My Dream Disney Wedding cancelled

[moonchild]

My parents did say "if Disney is what you really want, we will go" but I weighed Mom Crying vs Disney Wedding, and Mom won. It will make things alot easier on people, financially and for flying. ( it was Dec 1st so they would have to fly during Thanksgiving). And more people can come to the wedding. Really all I want is to marry my wonderful fiance! As long as we are together, everything will be wonderful! Thanks everyone for listening to me vent . Im waiting for the Pastor of our church to call back to set a new date. How does Nov 29th feel? I like it!

 

[Main Street USA]

Originally posted by crazygirley
I really hate to be so blunt, but you are so stupid if you let them win and don't do what you want, so, so stupid.

This type of "being blunt" is against forum policy. Please refrain from calling people stupid.

Thanks,
Zac

 

[moonchild]

Main Street, thanks for all of your advice on the Disney wedding when we were planning it! Your pictures are awesome!

 

[no2apprentice]

Go for the WDW wedding.

BUT, if you decide not to go, make sure you tell your darling sister-in-law that you have the most important job for her at the wedding. Sit her in the front row, and after the ceremony, as you begin to walk down the aisle, pull out a hidden broom and trash bag, hand them to her, and announce in a loud voice, "Thank you for making my wedding day a memorable event. Now make sure you don't miss anything, DOPEY!"

Then wave at everyone, and gracefully exit the building with the lucky groom.

 

[moonchild]

:lol: :lol: :lol: I LOVE it!

 

[Erika]

If you're sure you won't regret it- I guess I feel like most people would always look back and be a little bit angry. And Zac is right when he says that people who manipulate tend to get worse as the years go by, depending on how far you have let them go.

As far as your mom goes, don't worry about her tears, and I say this not to be harsh, but to point out that she is going to be so thrilled when the day comes- no matter where you are, or who else is there. I'll never forget my mom's face on my wedding day. She didn't have a care in the world.

 

[Main Street USA]

Originally posted by moonchild
Main Street, thanks for all of your advice on the Disney wedding when we were planning it! Your pictures are awesome!

Not a problem! Happy to do it. Seems like that was a while back, though, which means you're probably throwing away quite a bit of planning, aren't you? That's a shame.

 

[crazygirley]

Originally posted by Main Street USA
This type of "being blunt" is against forum policy. Please refrain from calling people stupid.

Thanks,
Zac

I didn't mean it in any derogatory way, it's just that she has problems and needs to be brought back down to Earth and realize the big mistake she might be making. You aren't a woman and so you will never understand, a wedding day is HER day. Besides, I don't think I offended her or anyone else. Sorry if I offended you.

Just want her to make the right decision, and I think she will!

 

[moonchild]

yes Main Street, we had everything ready to go. Thank God I didnt get my gown yet. Since its up here now, Ill have to get something a bit warmer. And about the Sis in law, I really never see them anymore anyway, they live pretty far away. I just cant wait till she calls asking for an emergency babysitter. The Pastor just called, Nov 29th is ok with her! It is a beautiful church.

 

[no2apprentice]

All kidding aside, Moonchild, we all would want you to experience something as magical as a WDW wedding. However, in reality, you know your family situation better than any of us. It sounds like you are going to marry a wonderful guy, based on how he's taking all this...uh....mess. If nothing else, you may not get a WDW wedding, but this should help show you're getting a wonderful, caring husband, who cares about your happiness and peace of mind. Wherever you get married, I can only say that I wish you as much happiness as I have experienced in my marriage.

And, if nothing else, make sure you pay someone to spill some reception punch (you know, the stuff that stains so bad it won't come out) on the manipulating bi...oops, sorry, uh....sister-in-law.

 

[Grumpy56]

Originally posted by crazygirley
I didn't mean it in any derogatory way, it's just that she has problems and needs to be brought back down to Earth and realize the big mistake she might be making. You aren't a woman and so you will never understand, a wedding day is HER day. Besides, I don't think I offended her or anyone else. Sorry if I offended you.

Just want her to make the right decision, and I think she will!

I hate to burst your bubble dear, but calling someone stupid is just plain rude. I don't think gender has anything to do with understanding that but for the record I am a married gal who understands the concept of "the wedding day is for the bride". And just because moonchild didn't repond to your post doesn't mean it wasn't offensive, it just means she has more pressing matters on her mind.

 

[moonchild]

He is amazing! Im so in love with him. His family has also been very supportive when we told them about the change in plans. WWHHEEWWW.....this felt good to get off my chest. I feel alot better now!

 

[One Lil Spark]

Psst... moonchild...GO ANYWAY! It's your wedding, not hers. If the kids can't come, then tell her you'll take great photos...

CYA sis in law... DISNEY ALL THE WAY!?

 

[Debbie]

I am so sorry to hear this. Ever since I can remember you here on the forums, you have spoken of your dream to marry at Disney. I am so afraid that you will have regret, no matter how gracious you are trying to handle this. I think that's what everyone's attempt is here. I would set sis-in-law aside and in a very firm tone, let her know this has always been your dream and that it will come true. Does she want you to resent her because of this?(because I would always resent her for putting me in a situation like this). She has no right to change your game plan by announcing that the kids can't make it. She's known about this as long as we have here. She can accommadate this, but chooses not to. I would hope your mom would realize how much this dream has meant to you, and that your sis-in-law had her day, and now it's your turn.
I'm afraid of what would be next: Moonchild, how dare you get pregnant when I'm pregnant; you'll take attention away from me. or we can't have her shower on this day, the kids have to get up early for the pumpkin patch.
She certainly wasn't stubbing on you when she told your folks of their decision. and it was left up to you to problem solve. This is so unfair, it makes my blood boil. Please take a week or two to reconsider and make sure this is what you really want. I'm afraid you're going to live with the regret of settling for something you really didn't want.

Me personnally, I'd spend the rest of my years mumbling under my breath and could not be allowed to drink around her, for fear of lynching her.

 

[Main Street USA]

Originally posted by crazygirley
You aren't a woman and so you will never understand, a wedding day is HER day.

I completely understand that this is her day, which is why I've given her the same advice you did, only in a much more direct way.

In each of my posts I talk about how this is only about here and her fiance, and no one else.

 

[Pioneer Hall]

Do what you want to do. It is your day and no one should have more say in it that you and your fiance. Go to Disney World like you want to and tell the rest of your family that it is their loss if they can't come. This only comes once in a lifetime (most likely), you should have it your way.

Good Luck with whatever happens!

 

[Tramp]

Moonchild:

No one should make you feel guilty about this...no one. You are not responsible for the disruption of your wedding plans. If anyone should be crying, it's you for letting people play with your emotions and sabotaging one of the biggest events in your life.

I know how difficult it is to keep the peace in the family...you want everyone to be happy so you bend over backwards for everyone, catering to all their whims and fancies. You're probably the best in the family for understanding everyone else's problems. I'll bet you've gone crazy trying to accommodate everyone in your wedding plans....This is the start of YOUR married life, hon...and while your character fights you every step of the way to avoid conflict, let your heart be your guide. It is everyone else that needs to understand YOUR desires...It is THEY that need to come to grips with this. It's YOUR day, not theirs!...Put an end to this manipulation now....Have your Disney wedding, Moonchild, or forever hold your peace....AND regret it too!

 

[One Lil Spark]

Originally posted by Main Street USA
I completely understand that this is her day, which is why I've given her the same advice you did, only in a much more direct way.

In each of my posts I talk about how this is only about here and her fiance, and no one else.

We appriciate you Zac! (I just think you need to be told how amazing you are and how much of an asset you are on here everyonce and a while.)

 

[moonchild]

I hve been sharing all of your responses with my fiance. We decided we are not changing our plans for my brother and his wife, but rather for my parents. We are both OK with it, disappointed at first, but Ok now. After reading some of your responses, and also listening to other people, I kinda felt like I should be more upset about this then I am. I asked my fiance and he smiled and said this is one of the things he fell in love with was my laid-back, easy going nature and flexability. He said he is so glad Im not a Micro-managing , uptight, BRIDE-ZILLA. I also asked him if he thinks we will regret changing the plans. We both thought about it and decided we would regret upsetting my Mom. Its been her dream to plan my wedding as she was not asked to participate in planning my brother's wedding (Gee, that doesnt surprise anybody, right?) My Mom may not be with us for very long and I really dont think I would ever forgive myself if I didnt give my Mom the experience of planning my wedding. I asked her to come with me for my 1st fitting tomorrow and then to find a florist. She was so happy, and it made me so happy! This is what I want my wedding to be about, not " THIS IS MY DAY, I WANT THINGS MY WAY" kind of attitude. Am I making sense? Anyway, I got the church, and a reception Ballroom ( a very swanky country club) How I lucked into that , Ill never know! But everything seems to be working out so far. Thanks everyone for helping me feel good about my decision, even tho I didnt follow your advice.

 

[MinnieFan]

Moonchild... Let me just say that you have the BEST attitude about this. I'm so sorry that your wedding plans had to switch. Like others have stated, as long as I can remember you have posted questions about getting married in Disney. It sounds like you are getting quite a catch in a new husband. He is very understanding. I hope your wedding day is beautiful and just how you dreamed it would be. My husband and I honeymooned in Disney and had a wonderful time and I know you will too. Best wishes!