The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

[MySmallWorldof4]

It's been loading real slow for me, the 'likes' don't want to stick and the search button laughed at me.

I thought it was just me.

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

Good morning and hope you all have a great Tuesday!

 

[DryerLintFan]

Isn't it funny how we tend to relate all vision problems to age. Kids sometimes have to wear glasses to see clearly, it is a physical problem for the most part. Needing reading glasses (cheaters as you call them) is part of growing older, but, why would anyone want to be seen doing the movements it takes to try and read something instead of looking "intellectual" and using reading glasses. To me its the same as the dreaded comb-over, something that I erroneously did for a couple of decades. Life improves greatly if you don't have to strain or stand on you head to read something. What's that old joke... "I used to be able to read really well until my arms got short". As far as baldness is concerned, to me I just feel that I can't see it, so what do I care. If it bothers someone else, it seems to me that is their problem.

Additional light does help, however, you look pretty silly going to a restaurant with a flashlight. Better the glasses. Or if you where glasses anyway, invisible line bifocals make it a total secret.

My eye doctor (and our veterinarian too so this applies to more than just humans) said that as we age, there's a film on our eyes that gets harder and harder. Some people's eyes get harder faster and we call those cataracts, but that even with no eye issues your whole life, your vision will diminish as you age and that film gets harder.

Obviously not the technical terms or anything.

 

[DryerLintFan]

The only problem is that I'm still a contractor. I've been there, and they're looking for ways to make me an employee in spite of the hiring freeze, but that makes it tough.

My dad made me an authorized user of his card when I started driving so I could get gas. So my credit score is already in the 700s. But I have had trouble getting anything other than store credit cards. Just lack of history. That's what concerns me about qualifying for a car loan. Cosign would be helpful.

Those finance classes I took in college that I hated have paid off, though. I know what I can afford in car without anyone telling me. I've got the power.

As little sense as this makes, car loans can usually be easier to get than store credit cards if you're willing to finance through the dealership. You have to be really responsible about interest rates though because that's where they can really get you. For my first car I had my dad co-sign with me through the credit union and my interest rate was much lower than what they would have given me at the dealership.

 

[Goofyernmost]

My eye doctor (and our veterinarian too so this applies to more than just humans) said that as we age, there's a film on our eyes that gets harder and harder. Some people's eyes get harder faster and we call those cataracts, but that even with no eye issues your whole life, your vision will diminish as you age and that film gets harder.

Obviously not the technical terms or anything.

I agree with that statement, I'm just commenting on how people resist accepting what is as much a part of life as breathing. I resisted as well, then said to myself... what the hell do I think I'm hiding. It is as obvious as the comb-over I mention when people cannot see up close. My other more of a cushioning comment was that even small children have to wear glasses from time to time so there are many instances where ageing had nothing to do with it.

I can tell you from experience that not only does a hardening happen, but, as I found out from my one eye cataract surgery, the lens becomes yellowed and dull as well. Hence the fact that using a flashlight helps because it gets more light through. There is a very noticeable difference between my original lens in my right eye and my squeaky clean, brand new one in my left eye. It is such a noticeable difference that I almost wish the unobtrusive cataract in my right eye would grow so I can get that lens replaced as well. I'm not going to risk anything just for that without a good reason, but, still it is that much different. But, like I was saying age is involved, but, not necessarily the only reason why using help for clear vision is necessary.

 

[Figgy1]

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When I get cranky from lack of sleep I watch Tangled with my cast iron frying pan

 

[Cesar R M]

It took me 2 nights of staying up past my bedtime but I watched the pilot for Discovery One major disappointment

Spoiler

haven't yet seen the Discovery

Discovery as in star trek?
It wasnt that bad.
But the writing in some parts is... dreadful.
I cant believe this captain would be that blind. Same with the admiral. I facepalmed at the fight.

I mean the darn Klingdon bird of preys are like twice the size of the NEX class starships (aka the post NX ships from Enterprise, as this universe seems to be pre-kirk but post Archer)

 

[Figgy1]

@StarWarsGirl see if you can join a credit union because one of those may be able to get you a car loan at a lower rate than a bank or dealership. Ours matches any rate minus certain percentage points or the rate you qualify for there which ever is lower.

 

[Figgy1]

Discovery as in star trek?
It wasnt that bad.
But the writing in some parts is... dreadful.
I cant believe this captain would be that blind. Same with the admiral. I facepalmed at the fight.

I mean the darn Klingdon bird of preys are like twice the size of the NEX class starships (aka the post NX ships from Enterprise, as this universe seems to be pre-kirk but post Archer)

I'm sure that has something to make the SFX cooler. Did you watch in English or Spanish. and yup the series is set between Archer and Kirk.

 

[Songbird76]

Yup he's in a special program and was in a regular building for most of the time but now he's in a program on a college campus. He was in a regular building but didn't mingle too much. Lunch was in the regular cafeteria but was supervised. He started off in special ed when he started school but that program wasn't right so then he got put in an emotional support class which was great until right before middle school when some of the bullies got shipped in so we moved YEA to a better district at the suggestion of one of the teachers. There's a reason we have so many teachers living in our district. anyway. he was in their emotional support until a new program for Autistic teen and young adults was formed. I don't know how IEPs work over there but my ds always got challenging work for him. Over here with an IEP every child gets modifications designed around his or her needs. Find out if they do something like that. IMHO if at this point his emotional needs are greater than his academic needs if he can learn how to live in the real world is that more important at this point. The other thing with a smaller class he'll get more individualized attention and the last thing at least over here a teacher wants in a special class is a bored child. We had one teacher who we're still friendly with who got a whole class through The Sorcerer's Stone and some of them never tackled anything harder than Cat In the Hat before. It took some of them the better part of the year for some but they did it. Most have now gone on to finish the series. In short if he qualifies for the smaller building try it because it sounds safer and you can always supplement with books and projects at home. All this is just based off what we've been through

Ah, yeah, I wish we weren't coming into it so late in the game. I tried so hard to get help already when he was just a baby but everyone just said it was a phase, he'd grow out of it, he'd learn not to cry when he saw that other kids didn't, or other kids would look at him funny and he'd realize his reactions were out of proportion and he'd learn to tone it down, etc...Obviously that didn't happen. And now we're so late in someone actually BELIEVING me when I said something was wrong that it's a whole lot harder to deal with.
New development: We had an AWESOME time in Dublin and some of my friends had also brought their kids along, who are around DS's age. They all played together SO nicely...it was amazing. DS had the BEST time. And in 4 days he only had ONE meltdown when the swing they were all on together (all 5 kids in one of those big round swings) went too high and he got scared...and guess what happened? Instead of using his fear against him, they were concerned, stopped the swing and let him off and then one of the kids went and asked if he was alright. I could have cried. Seeing how he was able to just be so unreserved and have fun and play and having him be so accepted by the other kids...it just proved that HE is not the problem. And then Sunday night we are ready to go to dinner. We had said goodbye to everyone as they were all going home on Sunday and we were staying one more night. DS had a breakdown because he realized he'd have to go back to school in 2 days and was TERRIFIED. He wanted to stay in Dublin where it was safe. So DH immediately wrote the school an email explaining that a kid being so scared to go to school that he's sobbing 2 days beforehand is not acceptable and DS would not be returning to school until we could trust that he was safe. DH went in this morning and talked to the teachers and the principal and apparently they've already expelled one kid. Last week, after DS's session with his Psychologist, she sent the school a report saying she was very concerned about his emotional health at school, basically and the next day, I talked to the teacher and she said that this one kid who bullies him wasn't there that day. I asked DS the next day and he wasn't there that day. Friday DS didn't go to school because we were headed to Dublin, Monday we were on the way back, and I asked DS if the kid was there today and he said no. So I kind of think that's the kid who was expelled. They didn't give DH any names or even tell him which year the expelled kid was in, just that they are taking a stand against aggressive behavior and one kid was already gone and they were deciding what to do with 2 more. And DS's teacher told DH that after 6 weeks, she could finally TEACH instead of just policing, now that this one kid is gone. So I'm almost sure it has to be the one DS was most worried about. We have an interview tomorrow with the Supervisor for the Psychologist to discuss the possibility of Autism, and then a round table discussion with all of us next week about the school situation and whether we want to move DS to another school, etc. But I hope we're finally getting somewhere!!

 

[Mr Ferret 75]

@Songbird76 glad you liked the emerald isle

 

[Figgy1]

Ah, yeah, I wish we weren't coming into it so late in the game. I tried so hard to get help already when he was just a baby but everyone just said it was a phase, he'd grow out of it, he'd learn not to cry when he saw that other kids didn't, or other kids would look at him funny and he'd realize his reactions were out of proportion and he'd learn to tone it down, etc...Obviously that didn't happen. And now we're so late in someone actually BELIEVING me when I said something was wrong that it's a whole lot harder to deal with.
New development: We had an AWESOME time in Dublin and some of my friends had also brought their kids along, who are around DS's age. They all played together SO nicely...it was amazing. DS had the BEST time. And in 4 days he only had ONE meltdown when the swing they were all on together (all 5 kids in one of those big round swings) went too high and he got scared...and guess what happened? Instead of using his fear against him, they were concerned, stopped the swing and let him off and then one of the kids went and asked if he was alright. I could have cried. Seeing how he was able to just be so unreserved and have fun and play and having him be so accepted by the other kids...it just proved that HE is not the problem. And then Sunday night we are ready to go to dinner. We had said goodbye to everyone as they were all going home on Sunday and we were staying one more night. DS had a breakdown because he realized he'd have to go back to school in 2 days and was TERRIFIED. He wanted to stay in Dublin where it was safe. So DH immediately wrote the school an email explaining that a kid being so scared to go to school that he's sobbing 2 days beforehand is not acceptable and DS would not be returning to school until we could trust that he was safe. DH went in this morning and talked to the teachers and the principal and apparently they've already expelled one kid. Last week, after DS's session with his Psychologist, she sent the school a report saying she was very concerned about his emotional health at school, basically and the next day, I talked to the teacher and she said that this one kid who bullies him wasn't there that day. I asked DS the next day and he wasn't there that day. Friday DS didn't go to school because we were headed to Dublin, Monday we were on the way back, and I asked DS if the kid was there today and he said no. So I kind of think that's the kid who was expelled. They didn't give DH any names or even tell him which year the expelled kid was in, just that they are taking a stand against aggressive behavior and one kid was already gone and they were deciding what to do with 2 more. And DS's teacher told DH that after 6 weeks, she could finally TEACH instead of just policing, now that this one kid is gone. So I'm almost sure it has to be the one DS was most worried about. We have an interview tomorrow with the Supervisor for the Psychologist to discuss the possibility of Autism, and then a round table discussion with all of us next week about the school situation and whether we want to move DS to another school, etc. But I hope we're finally getting somewhere!!

Me too {{HUGS}} prayers and pixie dust xoxo

 

[betty rose]

I love your attitude

Short day , today. Hubby is going to be my I T person. Computer is acting up, again.

 

[betty rose]

Isn't it funny how we tend to relate all vision problems to age. Kids sometimes have to wear glasses to see clearly, it is a physical problem for the most part. Needing reading glasses (cheaters as you call them) is part of growing older, but, why would anyone want to be seen doing the movements it takes to try and read something instead of looking "intellectual" and using reading glasses. To me its the same as the dreaded comb-over, something that I erroneously did for a couple of decades. Life improves greatly if you don't have to strain or stand on you head to read something. What's that old joke... "I used to be able to read really well until my arms got short". As far as baldness is concerned, to me I just feel that I can't see it, so what do I care. If it bothers someone else, it seems to me that is their problem.

Additional light does help, however, you look pretty silly going to a restaurant with a flashlight. Better the glasses. Or if you where glasses anyway, invisible line bifocals make it a total secret.

You have to be able to use both eyes and have them co-ordinate. I can't do that, so no line less bifocals for me. I've had floaters all my life, the brain will eliminate those over time. I only see them in bright light, so I wear sunglasses.

 

[betty rose]

It's been loading real slow for me, the 'likes' don't want to stick and the search button laughed at me.

I had the same trouble yesterday. Soooooo, I liked everyone's post!

 

[betty rose]

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I know in the next life, I need to live near water! Very nice pic.

 

[betty rose]

I thought it was just me.

Same issue with the likes!

 

[betty rose]

I agree with that statement, I'm just commenting on how people resist accepting what is as much a part of life as breathing. I resisted as well, then said to myself... what the hell do I think I'm hiding. It is as obvious as the comb-over I mention when people cannot see up close. My other more of a cushioning comment was that even small children have to wear glasses from time to time so there are many instances where ageing had nothing to do with it.

I can tell you from experience that not only does a hardening happen, but, as I found out from my one eye cataract surgery, the lens becomes yellowed and dull as well. Hence the fact that using a flashlight helps because it gets more light through. There is a very noticeable difference between my original lens in my right eye and my squeaky clean, brand new one in my left eye. It is such a noticeable difference that I almost wish the unobtrusive cataract in my right eye would grow so I can get that lens replaced as well. I'm not going to risk anything just for that without a good reason, but, still it is that much different. But, like I was saying age is involved, but, not necessarily the only reason why using help for clear vision is necessary.

My gray hair shows my age. And those pesky wrinkles!

 

[betty rose]

When I get cranky from lack of sleep I watch Tangled with my cast iron frying pan

Sometimes, okay more often that not, I roll over and go back to sleep.

 

[betty rose]

Ah, yeah, I wish we weren't coming into it so late in the game. I tried so hard to get help already when he was just a baby but everyone just said it was a phase, he'd grow out of it, he'd learn not to cry when he saw that other kids didn't, or other kids would look at him funny and he'd realize his reactions were out of proportion and he'd learn to tone it down, etc...Obviously that didn't happen. And now we're so late in someone actually BELIEVING me when I said something was wrong that it's a whole lot harder to deal with.
New development: We had an AWESOME time in Dublin and some of my friends had also brought their kids along, who are around DS's age. They all played together SO nicely...it was amazing. DS had the BEST time. And in 4 days he only had ONE meltdown when the swing they were all on together (all 5 kids in one of those big round swings) went too high and he got scared...and guess what happened? Instead of using his fear against him, they were concerned, stopped the swing and let him off and then one of the kids went and asked if he was alright. I could have cried. Seeing how he was able to just be so unreserved and have fun and play and having him be so accepted by the other kids...it just proved that HE is not the problem. And then Sunday night we are ready to go to dinner. We had said goodbye to everyone as they were all going home on Sunday and we were staying one more night. DS had a breakdown because he realized he'd have to go back to school in 2 days and was TERRIFIED. He wanted to stay in Dublin where it was safe. So DH immediately wrote the school an email explaining that a kid being so scared to go to school that he's sobbing 2 days beforehand is not acceptable and DS would not be returning to school until we could trust that he was safe. DH went in this morning and talked to the teachers and the principal and apparently they've already expelled one kid. Last week, after DS's session with his Psychologist, she sent the school a report saying she was very concerned about his emotional health at school, basically and the next day, I talked to the teacher and she said that this one kid who bullies him wasn't there that day. I asked DS the next day and he wasn't there that day. Friday DS didn't go to school because we were headed to Dublin, Monday we were on the way back, and I asked DS if the kid was there today and he said no. So I kind of think that's the kid who was expelled. They didn't give DH any names or even tell him which year the expelled kid was in, just that they are taking a stand against aggressive behavior and one kid was already gone and they were deciding what to do with 2 more. And DS's teacher told DH that after 6 weeks, she could finally TEACH instead of just policing, now that this one kid is gone. So I'm almost sure it has to be the one DS was most worried about. We have an interview tomorrow with the Supervisor for the Psychologist to discuss the possibility of Autism, and then a round table discussion with all of us next week about the school situation and whether we want to move DS to another school, etc. But I hope we're finally getting somewhere!!

I hope this works out for your DS and you.