Some nice, normal person started a thread this evening with a good question about the current state of Covid restrictions at Disneyland. A few of us jumped in to try and help, but then I started rambling about restaurant hostesses before I could correct myself and offer real advice on the topic at hand.
With that said, I've often thought of writing a book about life tips. An entire chapter would be dedicated to how to work with and win over the fancy restaurant hostess.
The art and science of the fancy restaurant hostess is not to be trifled with. Those savvy ladies can make or break your entire evening, and if you approach them correctly they can create magic for you and your dinner guests. A hostess is generally a non-tipped position, so you are working with them in the denomination of charm instead of dollars.
At the pre-Christmas dinner at that swanky restaurant in Pico Rivera (of all places) that I mentioned in the other thread, as I arrived I immediately commented on the hostesses hair. She knows my face/name and established business, but I made a point of saying "Oh my gosh, this stupid Covid has kept me away too long but you've grown your hair out and it looks great! I love it!" She honestly did look great and probably knew it, but she beamed anyway. I smiled broadly in return. I was genuinely happy to see her (you have to ground your compliments in reality or else it's smarmy), but I was also working it a bit.
She leans over the hostess desk, winks at me and whispers "I've had a little help with this" as she flipped her long silky hair. She's a Black lady and stunningly fabulous, and I instantly knew what she meant. So I leaned in and said "Well, we all need a little help now and then. But you look wonderful!" We both laughed.
And then... a prime corner banquette was procured for my party and she told me it would be ready in a few minutes if that was okay with me, and then she offered a chatty escort into the lounge with her quick retrieval of a bartender to immediately order cocktails for us as she wrangled us a fourth lounge chair and we waited a few minutes over drinks. A fantastic Christmastime dinner was enjoyed by all that evening, and I made a point of telling the manager when he stopped by our table that his chief hostess was top notch.
Always, always, be kind and polite to the fancy restaurant hostess! That lady knows what she's doing.