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Figgy1

Premium Member
Same rule for me on cell phones.. I may allow one at 11 with many conditions- Good grades. Responsible. Only allowed use when at practice or swim club. Put away all other times.
The swim club where most of his friends go allows single “youth” memberships at 11. I might do that.. we won’t join as a family. That could call for a phone.. but as something in his possession at all times- NOPE.
I remember seeing a cell phone which can be programmed for what numbers it can call and it only makes calls. I'm not sure T would like it. I wonder if it's still available
 

Figgy1

Premium Member
I got mine when I was 14 because I was after school a lot and there wasn't easy access to a phone. We had a house phone at the time. My mom has talked to my brother about getting a phone; he also doesn't want one. He doesn't feel comfortable talking on the phone, but we want him to get comfortable texting and calling my mom and me.
My older ds is the same way. I have one for him but don't always make him carry it unless he will be unsupervised for any period of time
 

Figgy1

Premium Member
Sounds exactly like the way I grew up. I never went far, but my brothers covered as much terrain as animals in the wild. :p But it didn't matter--we had the chat line of neighbors all over the area, and my brothers were well known--so it was never a problem if my parents were looking for either one of them, if they were late for dinner (or any other situations they got themselves into). ;)
I remember going out one night not intending to have anything to drink. Long story short I left my car and decided to walk home it wasn't far at all. Anyhoo I didn't even get one block from the place a cop car pulled up and he said get in I'm driving you to your mom's. Mom lived in my place at the time:rolleyes:The joy of living in a small town
 

Songbird76

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Ha! This makes me feel better.. I thought my parents were super strict!

I started flying by myself at 15,, usually to meet my family somewhere, I would stay behind (with my grandparents) for a day or two if there was sports conflicts of my own.

I went on spring break when I was 16 (when I was in 11th grade) with a group of other juniors and seniors.. my parents allowed that.. but only because one set of parents were going too. Although those parents were not at all as strict as mine.. they pretty much left us alone for the week. That trip took a lot of convincing.
I also went to Woodstock 1994 that same summer after that severe grounding.. that was with two other girlfriends and a mom.. the only reason I was allowed to still go was because I literally cleaned every day, did dishes every night, even was tasked with mowing the lawn. I also went to my grandmother’s house almost daily to clean as well. Parents originally threatened to take that trip away.. but allowed it I think because it was such a once in a lifetime thing...and I was on my BEST behavior leading up to it. :)

I knew that I wouldn’t be allowed to go for that pre college weekend without parental supervision..but I wanted to, so I went. I really wasn’t a bad kid. I did well in school and sports and volunteered often.. I just did some stupid things.😂

My curfew was 10pm on weekends unless it was Friday night football.. then it was 11.. and usually my parents were also at the game, just far away from me once I hit age 12 or so.. If they weren’t there, my grandfather was. He rarely missed a game.lol
The only other exception was skiing. We used to do a ‘late night ski’ 9:30-12am.
Nothing besides skiing and football was acceptable past 10..to my parents.

But.. my sister’s curfew was 11 when she was a junior and senior. I think they just gave up by the time it got to her.😂
I would have been in so much less trouble in high school if my curfew would have been 11!
Oh, no....your parents weren't that strict then. My curfew was "when it starts to get dark, you need to be home." Which, in the winter was 5:00pm. I was allowed to be at school activities like play practice, or a basketball game, but I had to be home as soon as it was over. My mom could see the parking lot of the school from home, so once the cars started leaving the parking lot, I had about 5 minutes to call her to pick me up, and once I could drive, I had to be home within 10 minutes. I was allowed to go out with my brother to the movies, but I wasn't allowed to go anywhere by myself. When I was 16 or 17, my best friend and I used to meet in the middle of our street and go for a walk. My brother's best friend called him and asked him to come over...it was like 7 and it would get dark around 9. So my brother walks out the door to go to his friend's house. As he's walking out the door, my best friend calls to ask if I want to go for a walk. I go to get my jacket and my mom says "Where do you think you're going? It's going to start getting dark soon. You can call her back and tell her you're not going anywhere.
The summer after my sophomore year of high school, I was selected to go to an academic program for 3 weeks at the University of Wyoming. The first night there, they were going over the rules and we had to be back inside at 10pm....I had never been out that late before, so I stayed out till 10 just because I could. It was more freedom than I had ever had.
When I was 17, she told me I was allowed to go out in groups that included boys, as long as it wasn't the same boys every time." My junior prom, we went dress shopping and the lady at the store was asking about my "boyfriend" and my mom made it very clear there was NO boyfriend...or there'd BETTER not be. Anytime anyone ever asked me if I had a boyfriend, my mom would say "She better not have!" before I could answer.
When I was a senior in high school (18) there was a dance and I asked if I could PLEASE wear makeup to the dance...I normally wasn't allowed to wear makeup. Mom said I could wear a little bit. So I put on some eyeliner....that was it. JUST eyeliner. I go to leave and my mom says "Don't you think you're wearing a bit too much makeup?" I said "nope!" and I walked out the door before she could make me go take it off.
When I got an A- in History, my mom told me I had to quit all my extra-curriculars until my grade was "back up where it belonged". I did manage to talk her into waiting until the next quarter since that would be the next time she'd see the grade anyway....to let me try to get it back up while I was still doing speech and debate, student council, etc..and if I COULDN'T then I would have to quit everything. I got it back up to an A, so I didn't have to quit, but most parents would never have been upset about an A-.

My mom was even more strict than my LDS friends' parents and they were known for having high expectations for their children. My mom was unreasonably strict.
 

Figgy1

Premium Member
Oh, no....your parents weren't that strict then. My curfew was "when it starts to get dark, you need to be home." Which, in the winter was 5:00pm. I was allowed to be at school activities like play practice, or a basketball game, but I had to be home as soon as it was over. My mom could see the parking lot of the school from home, so once the cars started leaving the parking lot, I had about 5 minutes to call her to pick me up, and once I could drive, I had to be home within 10 minutes. I was allowed to go out with my brother to the movies, but I wasn't allowed to go anywhere by myself. When I was 16 or 17, my best friend and I used to meet in the middle of our street and go for a walk. My brother's best friend called him and asked him to come over...it was like 7 and it would get dark around 9. So my brother walks out the door to go to his friend's house. As he's walking out the door, my best friend calls to ask if I want to go for a walk. I go to get my jacket and my mom says "Where do you think you're going? It's going to start getting dark soon. You can call her back and tell her you're not going anywhere.
The summer after my sophomore year of high school, I was selected to go to an academic program for 3 weeks at the University of Wyoming. The first night there, they were going over the rules and we had to be back inside at 10pm....I had never been out that late before, so I stayed out till 10 just because I could. It was more freedom than I had ever had.
When I was 17, she told me I was allowed to go out in groups that included boys, as long as it wasn't the same boys every time." My junior prom, we went dress shopping and the lady at the store was asking about my "boyfriend" and my mom made it very clear there was NO boyfriend...or there'd BETTER not be. Anytime anyone ever asked me if I had a boyfriend, my mom would say "She better not have!" before I could answer.
When I was a senior in high school (18) there was a dance and I asked if I could PLEASE wear makeup to the dance...I normally wasn't allowed to wear makeup. Mom said I could wear a little bit. So I put on some eyeliner....that was it. JUST eyeliner. I go to leave and my mom says "Don't you think you're wearing a bit too much makeup?" I said "nope!" and I walked out the door before she could make me go take it off.
When I got an A- in History, my mom told me I had to quit all my extra-curriculars until my grade was "back up where it belonged". I did manage to talk her into waiting until the next quarter since that would be the next time she'd see the grade anyway....to let me try to get it back up while I was still doing speech and debate, student council, etc..and if I COULDN'T then I would have to quit everything. I got it back up to an A, so I didn't have to quit, but most parents would never have been upset about an A-.

My mom was even more strict than my LDS friends' parents and they were known for having high expectations for their children. My mom was unreasonably strict.
I'm so sorry
 

MySmallWorldof4

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Thanks. I do everything I can to refute the “single mom” stigma. I don’t ever want to use that as an excuse... but the reality is I just do not have the time to do it all.
I work 50 hours per week minimum on a normal week. I was at work til after 11pm last night, and I’m here now on my day off, so this will be close to a 60hour week. I have to be all caught up because I’m taking a lot of time off next week.
When T was 3 years old I applied to an au pair service at the recommendation of 2 friends who use the company. The company denied me based on my work hours. 😂:cautious:
Apparently not even an au pair can watch my kid as much as I needed at that time. I had to do early learning and a part time nanny for a few years...an au pair would have been much cheaper.

It just stinks because I do like that my kid wants to be involved in a lot, within reason. It’s better than him staying with a sitter without other kids around. The biggest downside is the that each activity requires volunteer time from me as well.. some of it I can do, some I can’t. I don’t want special treatment, and I don’t want to complain.. but I wish they could all realize that I really do try to give as much as possible. It won’t ever be as much as they do, I hate that T paid the price for it.
Are you working more with this new job than the old one?
 

MySmallWorldof4

Well-Known Member
I was always late for engagements before I had a child. I can’t pin that on him. 😂
Set your clocks 30 minutes fast. When we had our first kid and had to be somewhere at a certain time, we would be late, usually because of the baby all of a sudden pooping up their fresh diaper. Dh and I both have a thing for promptness, so we learned quickly that if we would have to be out the door at 8, to make sure everything was ready at 7. When I had to drag 2, 3, and then 4 kids around by myself, I would just start preparing earlier. I am rarely late for anything, and if I am it is because of an unforeseen traffic issue.
 

MySmallWorldof4

Well-Known Member
Funny thing about junior spring break.. my high school was in the ghetto.. gorgeous all girls school but the surrounding neighborhood’s glory days were long gone.
My car was broken into twice, as was most other student’s cars. The girl who was driving to Hilton Head had her back window broken out and top slashed on the Friday we were supposed to leave!

No one else could drive/was allowed to drive that far, so we ended up having to get last minute plane tickets and were on the same flight as her parents anyway.. my parents were undercover happy about that. ;)
I guess the school didn't have a parking lot? I think I would have ridden a school bus if I knew my car would get damaged by hooligans. If you went to an all girl school, what football games did you go to? Was it the local high school, or was there an all boys school that was affiliated with yours?
 

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