they were visiting. I'm so surprised she wants to go back to that! Good for you and your brother standing your ground. I can't say I blame your mom for wanting to move to Florida. A lot of retirees do....it's warm there, lots of things to do and see, and I'd love to be close to Disney. But somehow, I don't think those are her motivations from the sound of it. How long has she lived in Chicago?

 

[Sans Souci]

I remember you posting about how your mom treated your grandmother while they were visiting. I'm so surprised she wants to go back to that! Good for you and your brother standing your ground. I can't say I blame your mom for wanting to move to Florida. A lot of retirees do....it's warm there, lots of things to do and see, and I'd love to be close to Disney. But somehow, I don't think those are her motivations from the sound of it. How long has she lived in Chicago?

She was born and raised there. We know we can't stop her from moving to FL, but we don't want her around my grandmother. My brother certainly doesn't want her in his house. I think we're reaching a point where we need to contact adult protective services. We didn't want to get them involved, because we didn't want them putting my grandmother in a home in the midst of a covid 19 outbreak.

 

[Sans Souci]

Good morning-

Checking in with day 22/30 days of barre. Depending on how my hip feels, I might do something with a bit more octane when I finish this program.

Yesterday VA was put on the 2 week self-quarantine list. But we're going to wait and see, since we've got two months before our trip. The list includes 31 states now.

I went for an early walk, since it's supposed to be 97 today. At 7:30 AM, it was a total steam bath.

 

[Songbird76]

She was born and raised there. We know we can't stop her from moving to FL, but we don't want her around my grandmother. My brother certainly doesn't want her in his house. I think we're reaching a point where we need to contact adult protective services. We didn't want to get them involved, because we didn't want them putting my grandmother in a home in the midst of a covid 19 outbreak.

That's so sad. Do you know what the laws are there? When friends told me that my dad was exhibiting signs of dementia (inappropriate clothing, for example...he'd go out in a snow storm in nothing but long underwear, answer the door in the nude...scared the census taker away with that one.) I called protective services to see if there was a possibility of forcing him to move into at least an independent living facility where he'd be on his own, but someone would be able to check on him and he'd have access to medical care. Unless he was declared incompetent, which they told me is hard to do, I couldn't do anything. He had the right to live where he wanted, even if it was unhealthy. I hope it's easier in Florida!

 

[Figgy1]

Yikes! I hope it heals quickly.

Thnx I'm being good and using my crutches and wearing a boot

 

[MinnieM123]

Thnx I'm being good and using my crutches and wearing a boot

Crutches? Boot? I thought this might be just a sprain -- did you break it?!

 

[Figgy1]

Crutches? Boot? I thought this might be just a sprain -- did you break it?!

It's one of those sprains where you wish it was broken. I went to the farm market and pointed to what I wanted. If James wants to keep eating he has to do a little extra help like playing pack animal

 

[HouCuseChickie]

Happy Friday!

We just got back into town this afternoon. We avoided the hotel gyms while we were away, but got in a lot of walking, some hiking and swimming during the 8 or so days. I still ate way too much for the amount of moving around we were (or weren't doing), so I'll have to try and get back to normal soon.

I'm hoping to get a little trip report going in the next few days. I don't think any of us loved this getaway, but it was still nice to get out of town for a bit and see some new things. We did have our struggles at times trying to keep things safer and even went as far as checking out of one area a day earlier because nobody (tourists or businesses) were acting like there were any concerns out there. We opted to add an extra day in New Orleans to make up for it. It's hardly anything close to a normal NOLA experience right now, but the city and businesses were doing a top notch job and it's probably the safest we felt all trip.

Also came home to news that the county is going to force our district into changing their school reopening plans. We were supposed to start in person on Aug 11th unless you decided back in June for all virtual. Now we're all virtual until at least Sept. 8th.

 

[Songbird76]

Happy Friday!

We just got back into town this afternoon. We avoided the hotel gyms while we were away, but got in a lot of walking, some hiking and swimming during the 8 or so days. I still ate way too much for the amount of moving around we were (or weren't doing), so I'll have to try and get back to normal soon.

I'm hoping to get a little trip report going in the next few days. I don't think any of us loved this getaway, but it was still nice to get out of town for a bit and see some new things. We did have our struggles at times trying to keep things safer and even went as far as checking out of one area a day earlier because nobody (tourists or businesses) were acting like there were any concerns out there. We opted to add an extra day in New Orleans to make up for it. It's hardly anything close to a normal NOLA experience right now, but the city and businesses were doing a top notch job and it's probably the safest we felt all trip.

Also came home to news that the county is going to force our district into changing their school reopening plans. We were supposed to start in person on Aug 11th unless you decided back in June for all virtual. Now we're all virtual until at least Sept. 8th.

Welcome back! I'm sorry it wasn't all you hoped it would be....it rather cements for me our decision that we aren't going to do a vacation right now. I just don't think we'd get to completely enjoy it or feel safe, and if we're going to spend the amount of money that a vacation takes, we want it to be worth it.

Our cases are rising exponentially again, and I guess it's Europe-wide. Austria is instating a mask mandate for public spaces starting I think today, and Germany is rolling back on their openings as well. They mentioned France and Spain, too, and I saw the Prime Minister of the UK saying something about it, but I don't remember what. The Dutch CDC had not previously endorsed mask wearing because they said it was a false sense of safety, but now they did some study that found that wearing a mask is a reminder to distance, and those wearing them are better about staying 6 feet away, so now they are considering a recommendation. I don't think they have been thinking about masks as a prevention of spreading it, only of catching it, which I guess is not what the masks are for. Our politicians are asking for a mandate, though, so I'm buying masks so we have some. I'm betting we're going to need them shortly and I don't want to be trying to get them when everyone else is looking at the same time, or need to go buy some, but need to wear a mask to go in the store to buy them. So that's my project today.

My hip is complaining today. It was busy at work last night and there was a group of young pups who weren't doing their share (they got in big trouble) and I had to walk pretty quickly for an extended period of time, which my hip does not like! I'm riding my bike to the Centrum to get the masks, but the rest of the weekend I'm going to take it easy.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

Welcome back! I'm sorry it wasn't all you hoped it would be....it rather cements for me our decision that we aren't going to do a vacation right now. I just don't think we'd get to completely enjoy it or feel safe, and if we're going to spend the amount of money that a vacation takes, we want it to be worth it.

Our cases are rising exponentially again, and I guess it's Europe-wide. Austria is instating a mask mandate for public spaces starting I think today, and Germany is rolling back on their openings as well. They mentioned France and Spain, too, and I saw the Prime Minister of the UK saying something about it, but I don't remember what. The Dutch CDC had not previously endorsed mask wearing because they said it was a false sense of safety, but now they did some study that found that wearing a mask is a reminder to distance, and those wearing them are better about staying 6 feet away, so now they are considering a recommendation. I don't think they have been thinking about masks as a prevention of spreading it, only of catching it, which I guess is not what the masks are for. Our politicians are asking for a mandate, though, so I'm buying masks so we have some. I'm betting we're going to need them shortly and I don't want to be trying to get them when everyone else is looking at the same time, or need to go buy some, but need to wear a mask to go in the store to buy them. So that's my project today.

My hip is complaining today. It was busy at work last night and there was a group of young pups who weren't doing their share (they got in big trouble) and I had to walk pretty quickly for an extended period of time, which my hip does not like! I'm riding my bike to the Centrum to get the masks, but the rest of the weekend I'm going to take it easy.

I'm happy we got away, but it's a lot of work traveling right now. This was our "plan E" vacation, so I didn't think it was going to be spectacular, but it's always tough when the part you anticipate the most is the biggest disappointment.

I have a cousin in the Netherlands...around my parents' ages...and she's still choosing to lock down due to cases rising in Europe. Masks have become very political in some parts here. We encountered a bit of that in our travels and our desire to wear them and distance as well. Ever since one of my bosses told us about his brother being the lone mask wearer to come out healthy from what turned out to be a super spreader business meeting, I've been on top of us wearing them. We've been wearing them since early April, but that sort of sealed it for me. Still, I think back on a friend's post several months back about how we all have different feelings on things and to just be kind and respectful. I have gotten used to wearing masks inside and don't mind it, but outside is another story...especially if we're moving around a lot. We have a number of multi layer ones with filter pockets and nose wires that are my favorite. Commercial made masks sold out here well before we had any confirmed local cases, so probably good to have them handy if you can get them.

I'm sorry about your hip. Hopefully it gets better and you're able to get some rest.

 

[Sans Souci]

Happy Friday!

We just got back into town this afternoon. We avoided the hotel gyms while we were away, but got in a lot of walking, some hiking and swimming during the 8 or so days. I still ate way too much for the amount of moving around we were (or weren't doing), so I'll have to try and get back to normal soon.

I'm hoping to get a little trip report going in the next few days. I don't think any of us loved this getaway, but it was still nice to get out of town for a bit and see some new things. We did have our struggles at times trying to keep things safer and even went as far as checking out of one area a day earlier because nobody (tourists or businesses) were acting like there were any concerns out there. We opted to add an extra day in New Orleans to make up for it. It's hardly anything close to a normal NOLA experience right now, but the city and businesses were doing a top notch job and it's probably the safest we felt all trip.

Also came home to news that the county is going to force our district into changing their school reopening plans. We were supposed to start in person on Aug 11th unless you decided back in June for all virtual. Now we're all virtual until at least Sept. 8th.

I'm glad you were able to salvage your road trip in NOLA. I totally get wanting to travel. I feel kind of trapped right now. That's good that NOLA is taking steps to make it safer to visit. It's such a weird time to travel. I am hoping to travel in Sept. But I don't know what to expect anymore.

 

[Sans Souci]

Good morning. ☀

I am in the home stretch for this 30 day barre program. I will finish it on Thursday. I kind of dread the workouts, but I am in too deep to quit. (I don't think barre is for me.) Plus, I get a "badge" for completing the program. I am going out for a walk with my husband in a bit.

My son got his residence hall assignment, so I guess the school is going all in. I've been monitoring the school's website and there is no word on how they are going to minimize the risk of infection when the term begins. We're less than a month away from when he has to move in and I'd like to see a concrete plan.

I'm just kind of burned out on this whole virus thing. I am tired of disinfecting groceries before I bring them into the house. I am tired of these masks. I feel trapped. I have so much frustration about this entire situation.