Oh...so is your oldest in college? Amazing how different they can be, right? My kids are total opposites as well, and it makes me wonder because they've had the same upbringing!! But DD is creative, patient, excessively positive/bubbly,empathetic, and a pretty good eater. DS is not at all patient, he's athletic where his sister hates all things sport related, he's pretty pessimistic, has no empathy yet, and is a terrible eater. He's REALLY smart though, and both kids do really well in school...that's about the only thing they have in common.