donaldtoo
Well-Known Member
I can tell you are really genuinely hurt by all this. That it's a really shocking revelation and has affected you pretty deeply.
What I'm about to say is something that a lot of people wouldn't. I certainly am not posting this because I feel a need to defend him, nor do I think I can change how you feel about this - but I do think it's important to put this in some context that may seem really foreign to someone who has grown up only in this millennium. I'm absolutely honest when I say I've never thought about the man until people started posting about this - I knew his name, but he could have walked past me on the street and I wouldn't have been any wiser.
I know that from your perspective, he has suddenly gone from being a brilliant man who inspired you, to a complete sexual predator. You feel betrayed, lied to - like he was secretly this terrible perverted creep underneath this whole time. I think it's important for you to understand that before this happened, he probably doesn't understand it any more than you do.
That may seem crazy, but he is an old man. From a much different time. To him, he was being affectionate to people. If you asked him, he would probably tell you that he respects, admires, and supports women, very much. I know that may sound ridiculous - how could he not realize what a terrible, awful person he was being?
Well, if you read the stories about this, you will see - people went to very great lengths to hide the fact from him that he made people uncomfortable. This is the opposite of someone like Harvey Weinstein (who committed actual crimes), who was clearly in charge of getting people to cover for him. Weinstein knew very well that what he was doing was wrong. The remarkable thing about this story is that you keep reading over and over how everyone whispered about it, but I have yet to hear anyone ever said anything to him.
You have to realize, that this stuff wasn't even talked until the last 25 years or so. And the stuff he is being accused of, really has only been considered "sexual harassment" for an even shorter period of time. "Sexual harassment" wasn't even a term until the 80's, and even into the 90's it was "if you sleep with me, you can keep your job". A hand on the knee wasn't considered a "violation", especially if the recipient doesn't move away or say "please don't do that". Unless more comes out and he actually forcefully assaulted someone, I honestly don't think he realized what he was doing was wrong.
Again, I know this seems absolutely crazy - how could he be alive in 2017 and not know this was considered terrible, predatory behavior? Because he has been a wealthy, sheltered man who has been hunkered down in an animation studio for pretty much the entire time that this stuff has become socially unacceptable.
I'm not telling you to feel badly for him - or not to feel betrayed. But I think it's important to know these things, to be able to put it into context - because I think most of us know what it's like to be your age and that first time we realized our heroes weren't perfect. That they were flawed people, just like everyone else. The parts of him that are in the films you love aren't necessarily less because he was an ignorant man of another generation, and that there is every chance he didn't even realize this about himself, until now.
I have ignored this thread for far too long.
Sorry, but, this is one of the most utterly ridiculous posts I've ever read here, or anywhere else. I'm 55 years old, and my soon-to-be 85-year-old pop (and my folks have been married for 57+ years) made this all clear and hipped me to it when I was a teen. Do not go into an office alone and close a door with a female employee, do not hug them, do not ask them how they feel about you, do not fish for compliments, etc., etc., etc.,
If he doesn't know by the time he's 60 that what he was doing was letcherous, he's dumber than a stump and needs to go just for that. I don't give a rats rear how "creative" he is, or what industry he's in. Just sick, sad excuses.
Bravo Sierra that turd didn't know what he was doing.