Trust me, I was sick as a dog. I'm talking horror movie type sick. If I was able and well enough to leave my house and meet up with my union leader, I would have. I called him in the afternoon apologizing for not showing up, and he had yet to call me back. He told me not to deal with anyone else but him personally so again I understand he's real busy as he is also a manager as well as a union leader, but if my calls are not being returned, what can you do?
If you had called him between trips to the bathroom before the meeting time, he would have been more understanding. Especially since this is the second important (to your future) meeting you had missed in a short period of time. Whether or not missing them was your fault - you have set a pattern of missing meetings. Add that to bad judgement, and apparently a complaint from a co-worker, and most companies will consider themselves well rid of you.
I wouldn't consider it a threat, just more of an option I'm considering. I am not going to shame the company, just would like for my story to be heard as I am disabled and I would at least like an unrestricted rehire or a backstage role in the least, if not my job back.
The ADA does not necessarily protect you from inappropriate behavior or bad judgement, even if it's caused by your disability.
Messed up? I refused to talk an attractions cast member whom I was trying to ask directions for, after hours, backstage, when I was allowed to be backstage so that's a crime? On top of me being autisitic and scared of his attitude?
But you didn't ask him for directions - you made a "cute" comment. You were allowed to be backstage, but not in his area. You compounded the error by running away. How is an employer to know that you will not do something equally inappropriate in the future, in an area where it will have an impact on guests?
Your reaction here, if they really are reading, has done nothing to make them reverse their decision, and may have proven their point that you can't be trusted to behave appropriately.
I suggest you chalk this one up to experience and try to do better in the future with a different employer.
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