Spreading Your Ashes At Disneyland?

[shoppingnut]

I want my family to decide what to do....because any type of burial, cremation, ceremony, etc...is for the living, so I want them to do something that they feel is special.

Let me tell you that having everything planned in advance is so much better for the living. It's bad enough that you tend to be in a state because someone has passed away, but then leaving the burden of all those decisions to those left behind is horrible, not to mention can cause arguments and rifts with the family. We planned everything for my mom and dad a few years ago, we went into the funeral home and even though we spent 2 hours there and left totally drained, it was well worth it because when it came time for my dad, all I had to do was go up and sign a few papers which took all of 10 minutes, instead of sitting there for god knows how long trying to think and make decisions.

 

[mermaid1]

Are you talking about people being cremated and having the ashes spread around, or are you talking about smokers?

As for the former, I heard a year or so ago that WDW actually offers, in addition to wedding services, funeral services where you can have your ashes launched into the air with the fireworks and exploded over Cinderella's Castle. :lookaroun:hurl:

This is so untrue as to be laughable. Disney would NOT shoot someone's ashes over the castle, against the law, by the way! How do these rumors get started.

The story was broken by Al Lutz at Miceage. The article is there for the reading. Please people, read the article before anymore rumors get spread around. They start because someone says , I heard that so and so, and someone else adds something to the story and then someone else adds something to the story etc...etc...The article is VERY clear about what has been happening. The FACTS are there. Read it. Oh by the way, it is illegal to spread ashes around where ever you want to. There are very strict laws about dumping gramma just anywhere you want!
Mermaid1

 

[Nicole220]

I want my ashes spread at DL.

I don't want to be buried under the ground. I'd rather have my remains placed in the place I love most.

 

[k.hunter30]

Besides, I never have understood why people have any wishes at all for their funeral or their body. My point of view is that I'll be dead and gone, so you can grind me into dog chow for all I care...it's not like I'll be around see or care what happens to me or how you do my funeral. I'd rather do my planning for things that I will be around to enjoy, and focus my thoughts on the things of the living, not the things of the dead.

There is so much I would like to say to this. But I will just say, I completely disagree - for the sake of my friends and family.

 

[maggiegrace1]

Besides, I never have understood why people have any wishes at all for their funeral or their body. My point of view is that I'll be dead and gone, so you can grind me into dog chow for all I care...it's not like I'll be around see or care what happens to me or how you do my funeral.

You may not be around to see or care what happens but your loved ones will be.

At my grandmothers funeral there was a montage of pictures of her and her family through the years..and she had requested for that to be at her funeral so that everyone could gather around and laugh and cry and remember all the amazing wonderful times that we had shared with her.

It was really beautiful and brought everyone together at a sad time to enjoy and celebrate her life.

Just like some people request to be buried next to their spouse or children..certain believe certain things and want to spend eternity with the people they shared their lives with also.

Even though it is just the body that is buried it is still something that they want and believe in so people respect their wishes.

I think that respecting some ones wishes on how they want to be buried or cremated or where they want to be scattered or brought to is something that is nice and can give them some peace knowing you are doing what they wish and can give you also some peace at a sad time because you are doing what they ask.

It also gives the survivors a place to go and feel a connection.

I did that when I learned that Maggie may not live when I was pregnant..I went to my grandmothers grave site and talked and cried to her and asked her to be with us as we went through all these problems.

I felt her presence that day and knew she was listening.

I got a sense of relief from it and came out of there feeling like all would be okay.
I believe she is Maggies Guardian angel..

Now you may not care what happens or if they grind you up and make dog chow as you said..but someone may..your wife, kids, grandkids..and they may make you see that it really can matter.


That is my opinion..

 

[k.hunter30]

You may not be around to see or care what happens but your loved ones will be.
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Now you may not care what happens or if they grind you up and make dog chow as you said..but someone may..your wife, kids, grandkids..and they may make you see that it really can matter.

Exactly.
**hugs Dana**

 

[pixel-dust]

Rose Walk at Epcot. Pond Side. Near a tree because it's dang hot in the summer.

and I hope my grand kids chuckle a little when they think of their nutty grandma amongst the roses. Finially a plant she can't kill!:king:

 

[DisneyGigi]

I have always (mostly joking) told DH to have me put in the fireworks at WDW so I could go out with a bang at my favorite place.

 

[sbkline]

Now you may not care what happens or if they grind you up and make dog chow as you said..but someone may..your wife, kids, grandkids..and they may make you see that it really can matter.

Exactly my point. They're the ones who will be around to see the funeral, so let them be the ones to decide how they want things. They're the ones who need to be pleased with the service, not me. I'll be dead and gone and up in Heaven. Why do I care what music is played at my funeral or what color of tie they put me in or what color of box they put me in? The survivors are the ones who need to be pleased with the service, so let them decide as they see fit.

I know, I have an odd way of looking at things, but you're not the first person to notice that.

 

[shanny]

at the bottom of this thread, theres an ad for glass to keep ashes in. some that can be made into jewelry? id rather take my chances clogging a filter in potc, than have someone wear me...:dazzle:

 

[Wilt Dasney]

Exactly my point. They're the ones who will be around to see the funeral, so let them be the ones to decide how they want things. They're the ones who need to be pleased with the service, not me. I'll be dead and gone and up in Heaven. Why do I care what music is played at my funeral or what color of tie they put me in or what color of box they put me in? The survivors are the ones who need to be pleased with the service, so let them decide as they see fit.

I know, I have an odd way of looking at things, but you're not the first person to notice that.

I actually think your point is well made, but it also supports the point you're debating if you look at it closely. Several people in this thread have said their minds were at peace when they laid their loved ones to rest BECAUSE they knew they were acting within that person's wishes. I would assume that knowing they were doing what the person would have wanted is a bigger factor in allowing them to enjoy whatever memorial is made than any pleasure they get from the proceedings inherently.

 

[sbkline]

I actually think your point is well made, but it also supports the point you're debating if you look at it closely. Several people in this thread have said their minds were at peace when they laid their loved ones to rest BECAUSE they knew they were acting within that person's wishes. I would assume that knowing they were doing what the person would have wanted is a bigger factor in allowing them to enjoy whatever memorial is made than any pleasure they get from the proceedings inherently.

I understand that point, but I still don't understand why the deceased had any wishes in the first place. That is the whole point I'm making. Like I said, I know I have a crazy way of looking at it, but in my thinking, I'll be dead and gone, so I will have no wishes since I'm not the one who needs to be satisfied with the service. I don't care what kind of suit they put me in. I don't care what cemetary. I don't care what kind of coffin.

Any wishes I would have would be for the benefit of others. For example, out of concern for the eternal souls of my unsaved loved ones, I may want a certain preacher to preach the funeral and I may want him to talk about the plan of salvation so as to plant a seed with the unsaved people who will be there.

As for anything else, since it is the bereaved that need comforted and satisfied with the service, I say let them decide how best to accomplish that goal through my funeral. If they think having pictures of me up on a posterboard will accomplish that goal, then let them make that decision. If they want to have a sqaure dance, then they can make that decision. The funeral is mostly about letting the survivors "send you off" in a way that comforts them and makes them feel better, so why not let them choose the arrangements that accomplish that goal?

Anyway, everyone has their own opinion on it and the above is merely my point of view on it. Not really any sense in debating it I suppose, but it's just always been a pet peeve of mine when I would hear my Grandma say "I hope he sings at my funeral". I'm thinking "why, are you gonna be there to hear him? Why do you care". LOL

 

[Wilt Dasney]

I understand that point, but I still don't understand why the deceased had any wishes in the first place.

For the record, I pretty much feel the same way as you, despite my argumentativeness.


I've always liked this idea: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A5eyZg183DQ

:lookaroun