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Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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wdwfan4ver said:
I understand what you are saying.

My younger brother and I had were prepared if Dad were to die when we were growing up. My younger brother and I also understood death because My mom's parents died before we were born due to health issues.

I said prepare at such a young age because of the nature of dad's job. People died on the job at dad's work and it was explained in simple terms that a kid can understand with no problem. My dad held multiple positions dealing with electricity at his work and he did witness co-workers that died. Dad matter of fact considered his biggest accomplishment at his work was working for 46 years without dying.

The other thing is I've extremely ready for dad's death in the future. I mention this since he is a senior citizen. My dad had triple bypass when he was 57 years old and a heart attack when he was 67 years old. I was told my dad's triple bypass procedure could last another 20 to 25 years and that meant he'll need another one in the 87 to 92 years old range. The problem with that age is during any procedure that is heart related at that age range is hard to survive through it. I mentioned the procedure because my dad has a friend that lost his aunt last year during heart surgery in her late 90s.
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Well, none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow, no matter what age we are. It is the one of only a couple of things that are not negotiable. Yet, we never seem to accept it or prepare for it. It will happen, we just don't know when exactly, but no one has managed to skirt around it yet. I owned a nursing home for 14 years and was hands on for most of the time. I got close too and lost many clients and it kind of numbed me I guess or at least pounded it home that it is just the other end of life and nothing unique.

So many asked me how I was able to spend so much time setting up my own arrangements and wasn't it difficult to do? The only difficult thing to it was going over it all with my daughters. At the time neither wanted to accept that it might happen to me. One of them still doesn't. I guess denial is your friend. I felt so much better after I had set it all up, paid for everything in advance and knew that would be one less thing my girls would have to deal with. I guess my background made the thought of dying much easier to accept and not a huge emotional burden on me to do. I, of course, would like to delay it as much as possible, but I'm afraid that most of that damage was done in my early indestructible years. One of the things that used to be in my signature section was "If I knew I was going to live this long I would have taken better care of myself". It is quite a shock when you finally realize that you get to a point of no return. A place were there is no longer the time or the chance of repairing the things that you did in those early years.

But I guess that it is time to get off this morbid subject.
 
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Lilofan

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Goofyernmost said:
Well, none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow, no matter what age we are. It is the one of only a couple of things that are not negotiable. Yet, we never seem to accept it or prepare for it. It will happen, we just don't know when exactly, but no one has managed to skirt around it yet. I owned a nursing home for 14 years and was hands on for most of the time. I got close too and lost many clients and it kind of numbed me I guess or at least pounded it home that it is just the other end of life and nothing unique.

So many asked me how I was able to spend so much time setting up my own arrangements and wasn't it difficult to do? The only difficult thing to it was going over it all with my daughters. At the time neither wanted to accept that it might happen to me. One of them still doesn't. I guess denial is your friend. I felt so much better after I had set it all up, paid for everything in advance and knew that would be one less thing my girls would have to deal with. I guess my background made the thought of dying much easier to accept and not a huge emotional burden on me to do. I, of course, would like to delay it as much as possible, but I'm afraid that most of that damage was done in my early indestructible years. One of the things that used to be in my signature section was "If I knew I was going to live this long I would have taken better care of myself". It is quite a shock when you finally realize that you get to a point of no return. A place were there is no longer the time or the chance of repairing the things that you did in those early years.

But I guess that it is time to get off this morbid subject.
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When I had spent many a days and nights being with my loved ones in regular room, ICU, step down ICU, ER in hospital setting there is a kind of numbness and emotional breakdown of staff , visitors and patients. Any hospital staff regardless of position whether it be the cleaning staff all the way to the administrator of the hospital have a very stressful and rewarding job . They do make a difference . Many non hospital jobs pale in comparison. I have family that are RNs and doctors. They are angels on earth.
 

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