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Trip Canned
- Thread starter demento57
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It was going to be March 07. It was going to be both a much needed and deserved vacation. And time to spend together before we both move down south and go to different schools.
Talk about over protective parents. My girlfriend and I will have been together 3 years this Tuesday. I'm 21 and she would have been 21 as well when we went (note, neither of us drink, smoke or do any sort of partying. We're the couple that 's 20 going on 60... think Cori and Tapanga). We were going with a group including a cousin of mine (a castmember who's discounts were making this trip more than managable) and mutual friends.
The part that es me off the most (beside the fact that my adult girlfriend has to ask to take a vacation to a family destination with a group of friends) is that her mother approved of everything just 2 weeks ago. So I got my heart set and spent hours upon hours planning stuff. Then out of the blue a couple days ago, my GF brings it up and her mom said it was the first she had heard of it and that she didn't approve. She has many, many BS reasons that are easy to defeat (to the average non-stubborn sensible person).
And no it's not the first time this has happened, he was also able to derail an overnight trip that was a birthday gift last year. We thought that she had gotten better, but apparently not that well. :brick::brick::brick::brick::brick:
Talk about over protective parents. My girlfriend and I will have been together 3 years this Tuesday. I'm 21 and she would have been 21 as well when we went (note, neither of us drink, smoke or do any sort of partying. We're the couple that 's 20 going on 60... think Cori and Tapanga). We were going with a group including a cousin of mine (a castmember who's discounts were making this trip more than managable) and mutual friends.
The part that es me off the most (beside the fact that my adult girlfriend has to ask to take a vacation to a family destination with a group of friends) is that her mother approved of everything just 2 weeks ago. So I got my heart set and spent hours upon hours planning stuff. Then out of the blue a couple days ago, my GF brings it up and her mom said it was the first she had heard of it and that she didn't approve. She has many, many BS reasons that are easy to defeat (to the average non-stubborn sensible person).
And no it's not the first time this has happened, he was also able to derail an overnight trip that was a birthday gift last year. We thought that she had gotten better, but apparently not that well. :brick::brick::brick::brick::brick:
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ConstanceIrene
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I think you brought up a good point. You were on your own. If this girl still lives at home with her parents, she is not on her own.Agreed... i was pretty much on my own by 18... but then if they are paying for the trip they can cancel it... Heh, i was married by 22 and my wife was 21
Knowing the average age of the posters on this site and that many travel together as boyfriends/girlfriends, I can already feel the flames I'm going to get, but here goes. I mentioned this to my husband and he agrees with me that we would not approve of the trip. Now, whether she goes is another story. She'll have to deal with the fact that her parents don't like what she's doing and accept whatever attitude or consequences come with it.
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lawyergirl77
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Question: if she were living on her own, would you approve? (I'm honestly curious - not intended as an attack/flame etc. :wave: )
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ConstanceIrene
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Actually, I wouldn't approve, but I'd have to accept that I have no say in the actions of a self-sufficient adult.
Thanks for noting that you're not flaming me.
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ConstanceIrene
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First, answer Unkadug's questions and I'll get back to you. I don't mean to be rude, but I have a 3:00 matinee today and I have to get to work. Later.
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Craig & Lisa
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Whatever the BS reasons are, and being a parent of 2 boys, ( not that old yet ), the one thing I have said, as long as you live in my house you do what I say. Now as for saying that to someone who is 20 something, that has to be the most ridicules thing I have ever heard of. Tell them to cut the cord and let her go. One question though, do they have something against you?
Tell them to cut the cord and let her go. One question though, do they have something against you?
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Chaperones? What group of 20 somethings would bring chaperones? There was the chance that my family would even being going with us. They still shut that down.
A money arguement can't be used, I offered to pay for everything.
They have no reason to have anything against me or the relationship. We're both really great people that live up to their ideal morals! Heck, I even found a place for her to go to church while we were there.
A money arguement can't be used, I offered to pay for everything.
They have no reason to have anything against me or the relationship. We're both really great people that live up to their ideal morals! Heck, I even found a place for her to go to church while we were there.
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natalia1681
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I'm sorry about your hard work going to waste.
As someone who was in a similar situation to you, I can understand. I was the girl with the overprotective mother. Eventually I had to sit down with her and have a very adult conversation about the fact that I was--an adult, fully capable of making all of my own responsible choices.
Maybe your GF could try to talk with her parents and find out what their concerns are about this. If it's that her mother didn't feel fully informed, perhaps, you could show her the itinerary that you planned, with the names and ages and sleeping arrangements of everyone going on the trip:wave:
If it's that they are going to have to pay for her to go on this trip, you maybe in a bit of a pickle, but it sounds like you are paying your own way, so hopefully it won't be an issue.
Perhaps by talking to her mother, your GF can fully address any concerns she has and help to put her mind at ease. If it's just that your GF's mom is being stubborn about her growing up, she may just have to bite the bullet and either 1. Go without their approval and deal with any consequences or 2. Not go. Hopefully it won't come to that.
Good luck with everything and PM if you have any more questions or need suggestions of how to deal with an over protective mother:wave:
As someone who was in a similar situation to you, I can understand. I was the girl with the overprotective mother. Eventually I had to sit down with her and have a very adult conversation about the fact that I was--an adult, fully capable of making all of my own responsible choices.
Maybe your GF could try to talk with her parents and find out what their concerns are about this. If it's that her mother didn't feel fully informed, perhaps, you could show her the itinerary that you planned, with the names and ages and sleeping arrangements of everyone going on the trip:wave:
If it's that they are going to have to pay for her to go on this trip, you maybe in a bit of a pickle, but it sounds like you are paying your own way, so hopefully it won't be an issue.
Perhaps by talking to her mother, your GF can fully address any concerns she has and help to put her mind at ease. If it's just that your GF's mom is being stubborn about her growing up, she may just have to bite the bullet and either 1. Go without their approval and deal with any consequences or 2. Not go. Hopefully it won't come to that.
Good luck with everything and PM if you have any more questions or need suggestions of how to deal with an over protective mother:wave:
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Disney4Life
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You know, parents are going to be parents. Whether their child is 20 something or 50 something...parents tend to hold true to certain ideals. I think the main issue with your girlfriend's parents may be the idea that their "little girl" is going to be in a hotel room with her boyfriend. I think they could care less about her going to Disney World.
Now, we all know what hotel rooms are mainly used for. I am not saying that you guys have plans to "do it". You could be super great kids that are waiting until marriage, or you could be like bunny rabbits...neither is my concern. The bottom line is, whether their child is on their own, or living at home, I don't think any parent would like it if their unmarried child was off doing things that they shouldn't do until they were married...which once was the norm of our society.
Again, I am not saying you all are doing that, I am just saying what is quite possibly going through your girlfriend's parents minds.
Just my two cents.
Now, we all know what hotel rooms are mainly used for. I am not saying that you guys have plans to "do it". You could be super great kids that are waiting until marriage, or you could be like bunny rabbits...neither is my concern. The bottom line is, whether their child is on their own, or living at home, I don't think any parent would like it if their unmarried child was off doing things that they shouldn't do until they were married...which once was the norm of our society.
Again, I am not saying you all are doing that, I am just saying what is quite possibly going through your girlfriend's parents minds.
Just my two cents.
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ilovepluto23
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If I was her, I'd be saying "Screw you mom, I'm going to WDW!!!"
I really don't get being overprotective when she's freaking 21! Wow! Why are they so strict? And why does she let them run her life?
I really don't get being overprotective when she's freaking 21! Wow! Why are they so strict? And why does she let them run her life?
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