Thanks. I read your earlier (eloquently written) posts, and felt compelled to post again myself. I would never wish to change anyone's mind, just hopefully shed some light on the darkness. Everyone here seems like a great group, with similar values and desires.
BUT, where DOES this sense of "entitlement" come from? Isn't it enough to have the funds to purchase a park pass or ticket, walk through those hallowed gates and set yourself
FREE for the day? Isn't the sense of excitement you still get in the pit of your stomach as you near your favorite attraction a glorious
"prize/reward" enough? When did we all have to receive something tangible to feel indemnified? Adults need this economic remuneration...not children.
We all know most of us would likely go home and toss the "prize" in a drawer somewhere anyway (or sell it on eBay), so what is the big deal here? Is it the competition? Because some other family was selected, we feel inadequate? This is not the way we should feel, at all. It is not healthy. Life...just doesn't work that way. We need to take better stock of the situation, and count our blessings.
I've stood on the sidelines with a friend and witnessed soccer games where they hand out trophies to every single child who plays the game or participates. The same thing goes for the cheer/dance squads, etc. When I grew up and engaged in competitive sports, this was
NEVER the case. You learned to lose, and lose with dignity and grace. Losers were not rewarded.
There is NO shame in losing, as not everyone can win. This is where the term "losing gracefully" hails from. When one team loses the pennant or Cup or Superbowl...the other lines up to shake their hands (MLB & others). Thank God the Olympics only hands out three top medals to this day, no matter how many competitors enter each sport! Losing, is part of the game.
This was part of the lesson Ilearned associated with sports.There are winners, and losers. Not everyone is going to win in the game of life either---and pretending by honoring/rewarding everyone to avoid any hurt feelings is not necessarily a good thing. Children must learn to deal with rejection. They will receive rejections from universities, and girls/boys, and jobs they apply for.
Adversity makes people stronger. Learning to take the lumps in life, brings out positive character traits. It brings out the BEST in the human spirit. People must learn to effectively deal with the "highs and lows" no matter what it pertains to.
McDonalds is currently in the midst of their famous monopoly game. Not every piece plucked off the side of the fry or burger box is an instant winner, or a million-dollar game piece. Yet, this is what makes it even more interesting. We hold-out for
HOPE! That glorious feeling we used to have on Christmas morning, as we gathered around the tree with our siblings and parents...
HOPING the one gift we longed for the most (for me...the quinnesential PONY..LOL)...was somewhere under those branches, wrapped in holiday paper and bows. We couldn't wait to dig-in.
This, represents the best in all of us. Hoping we are chosen to receive a special pin or prize while visiting WDW, is like the
extra frosting on the cake. It should be enough, even more than enough. Just visiting the parks for the afternoon with our blessed children and loved ones is the grand prize. The most important lesson remains in teaching our children these values. It's not whether you win/lose...it will always be about
HOW you play the game.
So Please, explain the rules to your children accordingly before entering the park...placing emphasis on the
"not everyone wins" part. Then, lose the ADULT mumbo-jumbo baggage & competitiveness inside you by becoming a
child once again. Simply shuck the monkey-suit at the turnstile--and LET LOOSE! You will soon forget about all the silly prizes, and become more focused on who can beat who in the race to space mountain! :sohappy:
HAVING FUN...is the main objective. Let's not lose sight. ^_^ And...it's always when you LEAST expect it,
YOU MAY ACTUALLY WIN!!!!