How does your daughter handle that? I've heard of love languages but I don't know much about it...it makes sense though. My dad grew up in a time when children were expected to be silent and he grew up working for his dad. He had a really poor example of expressing emotions/love, so he's really not good at that, and as a kid, I thought he must not love me because he didn't really know how to express it. Now that I live on another continent THOUSANDS of miles away and with an ocean between us, we have a MUCH better relationship. My dad's only way to express love was to give me things that he would have liked to receive...like...when I was 8, instead of the Rainbow Bright doll I asked for, he got me leather work gloves. In his mind, he was getting something really nice...something HE would have really loved to get as a gift. But to an 8 year old girl, it said "I don't know what you want and can't be bothered to find out, so here you go...now you can help me fix fences." And when I was 16, he got me an ironing board chair (it's a wooden chair that you can flip the back up to turn it into an ironing board, and if you flip the back over all the way, it becomes a step ladder). Now, it's a very handy thing to have, but he got it for me "so I could attend to my domestic responsibilities." Now that I'm older, I can meet him where he is, and ignore the misogyny and recognize that he MEANT well, just didn't express it well. But your daughter is still young..is he better at speaking her love language? It's so hard when you're young and you don't understand the gestures for what they are.