Uponastar
Well-Known Member
Really? I always thought that being very dependent upon others was a sign of weakness. Self-reliance is in no way a negative quality. Indeed, if you can go through a "crisis" in your life and pull through on your own strength and will, and not that of others, are you not that much stronger by it? Does it not demonstrate more strength to accomplish things on your own?
"Holding it all in" and self-reliance are two different things.
And there is a huge difference between being very dependent and asking for help.
Realizing you need help and asking for it is a sign of maturity. That is how you develop your strengths. I don't think there's a whole lot to be said for going it alone, if you know that those who can help you are willing and able. There's a lot to be learned from give and take. Sharing your strengths and allowing yourself to be open to what others have to offer...that's the best of both worlds.