Well, I wouldn't mind the game playing so much if it weren't for the fact that he acts like because HE'S having fun and not having to work, I must be having fun and not having to work, too. He forgets that clothes still have to be washed in the weekend, food doesn't purchase and cook itself....so when he goes out to play, it leaves all the chores to me. And he totally deserves some down time. I don't begrudge him that. But I deserve some too, and I can't have it without someone else to do the chores I would normally do. So because he's playing every free minute he has, I don't get time for myself without leaving something undone. And when I choose to leave something undone, he thinks I'm being lazy. There was a mothers day a few years ago that he asked me what I wanted and I said I just wanted a nice lazy day. I didn't want to have to do all the things I always do. And we always go to his parents' house for those holidays, so we were there for the weekend. He went out that Saturday night to the movies. I was anticipating my nice lazy day, so I stayed up late, which I don't normally do, because I thought I'd get to sleep in in the morning and he'd get up with the kids. But he didn't come home until 2 or 3 in the morning, crashed, and I couldn't wake him up when the kids started hollering that they were awake and wanted breakfast. So I had to get up at 6 on mothers day to make breakfast for the kids while he slept in. Then I was really hungry, but thought he and the kids were probably planning to make breakfast for me, so I didn't eat. I waited and waited. He rolled out of bed at 10 and came and parked it on the couch. I hinted that man I was hungry. He said " Then you should eat!" So I said "Oh....ok...I guess I'll go make some eggs." He says "Will you make some for me too?" So I ended up making breakfast for everyone. We always make a brunch for mother's day as our gift to his mom....only he sat on the couch while -I- made it, and his brother and our nephew came over, too, who never help out. So I got to make lunch by myself for the whole family. My MIL tried to help and my FIL shooed her out of the kitchen, because it was mothers day and she was supposed to be relaxing. But he can't cook, and no one else was doing anything, so he couldn't tell ME to go sit down. After lunch, it all had to be cleaned up, which my FIL would normally do, but he had a herniated disc in his back and couldn't lift anything, etc. So I cleaned up while everyone else "relaxed". The same thing happened at dinner. I ended up getting up early and doing everything I ALWAYS do, but for more people while he sat on his butt and I hoped he would come and take over. We get in the car to go home and he says "So did you enjoy your lazy day?" and I thought he must be joking and he had some big surprise for me at home that he didn't want to spoil and that's why he hadn't given me the lazy day...so I said "It was just like every other day." and he says "So you're lazy
every day?"
And we got home and there was no surprise...no gift at all. I just started bawling because I felt so unappreciated and awful. He had no clue what he had done wrong. He honestly considered everything I did that day as being a nice lazy day. He equated me waiting on him and his family hand and foot to having a lazy day. And today was just like then, except it wasn't Mother's Day. Just that I'm supposed to do everything for everyone while he relaxes and enjoys his weekend and I don't need a break because what I do isn't work in his eyes. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, I just feel wretched.
He and James both needed haircuts and while we were out they also got me Christmas shopping so not only were we out until after 8, I'm BROKE!!!!!!!!!!!!! The kicker to that is by the time we got to the barber there was only time for one of them and dh has to get his mug shot at work this week so James' will have to wait another week or so
It's not all bad because my house is fully stocked
For now
and yup a bit of list giving but James thought of something his brother wanted and it was on sale so that too
