Had a few early morning ramblings only, about your post above to Gabe1:
I want the best outcome for you and your family. You give 100% love and effort to your extended family, and they're all blessed to have you in their lives. (We're all blessed to have you on this forum, by the way.)
As my
general observation only, sometimes people on the forums who care about one another, may share their opinions in such a manner that may end up (inadvertently) causing confusion or anxiety. It's important to stand your ground (which you already do), while also bearing in mind that another person may have still meant well (regardless of whether they were right--or conversely--were just completely off the mark). With a public forum, people come here from all different backgrounds and geographic regions. Some of that background shapes our point of view, which is bound to cause differences of opinion from time to time.
I've observed through the years, in both my family and work relationships, that sometimes the best-intentioned comments (whether appropriate or inappropriate) can get misconstrued, and/or were just plain incorrect to begin with. That ends up causing friction. At that point, I try to tell the person that I could never agree with them on that particular situation. Sometimes, after a while, either side might even reassess their original comments. Eventually, feelings cool down, and we move on to another topic of discussion; we still care about each other though.