The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

[DryerLintFan]

I hated being pregnant.

My thought initially was why would anyone do this twice to their body? We agreed before marriage to have 3 kids. I had one and I loved him dearly but it took me 5 years to have another child. As I was giving birth I wondered what the h*ll I was thinking doing this a 2nd time...and off to ICU she went....she was ultimately fine a few days later but a year later I looked at him and said I'm so done with that PREGO thing, not happening again. He smiled and ran off to make an appointment to have himself taken care of so it didn't happen again.

I still have zero happy memories about being pregnant or giving birth. I like how birds sit on their eggs as they develop. But Mommy Sea Horses got it right.

I can't remember anything I liked about pregnancy either. I hated being out of control of my emotions, my body, my life. We originally planned on two kids, but when my husband said he thought our family felt complete after our daughter was born, I was so relieved.

If in the future we want more kids in the house, we'll foster.

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

Wish I could like this more than once. How many more days of freedom do you have?

I have to go in next week for an all day curriculum meeting otherwise I'm free until the last Tuesday of this month.

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

Music in the park was good last night, and on the drive to it I brought up stopping at the Dairy Queen. He said, "I was already planning on it." The only thing we disagreed on was when to stop I wanted to go before so we could eat it during the music he thought we should go after. I knew if we waited until after we probably wouldn't go, so we went before. It was yummy!

 

[FutureCEO]

You think Disney would roll out their streaming platform before 2019. I'm kinda shocked at the late date, I thought it would be earlier.

 

[MOXOMUMD]

17 days until National Dog Day.

 

[MOXOMUMD]

 

[StarWarsGirl]

I'm not a fan of theaters, but you'd like the ones up here. Most of them now serve liquor and they have those cushy seats, too.

Ours has alcohol. The reserve level has a full bar. If I hadn't had to drive, I might have done it.

We also have Starbucks and Eddy's ice cream at the theater.

 

[Figgy1]

You think Disney would roll out their streaming platform before 2019. I'm kinda shocked at the late date, I thought it would be earlier.

I have a few thoughts on that. Contract with Netflix and after last year's ROL fiasco with a date set it had better be able to roll, 3 it give people time to rearrange services. Just speculation

 

[Figgy1]

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17 days until National Dog Day.

So not funny today.

 

[Figgy1]

Ours has alcohol. The reserve level has a full bar. If I hadn't had to drive, I might have done it.

We also have Starbucks and Eddy's ice cream at the theater.

Ours has a Starbucks but I'm not sure about ice cream I never looked for any there

 

[Figgy1]

I survived High School orientation today. I got hit up for money for band parents, band and chorus pictures, band summer field trip and lunch money. Anybody know if they still make Boone's Farm, that may be the only thing in my budget for a while

 

[Figgy1]

On a happier note my James and his bff have 5 classes together this year.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

You think Disney would roll out their streaming platform before 2019. I'm kinda shocked at the late date, I thought it would be earlier.

Large IT projects take a while to roll out completely, especially ones that go out to consumers. One of our IT projects will span four years. Not to mention it probably has to go through so many checkpoints in a company like Disney. Just getting the infrastructure in place probably will take that long, not to mention testing.

None of this I knew until I started working in an IT Project Management Office.

 

[MOXOMUMD]

So not funny today.

 

[Goofyernmost]

I survived High School orientation today. I got hit up for money for band parents, band and chorus pictures, band summer field trip and lunch money. Anybody know if they still make Boone's Farm, that may be the only thing in my budget for a while

Just for future reference, the phrase that worked for me was. "Gee, I'm sorry, I am going to have to check on my budget and see if there is room for the extras. I'll get back to you." Sometimes I was guilty of 'forgetting' to get back to them. If not my favorite word was "no"!

 

[Songbird76]

Will let you know after our October trip how awesome it was

Oh I thought you were there right now! Sorry! Well, I will look forward to hearing about it!!

 

[Songbird76]

I know some people like it, but I personally thought pregnancy was the WORST. I hated being pregnant. People ask you personal questions about your private body parts, constantly tell you birth horror stories, make comments about your hips getting wider or other embarrassing things, you can't move fast or walk up stairs without completely losing your breath, I hated it. And when crazy things happen like your leg spasms uncontrollably or you feel like the baby is stabbing you with knives, or your hair starts falling out in clumps, all your mom friends look at you with a knowing smile and say "oh yeah, that's normal!!". But they never warn you ahead of time to get you mentally prepared. I mean..... I love my daughter more than life itself, but I have no desire to ever get pregnant again.

I had a friend who was in her late 30s when she got pregnant...she had wanted a baby so badly and she was so excited. Then she had the baby and it wasn't what she thought it would be like. So when I got pregnant, she felt she had to inform me of everything, but it was so funny because it was stuff that I've known since I was a kid...like "Did you know babies wake up to eat every 2-3 hours to eat? Even at NIGHT!!" Yes...yes I did. "Why didn't anyone tell me that! I didn't know I would have to wake up in the night to feed him! And all they do for the first few weeks is eat and sleep! I couldn't play with him or anything! He had no personality." And then she started telling me what was normal and not normal about my pregnancy...no...it wasn't normal for me to have to go to the bathroom a lot. I said yes, it was completely normal. No, she insisted it wasn't, because it didn't happen to her. If it didn't happen to her it wasn't normal. I changed the subject.

 

[Figgy1]

Just for future reference, the phrase that worked for me was. "Gee, I'm sorry, I am going to have to check on my budget and see if there is room for the extras. I'll get back to you." Sometimes I was guilty of 'forgetting' to get back to them. If not my favorite word was "no"!

He's part of the band and in chorus with his bff so he wanted those pics and plus they'll be good blackmail someday I put some money in his new lunch account in case there's an emergency and his lunch doesn't get packed and my dh said yes to the field trip yesterday. Next year it won't be so bad because music expenses will be spread out over the spring and summer not all at once, I'll make sure there's money in the lunch account before the end of the school year. New school new account

 

[Figgy1]

I had a friend who was in her late 30s when she got pregnant...she had wanted a baby so badly and she was so excited. Then she had the baby and it wasn't what she thought it would be like. So when I got pregnant, she felt she had to inform me of everything, but it was so funny because it was stuff that I've known since I was a kid...like "Did you know babies wake up to eat every 2-3 hours to eat? Even at NIGHT!!" Yes...yes I did. "Why didn't anyone tell me that! I didn't know I would have to wake up in the night to feed him! And all they do for the first few weeks is eat and sleep! I couldn't play with him or anything! He had no personality." And then she started telling me what was normal and not normal about my pregnancy...no...it wasn't normal for me to have to go to the bathroom a lot. I said yes, it was completely normal. No, she insisted it wasn't, because it didn't happen to her. If it didn't happen to her it wasn't normal. I changed the subject.

I was terrified hearing all the horror stories almost scared me out of having kids but I was one of those annoying people who glowed for 9 months gave birth went home the next morning and cooked myself real food. Runs and hides under large rock. Labor was long and boring both times but not painful, runs and hides under even larger rock. James was born during a month long heat wave and my doctor was worried about the heat bothering me and she couldn't understand my blood pressure didn't go up at all. I might as well just find a boulder

 

[Songbird76]

I can't quote everyone in the conversation, but this is an interesting concept:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/m-blazoned/the-default-parent_b_6031128.html

My husband takes care of our daughter and puts in a lot of effort, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't consistently feel like the default parent 75% of the time.

Oh my goodness that is so true!! When my dad died in March, my kids had to go back to school after a week and my husband had to go back to work, but I had to stay in the US to handle the estate. I had to write out lists about what the school schedules were, and how to do laundry...and my husband just took the laundry to his parents' house and his mom did it for him.
Just over the weekend, we went to my in-laws' house and my husband has an ipad for work, which he lets the kids use when he doesn't need it. So it went with us, including the charger. I'm always the one who has to pack the bag...Friday, we had gone to the Efteling and I had packed an extra set of clothing for everyone in case we got wet, disposable rain ponchos, the camera and extra batteries, etc. So I just grabbed that same bag to go to my in-laws' on Saturday. We come home, and I have to unpack the bag. Then Monday, I get the phone call: "Do you know where the ipad charger is??" And of course I knew. It's not even my ipad and I think I have used it maybe 3 times in several years when my computer wasn't right there and I needed to look something up. But somehow I'm responsible for knowing where the charger is.
You might also be interested in something called "The Mental Load".