You got some good answers so far, so I will give you some bullet points.
7 courses - a choice of three items for each course (typically)
If you don not like, or cannot eat, a certain kind of food tell them WELL AHEAD OF TIME.
My ex-wife hated fish. They created a different menu for her, where the fish course was replaced with a second poultry course. In fact, one of the offerings she had came topped with Cavair (Warm Celery Cream - the was the Amouse Bouche course) She would have just taken it off, but our "Victoria" noticed it and took it back to the kitchen. She also took mine back so my ex-wife and I could eat at the same time and they would both be the right termperature. To pass the time while waiting they poured me an extra glass of wine
(making a total of 7 by the time the night was done). All was done without any comments or complaints from me. They just did it = service.
I would bring a straw if your teeth are that sensitive.
Soda - not with some of the offerings that you can have. Overcarbonation and massive amounts of sugar sort of dull the tasts. I would stick to water if you dont want wine.
It's not stuffy or formal. Its very friendly. They are very accomidating and friendly. It's almost casual in a formal sort of way, if that makes sense. Nobody is going roll their eyes if you use the wrong fork or lay your spoon on the bread plate.
Jacket is required - but do yourself a favor and throw on a tie. If you say a tie is too constricting, you cant breathe, it chokes you, etc then buy a shirt with a bigger collar - really
Remember you are going there to TASTE the food, not to fill your stomach. I enjoy scarfing a plate of nachos too, but this is not that kind of eating. Take your time to taste the food, savor it, think about it as you are eating it and eat slowly. It's an event, not a race.
It's a very nice place, with some very good food, and is nothing at all to be "Scared" of. They are very friendly and inviting (it is Disney after all
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If you search around these forums, I did post the menu I had somewhere on here.
-dave
Edit: I did the searching for 'ya
Here are the selections we chose, (I have the choices somewhere, but not handy on line), so you can get an idea of what you may be presented with. (and that Veal Cheek - I still talk about it ) The wines I had are also listed.
Notice how in the fish couse (#3) my ex had poultry. Because she does not like fish, she was given different offering when fish would normaly be on the menu.
And really, look at the menu, what sub-10 year old is going to appreciate whats on it?
Amuse Bouche - Warm celery cream with basil olive oil. Mine was topped with smoked salmon and Iranian Caviar, the fish was left off Kerri's. Paired with Codorniu Cava Brut, Penedes NV
Kerri: Smoked Colorado Buffalo with Melted Cabbage Slaw and Grains of Paradise
Me: Blue Lump Crab and Fresh Gulf Shrimp with Petite French Green Lentils - Paired with Trimbach Gewurztraminer, Alsace 2002
Kerri: Serrano Ham and Gruyere Cheese Stuffed Quail with Root Vegetable Flan
Me: Poulet Rouge with Fresh Porcinis and a Truffled Egg paired with Feudi di San Nicola Negro Amaro, Puglia 2003
Kerri: Poulet Rouge with Fresh Porcinis and a Truffled Egg (same thing I had in the previous course)
Me: Atlantic Turbot with Winterpoint Oyster, Salsify, and Spinach Veloute paired with Domaine Maillard Pete et Fils Chorey-Les-Beaune Chardonnay, Burgundy 2004
Kerri: Duet of Australian Kobe Beef
Me: Marcho Farms Veal with Roasted Beet and Veal Cheek "Lasagna" paired with Charles Joguet "Cuvee Terroir" Cabernet Franc, Chinon 2003
Kerri: Rasberry Gelato with Micro Garden Mint
Me: Comte Sainte Antoine, Pierre Robert and English Stilton Cheesecake paired with Ramos Pinto Porto Tawny, Villa Nova de Gaia
Kerri: Hawaiian Kona Chocolate Suffle
Me: Caramelized Banana Gateau
-dave