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MinnieM123

MinnieM123

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ajrwdwgirl said:
Thanks to both of you and hubby definitely does owe me big time. The time downtown wasn't too bad, there were fun moments. It was hubby's two sisters, one bro in law, the oldest niece and me. The other bro in law stayed back with the younger kids (ages 10-14) and took them to laser tag.

Hubs and I were planning to spend the 29, in the city over night on our own. As I was heading back today with his family hubby texted me and said he still wasn't any better and would I mind if I cancelled the hotel for the 29th. Well if he wasn't feeling better staying in downtown Chicago wouldn't be any fun so I cancelled the hotel.

So here comes the part where I get mad.....
After being back at his sisters house tonight they decide that all the adults should go out to dinner. Fine, hubs is even coming along. So when we get back hubby and I go down to the basement to change into our pajamas. The basement is where we have been allocated to sleep (for years) on air mattresses or a saggy pull out. But I put up with it because he wants to be with his family. This is also where the kids hang out. So I go to where I had neatly piled my blankets and pillows and they are all strewn about and hubby says that they were playing with my pillows earlier and he had to tell them to stop. That makes me mad and it happens frequently but it is just my pillows.

Here is the kicker. So I after changing into pjs after dinner I again I neatly arrange my pillows blankets and the clothes I had worn today on the bed I will be sleeping on. It isn't even in their play/hang out area really. They have no reason to be near it. I even hid my undergarments inside my pants and shirt.

Before we came to bed the kids went to bed and said they were taking funny videos in the basement. Well when we came down to go to bed everything I had neatly put on the air mattress was flung all over it! :mad: I do NOT like people touching my stuff without permission. So I point it out to hubby and he says I shouldn't talk to him about it but to the kids parents. He didn't think it was a big deal. WHAT? Can't he stand up for me? So with my undergarments strewn about now I'm wondering what funny videos they were making. Can't these kids respect other people's property? They didn't do it to hubby's stuff.I am super mad. I think it is a big deal but I don't want to look like the witchy one nor do I want to cause trouble. I think if I visit his family again I will be staying in a hotel or not at all. I don't think our ride back home tomorrow is going to be a fun one. Sorry for the ramble it is just upsetting and I needed to vent. But yeah, hubby definitely owes me big time.
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Christmas with the rellies . . . :eek:

What I can't wrap my head around here, is the fact that if the (air) beds were inflated, (how often do they use these--maybe once a year for company?), and if clothing, etc., was neatly folded on top--wouldn't that be a flag to the kids to maybe stay away from it? (If they were just inflated with nothing on top, that would be understandable that they'd look like trampoline toys to the kids? Whatever.)

I can understand kids running around and acting crazy, but I cannot understand their lack of: "We'd better put everything back the way we found it, so we don't get in trouble . . ." You know what I mean? I think back to when I was a kid and my brothers and I could create a big mess--but there was always that "threat" of getting in "trouble" if we didn't clean up the dump we made. So we always put things away, to avoid getting yelled at. (If the situation you described happened at our house when we were kids, we'd be more than informed that guests would be sleeping downstairs on the mattresses, and to stay out of the basement until the following day when the guests leave.) Anyway, the missing piece in this situation seems to be like they don't have many rules enforced at home. Guess every family is different, but I completely understand where you're coming from. I'd never stay there again either--at least until the kids turn 21?! ;)

I think Gabe had an excellent thought about hubs mentioning this mess to the adults (not the kids). Far better to route this through an adult, so that there's no backlash from them if they don't like how you present it to "their" lovely, angelic kiddos . . ." :rolleyes:

I think future visits will include a hotel . . .
 
ajrwdwgirl

ajrwdwgirl

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Gabe1 said:
Owes you big time doesn't cover it. I'm sorry for you and can't wrap my brain around making excuses for children that old already. How would they feel if someone did that to them?

But since one chunk of my DH nieces and nephews had zero boundaries I can unfortunately relate. The only part I agree with your husband with is talking to the parents vs children. 'Talk'n to' other people's kids is beyond dicey especially when it is family and the adults are clueless to what had been going down. But you have a perfect slide into the hotel in the future. Nicely but matter of factly my advice would be to outline what transpired multiple times. What is done is done but obviously the nieces and nephews treat me differently and do things to me and my stuff that they do not do to others or their parents. So next year we look forward to visiting once again but will stay in a hotel and we won't have these issues any longer.

Plus who needs to be sleeping on an air mattress on your holiday break. I admire your putting up with that this long being 'with' family or not. I'm hoping your hubby gets it when he is feeling better.
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Thanks for the support. I definitely wasn't going to confront the kids, I think I really wanted hubby to be outraged with me. I'm just looking forward to getting the heck outta here!
 
ajrwdwgirl

ajrwdwgirl

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figmentfan423 said:
That's just awful. No that's beyond awful. I'd say he owes you and then some. Going through guests personal items is, I don't even have words for that. Breakfast in bed for a week once he's better sounds fair and maybe a nice dinner out
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Thanks, I like your idea of dinner out! Maybe he can pay for the Yachtsman dinner in March!

It's not a big deal to him because it isn't a violation of HIS space/stuff...but it IS a big deal. And because it's a big deal to you, it SHOULD be a big deal to him. It sounds like maybe he is just not wanting to make waves with his family, having taken up so much of the attention for being sick. I'm so sorry he didn't stand up for you. How long are you there? Can you just ask, in front of the children, if there is someplace you can lock up your things where they are safe from intrusion? That lets the parents know what their little monsters were up to, it lets them know that you aren't happy about it, and lets the kids know you don't like it and that it is unacceptable, without making a huge drama out of it. They know what happened and can feel appropriately abashed and have the opportunity to resolve the situation without you looking like the bad guy.
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Thanks, Luckily we leave today.

MinnieM123 said:
Christmas with the rellies . . . :eek:

What I can't wrap my head around here, is the fact that if the (air) beds were inflated, (how often do they use these--maybe once a year for company?), and if clothing, etc., was neatly folded on top--wouldn't that be a flag to the kids to maybe stay away from it? (If they were just inflated with nothing on top, that would be understandable that they'd look like trampoline toys to the kids? Whatever.)

I can understand kids running around and acting crazy, but I cannot understand their lack of: "We'd better put everything back the way we found it, so we don't get in trouble . . ." You know what I mean? I think back to when I was a kid and my brothers and I could create a big mess--but there was always that "threat" of getting in "trouble" if we didn't clean up the dump we made. So we always put things away, to avoid getting yelled at. (If the situation you described happened at our house when we were kids, we'd be more than informed that guests would be sleeping downstairs on the mattresses, and to stay out of the basement until the following day when the guests leave.) Anyway, the missing piece in this situation seems to be like they don't have many rules enforced at home. Guess every family is different, but I completely understand where you're coming from. I'd never stay there again either--at least until the kids turn 21?! ;)

I think Gabe had an excellent thought about hubs mentioning this mess to the adults (not the kids). Far better to route this through an adult, so that there's no backlash from them if they don't like how you present it to "their" lovely, angelic kiddos . . ." :rolleyes:

I think future visits will include a hotel . . .
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Thanks for your support too. We had stayed over the night before too. Sometimes I think their parents play the game of "you'd better or else" but don't always follow through.

I appreciate all the advice and support,. Thanks!:inlove:
 
Figgy1

Figgy1

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Songbird76 said:
Would you mind sharing the recipe? I have some jolly ranchers left over from our vacation and my kids would LOVE to make them!
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They're pretty easy. I just roll out sugar cookie dough(use you favorite recipe) cut out the cookie itself and then cut a shape inside the cookie (basic shapes work the best for both the the cookie and cutout area circles, squares, triangles and such) and fill with crushed hard candy of your choosing. The most important thing is to bake them on parchment or a silicone baking sheet and do not move them until they're completely cooled!
 
MOXOMUMD

MOXOMUMD

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Songbird76 said:
Would you mind sharing the recipe? I have some jolly ranchers left over from our vacation and my kids would LOVE to make them!
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It's easy actually. You use any basic sugar cookie recipe. (Or you can use Pillsbury refrigerated roll dough but those turn out REALLY thin.) After you roll your dough and cut the cookies, cut a smaller shape in the middle of each cookie. Then fill the hole with enough crushed jolly rancher to fill hole. Bake at whatever temp/time the recipe calls for.

Bake cookies on Parchment Paper or the candy will burn onto your baking sheet. Cool cookies almost completely before removing from Parchment Paper. The candy needs to harden again or it will roll or buckle in the middle of the cookie. You can also use clear fruity lifesavers, not the minty white ones.
 
MOXOMUMD

MOXOMUMD

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figmentfan423 said:
They're pretty easy. I just roll out sugar cookie dough(use you favorite recipe) cut out the cookie itself and then cut a shape inside the cookie (basic shapes work the best for both the the cookie and cutout area circles, squares, triangles and such) and fill with crushed hard candy of your choosing. The most important thing is to bake them on parchment or a silicone baking sheet and do not move them until they're completely cooled!
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:joyfull: I should have read farther. :) Great minds.
 
Bibbidi Bobbidi Boo

Bibbidi Bobbidi Boo

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MOXOMUMD said:
It's not going to be a good day. My daughter came into my room and said "Mom I......ralph!" :grumpy: Projectile yuck out both ends. Sometimes I wish I could close the door, push a button and all messes in the room clean themselves up.
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Oh No!!!, I remember those days. My 4 daughters are all grown now and on their own. I feel for you now, but you will eventually look back on these days when you have a empty nest and deep down in side wish they were little again.
 

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