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MinnieM123

MinnieM123

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donaldtoo said:
Hahaaa...!
Keeps my weight from ballooning, I don't do the overstuffed waddle out of the restaurant, but, am plenty satisfied, and it saves us money, 'cause have the leftovers for lunch or dinner the next day...! :)
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That's a really smart move. Many times, it's not so much what we eat (although we all know what healthy choices are), but how MUCH we eat. I have to watch portion size, too. And like you said, you get two meals, so you 're saving a bit of money too! ;)
 
FutureCEO

FutureCEO

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brifraz said:
That's just cruel punishment. My daughter is a huge 'Once Upon A Time' fan, so I am stuck watching that right now...

BTW - Hello All! Yup, it's been close to a year and I still have very little time to wdwmagic, but here I am this evening!
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I taped all my shows. Once Upon a Time is losing my interest. I feel the only reason I watch it now is Lana Parrilla. I have to watch Shield, Designated Survivor and Quantico.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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donaldtoo said:
We had originally planned on having four children, because we both come from four sib families. But, after considering all of DSs needs and the birth of our youngest DD less than two years later, we mutually decided it was time to stay put with our three gifts.
I, shortly thereafter, had a procedure. ;)
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I think I'd have handled it better if he had included me in the decision. We had always said we'd have 3, and when DS was born, I didn't get so weepy because I knew we'd have another one...it wasn't my last baby. And then came the time we had always said we wanted to have the 3rd...about 3-4 years after the first 2. (We had picked out names, discussed timing, etc.) Suddenly he says he's content with the 2 and that's the end of the discussion. We didn't even talk about it, he never mentioned he was having second thoughts or anything. It was just...he had made the decision and that was it. I could understand if it was a dangerous situation or if one of the kids had serious health issues that took up a lot of our time and energy. But I felt like, in any case, I should kind of be included in the decision making on that. And not being the kind of woman who would just stop using the pill, my hands were tied. I still feel almost a loss of the baby I never got to have even though I feel it's too late now. Does that sound stupid?
 
StarWarsGirl

StarWarsGirl

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Songbird76 said:
I think I'd have handled it better if he had included me in the decision. We had always said we'd have 3, and when DS was born, I didn't get so weepy because I knew we'd have another one...it wasn't my last baby. And then came the time we had always said we wanted to have the 3rd...about 3-4 years after the first 2. (We had picked out names, discussed timing, etc.) Suddenly he says he's content with the 2 and that's the end of the discussion. We didn't even talk about it, he never mentioned he was having second thoughts or anything. It was just...he had made the decision and that was it. I could understand if it was a dangerous situation or if one of the kids had serious health issues that took up a lot of our time and energy. But I felt like, in any case, I should kind of be included in the decision making on that. And not being the kind of woman who would just stop using the pill, my hands were tied. I still feel almost a loss of the baby I never got to have even though I feel it's too late now. Does that sound stupid?
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No, it doesn't, and yes, it should have been more of a discussion than just a unilatteral decision.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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StarWarsGirl said:
No, it doesn't, and yes, it should have been more of a discussion than just a unilatteral decision.
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Thanks. My husband is usually really good about stuff like that, and we really had talked about EVERYTHING before we were married. We really had everything planned out...where we would live, who would be responsible for which chores, how many children we wanted to have and when, etc. Obviously some things don't work out the way you plan and you have to just kind of go with it, but he wouldn't even talk about the change in plan with me. I still don't know why. It's so out of character for him to be like that and this is the ONLY issue he's done that with. So I guess he must have a reason and he's just not sharing it with me or doesn't know how to voice it. If he did this all the time it would be a deal-breaker for me...I wouldn't tolerate not having any vote in my own life. But I think that's what is so shocking about it...it's NOT like him at all, so I can't really get mad at him for changing his mind.
 
StarWarsGirl

StarWarsGirl

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Songbird76 said:
Thanks. My husband is usually really good about stuff like that, and we really had talked about EVERYTHING before we were married. We really had everything planned out...where we would live, who would be responsible for which chores, how many children we wanted to have and when, etc. Obviously some things don't work out the way you plan and you have to just kind of go with it, but he wouldn't even talk about the change in plan with me. I still don't know why. It's so out of character for him to be like that and this is the ONLY issue he's done that with. So I guess he must have a reason and he's just not sharing it with me or doesn't know how to voice it. If he did this all the time it would be a deal-breaker for me...I wouldn't tolerate not having any vote in my own life. But I think that's what is so shocking about it...it's NOT like him at all, so I can't really get mad at him for changing his mind.
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Well, he's human. And he's a man, which means sometimes things get lost in translation since men and women tend to communicate differently. It sounds like you're being understanding, but that does not mean that your feelings don't matter.
 
Goofyernmost

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Gabe1 said:
My DD was in mourning today as she learned that several were shot at the University of Illinois the night before, one died. All of this kind of tradic death is overwhelming. When we go down to visit her University a few times a year we have a hotel we favor. The shooting was on the same street about 3 blocks down. Unnerving.
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My daughter attended Tulane University in the late 90's. During that time was when the big push started for law enforcement to be cleaned up due to corruption and graft. I would talk to her and she would tell me things like... "Some guy got shot to death out in front of our dorm last night" or "One of my girlfriends went downtown on a date with her boyfriend as as they left the restaurant some guy robbed them and killed her boyfriend." You know, stuff like that a father is better off not hearing about. Fortunately, a year later when she graduated, things had calmed down an awful lot in the Big Easy!
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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Songbird76 said:
I think I'd have handled it better if he had included me in the decision. We had always said we'd have 3, and when DS was born, I didn't get so weepy because I knew we'd have another one...it wasn't my last baby. And then came the time we had always said we wanted to have the 3rd...about 3-4 years after the first 2. (We had picked out names, discussed timing, etc.) Suddenly he says he's content with the 2 and that's the end of the discussion. We didn't even talk about it, he never mentioned he was having second thoughts or anything. It was just...he had made the decision and that was it. I could understand if it was a dangerous situation or if one of the kids had serious health issues that took up a lot of our time and energy. But I felt like, in any case, I should kind of be included in the decision making on that. And not being the kind of woman who would just stop using the pill, my hands were tied. I still feel almost a loss of the baby I never got to have even though I feel it's too late now. Does that sound stupid?
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My youngest had that same dilemma. She married a guy that had two children from a previous marriage and since she came from a two child family that is what she wanted so before she agreed to marry him he had to promise that they could have two kids (as long as there was no physical reason for that not happening). He agreed and then shortly after her first child was born, he abruptly changed his mind and decided that was enough. No discussion, no listen this is how I feel, try and understand, just nope no more.

Me being from the old school was inclined to think... well we all really know who's in charge of that happening if they want it to be and (oh, well) accidents happen. But, she decided to take the high road and not fight it, but, I know that she still harbors at least a mild case of anger and regret about it. Personally, I would have told him to take whatever road he chose, just make sure those support checks arrive on time.
 
Gabe1

Gabe1

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Goofyernmost said:
My daughter attended Tulane University in the late 90's. During that time was when the big push started for law enforcement to be cleaned up due to corruption and graft. I would talk to her and she would tell me things like... "Some guy got shot to death out in front of our dorm last night" or "One of my girlfriends went downtown on a date with her boyfriend as as they left the restaurant some guy robbed them and killed her boyfriend." You know, stuff like that a father is better off not hearing about. Fortunately, a year later when she graduated, things had calmed down an awful lot in the Big Easy!
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My Mom really wanted DD to attend University of Illinois over Tulane University even though the scholarships were so much better from Tulane, she worried about her well being. The first semester they had so many muggings and assaults in dorms that over winter break every dorm went to a 24/7 lockdown and remains that way today. Like you described with Tulane that is what UoI is like and it usually isn't the students more surrounding area people coming onto campus. My DD remained in the all Girls Dorm the entire time she went there. They also did safe rides and safe walks where multiple guys who were payed and vetted by the University to escort students upon request. The boy that lived behind me about 8 years ago was beaten by a local gang as an initiation. He lived, barely and was shipped to Chicago and placed in Marian Joy Rehab center. A year later he was released and returned to campus to finish his degree.

U of I is really out in the corn but because it is a huge University a micro-urban city has developed around it. Other than the professional staff most of the micro area is very poor.
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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Gabe1 said:
My Mom really wanted DD to attend University of Illinois over Tulane University even though the scholarships were so much better from Tulane, she worried about her well being. The first semester they had so many muggings and assaults in dorms that over winter break every dorm went to a 24/7 lockdown and remains that way today. Like you described with Tulane that is what UoI is like and it usually isn't the students more surrounding area people coming onto campus. My DD remained in the all Girls Dorm the entire time she went there. They also did safe rides and safe walks where multiple guys who were payed and vetted by the University to escort students upon request. The boy that lived behind me about 8 years ago was beaten by a local gang as an initiation. He lived, barely and was shipped to Chicago and placed in Marian Joy Rehab center. A year later he was released and returned to campus to finish his degree.

U of I is really out in the corn but because it is a huge University a micro-urban city has developed around it. Other than the professional staff most of the micro area is very poor.
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After three years there she did manage to have her purse stolen and about 1K used on her (my) credit card* and also when attending a Mardi Gras parade, had her pocket picked losing $10 and her Tulane ID.
All illegal charges were erased, but, still. The Purse thing happened right at the University. In all fairness she was terrible about caring one way or the other about money. You should see how frugal (cheap) she is now. She will squeeze a dollar until the Eagle leaves droppings. Makes a huge difference when you have to earn it yourself.
 

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