Ok....I need to vent. I don't know what to do. I've been talking about planning our next trip to Disney and first thing was when do we want to go. On the one hand, Star Wars: Galaxy's Edge is supposed to open in 2019. My kids are in the region with late vacation in 2019 and 2020, which means they don't go back to school until September...so it might be cheaper travel in those years if we go closer to the end of the vacation....good time to go. BUT, DS, as much as he loves Star Wars, wouldn't do any of the SW stuff in DLP because he was scared...I don't know if he'll be better about that in a year and a half. But even if he is, if it opens on time, it's going to be PACKED. So then I thought...maybe we should wait until 2020, because by then the hype has died down and wait times will be more "normal". BUT, then I remembered ROL got pushed back by more than a year....FEA was pushed back by months...and those were MUCH smaller scale projects....will SW:GE even be open in 2019? If not, then I'd rather go in 2019 and go back in a few years again when the hype has died down and DS is older. So I was debating this and hubby made some comment about waiting until 2022. WHAT??? I said no, because then the kids have EARLY vacation, which means they get out in the 2nd week of July...the height of tourist season and the most expensive travel time. He shrugged and the subject was dropped. So then last night, I asked him what he thought about staying at the Poly for our next trip. It's more expensive, but we did get a bit of money from the sale of the cattle...it would be enough for that. He says "Well....is it really that much better? We've paid for extra things before and it wasn't worth it." He's referring to DLP, paying for the Montana room, which looked old and run down, only had one outlet besides the one in the bathroom, and they put us in the room that was the farthest from EVERYTHING, when we had booked the Montana room specifically to be CLOSER to everything. So, I get that, but hi...that was DLP....a completely different ball game from WDW. Then he says "Look, I know you LOVE Disney, so we'll probably go again," (PROBABLY???) "but it's really not as important to me and I get stuck with DS and don't get to have as much fun. And I get it....you and DD mostly like the same things, so it makes sense that you girls stick together, but then I am stuck with him doing the same 2 rides over and over or sitting at the resort, and I get one morning to do my thing and that's it." Again, he's referring to DLP when DS only wanted to do Buzz Lightyear, and Autopia, or play games on the phone/computer. BUT, the thing is, we were only there for 2 full days and 2 partial days....and of those, DH got one full morning to himself from park opening until lunch time, PLUS another morning after we did Ratattouille, AND he got an afternoon on his own on the last day, and then he also had a morning where I took DS and he took DD....they did BTMRR, Indiana Jones coaster, Carrots of the Pirabbean....all the things he couldn't do with DS. And there was one more afternoon where DD and I were going to do stuff and had bad luck so we went back to the resort to stay with DS so DH could go back into the park and have fun...he chose to take a nap instead. So I had DS half the time, and he got a LOT of time by himself to do the things the kids wouldn't do. And that's just at DLP. When we went to WDW, we did one ride together at Blizzard Beach, and I didn't see him for the rest of the day, because DS didn't want to be left alone, so I stayed with him and took him to all the Winter Summer Games events while DH and DD did every ride in the park together...the whole day. I took the kids while he went on EE, I took DS when DH wanted to do BTMRR, and he took DD with him....and when DS had a meltdown because he didn't want to go into the Haunted Mansion after we had stood in line for half an hour, -I- was the one who took him out and let DH and DD go on the ride, because DS wouldn't even go into the building to the parent swap area...we had to walk back out of the line the way we came and I didn't get to go on the ride. So he makes it sound like it's no fun for him because he has to kid-sit while I do all the fun stuff when that is so not fair. I made SURE he got to do every ride he wanted to do at DLP...He had HOURS to do all the thrill rides. And now that the kids are getting older, DD is doing more of the thrill rides with him. I get motion sickness, so usually I'M the one who is not going on rides. But basically he's talking about not wanting to spend money on Disney. Well where else do you want to go? We're going to have the same situation with DS no matter where we go. One of us always has to stay with him while the others do the stuff....that's just the way it is. The alternative is we just never go on vacation. And pretty much every amusement park we go to involves me sitting with DS while either DH or DH and DD do things...so I feel like, the one thing -I- enjoy, he doesn't want to do because he has to sit out with DS half the time. Well welcome to my world! So now I don't know if we're even going to get to go to Disney again, and if we do, I'll be so stressed trying to make sure HE'S having fun that -I- won't get to have fun. I know it's not fun being the one stuck while the others are off doing their own things, but I've made sure that he's not the only one doing that, and apparently he doesn't feel I do a good job of splitting it up and ensuring he has his fun time. So he only wants to do the things where HE gets to enjoy it and I'M the one sitting there bored out of my mind while everyone else has a great time. He did say once several months ago "What about like....Italy, and Greece, and all those places we wanted to go?" And I reminded him then that we couldn't really do those things with the kids....at least not with DS. DS would not have a good time walking around museums or looking at ruins, or visiting beautiful examples of architecture...we have to wait until he's older for that anyway. But then I just don't know what he WANTS to do for vacation. And I don't want to have HIM pouting the whole time like a child because he didn't get his way. So...how do I get the Disney trip the rest of us really want to do, but also ensure he isn't a grumpus the whole time and that he doesn't resent me for making him endure yet another Disney vacation? Suggestions? Any of you have spouses who are luke warm on Disney? He never said ANYTHING about not enjoying our trips until I started talking about the next trip.
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