AMEN!!!!! right back at ya'!!!!!
As you already know, our DS was born at 1lb. 4oz.
This is, obviously, where most of his issues come into play.
I could write a book (he will be 25 next month) about his/our ups and downs.
If you saw him in public, and started a conversation with him, at first you would probably not know he was "different".
But, further into the conversation, you would probably know something was a bit different.
This is why it has, also, been so difficult to dial his particular situation in. Some are totally obvious, he's in a "blurry" area...as in he is "normal", but, at the same time, not so much.
He was first diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, then, along the way, Aspergers and on the autism spectrum. The ride has been amazing in a crazy way, but, he's our son, and there is NO way we're ever giving up or checking out.
He is funny, personable, social, although, he sometimes has issues with appropriate responses in certain situations (but, don't we all, sometimes

).
He has major issues with time and space and math, and spelling. Yet, he can read like a maniac...!!!

Everyone is just wired sooo differently, and sometimes it's just so difficult to get it all sorted out.
However, he has had his job at the Salvation Army for a long time now, and he is very happy with that.
Bottom line, we did everything we were capable of doing for him, and we woudn't trade him EVER for anything.
We know in our hearts we did the right thing...!!!