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Trip Canned
- Thread starter demento57
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Not really, at 22 I went to Australia for a month. His girlfriend is an adult, this I don't want my ADULT daughter to behave like adults is stupid, how old do they have to be to be considered an adult by you? As to the gf I would run a looney family like that? Do you really want that!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Tornado
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Wow, i'm 22, my g/f is 21, and we went to DLP together, and her parents had no problem, and i'm positive they're have no problem if we went to WDW together.
I can't get over the fact the people are saying "at 21, there's no way i'd let my daughter go on holiday with a boy!" She's 21, not 12!
I can't get over the fact the people are saying "at 21, there's no way i'd let my daughter go on holiday with a boy!" She's 21, not 12!
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PigletIsMyCat
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Just wanted to throw another two cents in here. About the poster whose friend severed ties with her parents over her choice to go to WDW with her husband.
Some families are horrible. I don't mean odd, I don't mean over-protective, over-involved, or exclusive. I mean horrible. No one here knows the stories behind these few mentioned people who have cut ties with their families. Speaking from experience, it is often better, safer, and healthier to remove yourself from certain parts of your family.
Having said that. Demento57, if your gf is going to live by her mom's rules, she is going to live by them forever. Some parents will not allow their children to cut ties unless they literally get up and move almost 1200 miles away... um, not that I would know.:lookaroun Reasses this relationship and if you all are in it for the long haul, take her dad aside privately and discuss proposing to her at WDW. If you're planning on proposing one day anyway, might as well make it memorable and get a sweet trip out of it!
So many people here are saying that if you live under your parents' roof, you must repsect their wishes. As a twenty-something year old who is pursuing a BA and working as much as she can (or, in Demento57's gf case, as much as your parents will ALLOW YOU), doesn't she deserve any respect? Any trust? Aren't twenty-somethings people do? Don't all people deserve respect and honesty?
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Some families are horrible. I don't mean odd, I don't mean over-protective, over-involved, or exclusive. I mean horrible. No one here knows the stories behind these few mentioned people who have cut ties with their families. Speaking from experience, it is often better, safer, and healthier to remove yourself from certain parts of your family.
Having said that. Demento57, if your gf is going to live by her mom's rules, she is going to live by them forever. Some parents will not allow their children to cut ties unless they literally get up and move almost 1200 miles away... um, not that I would know.:lookaroun Reasses this relationship and if you all are in it for the long haul, take her dad aside privately and discuss proposing to her at WDW. If you're planning on proposing one day anyway, might as well make it memorable and get a sweet trip out of it!
So many people here are saying that if you live under your parents' roof, you must repsect their wishes. As a twenty-something year old who is pursuing a BA and working as much as she can (or, in Demento57's gf case, as much as your parents will ALLOW YOU), doesn't she deserve any respect? Any trust? Aren't twenty-somethings people do? Don't all people deserve respect and honesty?
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cmatt
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i think in the uk (this next bit is NOT meant to be offensive :wave: ) we have different ideals and perceptions - ive been going on holiday since i was 18 by myself, spain, amsterdam, dlrp last year, copious amounts of metal festivals and closer to home newcastle, and london, my mother could really care less as she knows that im reasonably responsible and at the end of the day its my life. Ive lived away from home since I was 18 and because im 'responsible' (apparentlly :lookaroun ) ive felt that although i live at the other end of the country with my partner (childhood sweet hearts
) in our own flat - we are just learning to drive now actually :sohappy: . But i digress... From what i read on here it would suggest that alot of young adults our age mate over there dont seem to have half as much as independence as us. Forget me if im wrong but the educational system over there is totally different so alot of young adults tend to stay at home. Hence why it looks like some (not all - and again no offence to the next bit) seem to have a false sense of ownership, albeit from being over protective (not a bad thing). But if you did that to a 21 year old average middle class female over in the uk - she would just laugh and do it anyway....
What i personally cant comprehend is that parents cant continue to control their children in this manner. Other factors relate also - but i cant seem to get the words out properlly on here. My university essay is confusing me somewhat! and ive just made my coffee with dodgy milk!
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spaceghost
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I've known people and families in situations similar to your GF's. Personally, I feel that its pretty much total rubbish, but to each their own. At age 21, which your GF will be at the time of travel, she will be able to vote, enlist in the military, gamble, and purchase alcohol and cigarettes. And yet, she can't make the decision to go on a vacation with her boyfriend of several years? I just don't get it. Would her parents let her go on a vacation out of town with female friends over spring break or something? I'm sure there's more to the situation and relationship dynamics than any of us could get through this message board, but this just doesn't seem right. But, here's the problem - and I'm sure you know this - its that no matter how little sense this makes to most people, you are not going to be able to change your GF's parents. So, the choice ultimately lies with you and her to figure out what you are going to do with your lives. Your trip to WDW may be the immediate issue, but there's larger problems at hand.
IMHO, at some point in every person's life, they mature to the point where their priorities shift and their parents' approval isn't the most important thing in the world any more. If you've reached that point, but your GF hasn't, maybe there's some long term relationship rethinking that needs to be done. Whether you want to force the issue or let her come to her decisions on her own is up to you, but if she can't or doesn't want to take that step any time soon, a trip to WDW is the least of your worries...
That said, take this for what it is - the blind opinion of someone on the internet who doesn't really know you, your GF, or her family. Please no ledge jumping because some dude on a message board said that you might have problems...
IMHO, at some point in every person's life, they mature to the point where their priorities shift and their parents' approval isn't the most important thing in the world any more. If you've reached that point, but your GF hasn't, maybe there's some long term relationship rethinking that needs to be done. Whether you want to force the issue or let her come to her decisions on her own is up to you, but if she can't or doesn't want to take that step any time soon, a trip to WDW is the least of your worries...
That said, take this for what it is - the blind opinion of someone on the internet who doesn't really know you, your GF, or her family. Please no ledge jumping because some dude on a message board said that you might have problems...
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We've talked, we've decided to wait a couple years until we're done w/ out BAs and she's been out of the house for a couple years. In the mean time we're going to do small trips and save up so we can go all out when we go. Like rather than staying in a value resort, save up and get a deluxe, and it will just be the 2 of us rather than a big group. And if her parents try to stop us from that, then stuff will hit the fan royaly.:fork:
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