Honestly, other than the not following expectations, the crying kid sounds like my son. He has always been a rule follower, so that was never an issue with him. But when he felt something was unfair, or when he didn't understand what was expected of him, he'd cry. I warned his new teacher every year, and every year they told me it would be fine, not to worry, they could handle it. And every year, after about a month, the teacher would talk to me about how he cried a lot. I kept asking for help and no one would believe there was an issue because he was doing so well with the school work. He could read before they start learning to read, he could do sums in the thousands when he was five. There CAN'T be anything going on with him, because he wouldn't be doing so well if there were.....he just needs to learn not to react to bullying, etc. And then he was 9 and he was diagnosed with autism, and I kept thinking....you couldn't have listened to me YEARS ago when I ASKED? He could have been diagnosed back then and gotten help. -I- could have gotten help. Now I see a kid who cries easily and think "Oh those poor people....that's not a fun way to live."
Does this kid have an IEP as well?