Totally embarassed in WDW

[pcarathers]

to the tune of the Mickey Mouse March.......


D-I-V.....O-R-C-E..........C-O-U-R-T!!!!!!!!!!!


Kinda makes me glad, I'm single........but I have too much attitude to have put up with that.......I'd have told him off, told him to catch a plane back home, and NOT be home when I got there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[maggiegrace1]

Wow this doesn't sound like a Disney problem. It sounds like a husband problem. Time to sign up for couples therapy. His degrading comments to you and public divorce threats are completely unacceptable and that needs to be addressed. It sounds like your daughter is still very young...but growing up around a dad like that will completely destroy her self esteem later in life. His issues with putting other people down really need to be addressed ASAP before it affects your little girl, and it sounds like this is your husband's way of coping with his own miserable sense of self worth.

With that aside, there's nothing wrong with going to Disney without your husband. My husband enjoys Disney, but feels no need to go 4 times a year like I do, so half the time I go without him or plan trips while he's out of the country (like the one in a few days!).

I agree...

Sounds like there are more issues then just Disney....

The fact that the OP ended her post with "What a creep" speaks volumes I think..:shrug:

 

[tjkref418]

I wish my DH hated Disney. That way we could go with out him. We haven't been able to go in 2 yrs because we have to go together. He calls it family fun time and we are not doing it without him. Whatever. HA

If my DH would have said he that look she is asleep we going back to the room I would have said ok have a good time. I'm staying here. Don't let the bus door hit ya on the way out. :wave:

We did head back to the room once for something and he had laid down on the bed and just passed right out. So my DD and I hung out for a bit waiting and then we left a note saying we were going to MGM (now DHS) to call when he woke up. So we just left. We had a nice time and when he joined us we had an even nicer time.

Does your DH like to golf? Maybe you can set him up with that. Or something fun he would like to do.

Raven66 brings up a really good point about the golf IMO.

Although rare, the parks, characters, shows are not for everyone (like your husband). However, There is really something for everyone at WDW (fishing, boating, golf, shopping, relaxing by the pool reading). If he enjoys any of the "other" side of Disney perhaps you and your DD can go to the parks, and he could do what interests him??

 

[MAF]

So now i wear them in the house.

:ROFLOL:I think I love you. Oh BTW I will definately be rocking my Mickey ears this Sept. I guess I will be one of those "idiots" too. :wave:

 

[GenerationX]

I'm going to guess two things about your husband:
1. He is an introvert.
2. His father strongly discouraged silly, playful behavior in him when he was young (considering it stupid, pointless, and/or embarrassing).

Good luck with him. If I'm correct, you have years of de-programming ahead of you. Wearing Mickey Ears around the office at work will raise eyebrows, but no one will think any less of you if you wear them at WDW. Most introverts fear chatting with strangers in public, but, again, WDW is somewhat of a "safe place". No one will think any less of you if your bus conversation is kinda pointless.

 

[BiggerTigger]

Wow this doesn't sound like a Disney problem. It sounds like a husband problem. Time to sign up for couples therapy. His degrading comments to you and public divorce threats are completely unacceptable and that needs to be addressed. It sounds like your daughter is still very young...but growing up around a dad like that will completely destroy her self esteem later in life. His issues with putting other people down really need to be addressed ASAP before it affects your little girl, and it sounds like this is your husband's way of coping with his own miserable sense of self worth.

With that aside, there's nothing wrong with going to Disney without your husband. My husband enjoys Disney, but feels no need to go 4 times a year like I do, so half the time I go without him or plan trips while he's out of the country (like the one in a few days!).

Well said Laura!

Just from reading what was written I would guess he has control issues and anger management issues. (No, I'm not an authority on this)
I have traveled with my partner and I have traveled alone. We don't need to spend every waking minute together and since we are staying on property for this vacation we can go our separate ways when one is tired and wants to rest or just experience different adventures.
I hope things workout with you and your daughter. No human being should be subject to this behavior.

 

[Montyboy]

I loved that you wore your ears around the house...

Yes, find something that your husband hates and then do it around him. (Sounds like a good plan if you want to keep fighting.)

 

[MAF]

Yes, find something that your husband hates and then do it around him. (Sounds like a good plan if you want to keep fighting.)

Oh please if finding something as minor as wearing a Mickey hat around the house sets him off that badly, I think it's time to move on...:shrug:

 

[fizzle75]

I feel so sorry for you dear, it makes me so very thankful that my wife is just as big of a Disney freak as I am. Some guys just honestly have no imagination
and honestly don't get people who do. My father is an amazing man and I look up to him a great deal but he has no imagination whatsoever and can't understand most of the things I enjoy but oddly enough he's a big fan of Disney movies(he's never been to WDW, we're working on that though). It sounds like your husband has much deeper issues than "not getting" Disney and your love of it, as others have said I strongly suggest some type of marital counceling. Maybe if he can move past what's actually bothering him he can open himself up to letting himself go more and allow himself to have some fun. If you truly love the man don't give up on him but at the same time you MUST do something before this gets any worse.

Just to cheer you up, take a gander at this 33 year old freak who relishes every single moment spent in Walt Disney World and misses it every day that he's not there...

Oh and by the way, I am a manager with around 150 people under me but starting the day after Thanksgiving every year I wear a light up santa hat with Mickey ears on it that I bought during MVMCP several years ago...and I wear it every single day until Christmas.:lol:

 

[unkadug]

I have to agree that it sounds like there are some major issues to be confronted here.

 

[Tinkerbella16]

Thats what Disney is all about...Being a kid again, and having an imagination that you don't really explore in the "real world". People who can't enjoy or just decide not to, can stay home if they're just going to do nothing but complain and be miserable the whole time. Sounds like a personal problem to me. If the mickeys ears and hats weren't meant to be worn around the parks by kids and adults of all ages, then they wouldn't sell them in adult sizes. It is all part of the fun. I really wanted to pirate mickey ears in pink for girls last year when we went, but I could not find my size anywhere...so hopefully I will find them this year. Next time leave him home...and you and your daughter go and have a great, memorable trip without anyone to spoil your fun in the parks.

 

[colleen2997]

Sorry, none of my business as I don't know you at all, but that is abusive behavior that you don't deserve, Disney or not. My ex abused me verbally and ridiculed me all the time in public and private for everything, including because I loved Disney World, so my daughter and I went alone. I finally dumped him and found someone new who LOVES Disney. We got married and we are a Disney couple! My husband LOVES Disney and takes the family now every year. He took me there for our honeymoon.
Dumping that loser who talked to me like I was worthless was the best thing I ever did. Remember, nobody deserves to be yelled at and ridiculed in public.

 

[KaliSplash]

Pounding on the obvious, there are far deeper issues here than wearing Mickey Mouse ears. (which I personally would never do, I'd wear a Goofy hat

Find help. For you. For your daughter. For him.

And know that someone is always on WDWMagic who completely understands your love of this place!

Good luck!

 

[LoriMistress]

What the heck.

My husband was so embarassed that I bought mouse ears and wore them around. I wish I would've known and bought them sooner.
He went on and on about how childish I am that I act like a 5yr old. Um what about the other folks wearing them, well he says they are idiots too.

So what does wearing mouse ears have to do with being childish and so what if it does its all good fun (this is when i start riding his a$$). He just carried on how stupid it looks yadda yadda yadda (me already tuning him out).. So now i wear them in the house.

He has no magical spirit, hated being there (although he cracked a couple smiles when my daughter had breakfast with CRT and CMickeys and her delight meeting certain characters - caught on camera for proof), he cant be fun whatsoever.

Also he kept yelling at me (more like snotty toned) for talking to anyone on the bus rides back to our resort or on the monorail.." Why do you need to keep talking to these people, cant you knock it off"

Seriously I dont know whats wrong with him. We went in '99 for one day and he was so not like this at all. Now everything is a big problem.

Oooo also if you were at AK May 9th around Kali rapid ride sometime around 11am (you probably witnessed this) is when he totally lost it when we just picked up fastpasses for the safari and look down to see my daughter just fell asleep and he wanted to go back to the room since there was no reason to stay there (mind you we just got there).. I said let her sleep we can walk around still. Oh no he starts screaming and trying to rip the stroller out of my hands he is going to take her back to the room and he is yelling thats it were getting a divorce blah blah (can you say drama queen).. Bench full of people sitting next to us. My god i was so embarassed.

What a creep.

Sounds like your husband has anger issues. And if he's threating divorce...well, I think you know what I'm thinking.

 

[GenerationX]

Agree there are a lot of issues here.

 

[kcnole]

Agreed, this has nothing to do with Disney. You don't ever treat your wife like that, ever. My wife has put me into some miserable situations before (shopping for 5 hours straight) and while I may whine for a bit I would never scream at her in public for something like that.

You need to look at other issues as this sounds like abusive behavior. You have bigger issues than Disney issues unless this was just a one time ever thing.

 

[SanFrancisco]

I can't help but read this and suggest that you may want to decide if this is acceptable behavior in a spouse. It is disrespectful and border line abusive. Disneyworld, home or in the grocery store, doesn't matter. As a Mom of children older than yourself, any son-in-law of mine that behaved like that, would be given a strong verbal account of how to behave, and my child would be given the numbers of a marriage counselor and a divorce lawyer. Which one they called would be their decision. I hope that this isn't normal behaviour from your husband and if it is that you think long and hard on the effects it will have on your child.

Great advice. I read the OP's account and just felt so sad for the situation. I'm glad the little girl was asleep for all this, but I think it must be so difficult for mom. Being discouraged from talking to others on the busses is beyond controlling. He's stamping out your spirit.

Growing up, my mother would talk to ANYONE and everyone and sometimes it was "embarassing". She'd talk to homeless people like they were old friends and now, looking at her, it's one of the many things I adore about her and it taught me a lot about communicating with others, respecting differences, and seeing the "good" in people. I'd hate to have seen my father try to stop her.

 

[figmentmom]

I agree with everyone else here - sounds like there's a lot more going on with your husband than not enjoying Disney. Even if he wasn't having the time of his life, that does NOT give him the right to scream at you in public (or in private, either, for that matter). Reasonable, mature adults are able to work out their differences in a civilized manner, displaying mutual respect. If he'd just lost his temper ONCE at Disney, and immediately apologized, that would be one thing - you could blame it on the heat, or not feeling well, or whatever - but it sounds like he was deliberately making sure you had a terrible time.

If I were you, I'd look into marriage counseling. (Of course, I'm NOT you, and this is really none of my business, but please think about it!)

 

[tirian]

If I began to treat my girlfriend that way, I'd expect her to slap me.

Seriously.

 

[Montyboy]

Taking the High Road

Oh please if finding something as minor as wearing a Mickey hat around the house sets him off that badly, I think it's time to move on...:shrug:

Neither one of these people show up on my taxes, so they can do what they want, but the “wearing the mouse ears around the house fight” is not one that I would start.