How would you handle this?????

Todd L

Todd L

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Hello everyone.....Okay so...

I have family In florida. My aunt and Uncle sadly lost their son in a Tragic accident several years ago and while at the wake and funeral My parents got friendly with some of my cousins friends.

Last year one of These friends came to visit my Parents for a week and while they were here pushed their very young child off on my parents almost every night .

They would be off having a good time until all hours and My parents (in their 70's ) would be home watching , feeding , bathing and putting this kid to sleep..This kid didnt know my parents from a hole in the wall.

I found it incredibly low class and negligent to say the least and At some point My uncle who was also visiting had to step in and put an end to it.

Well...thanks to social media these people found out that we are staying at WDW and have attempted to invite themselfs to our vacation with subtle hints that they would like to see us while we are there......

They actually said..."we REALLY wanted to go to Wdw for a few days But cant find a Baby sitter to take care of the child overnight so we can celebrate our anniversary ."

The reality is that they want a Free baby sitter and maybe a free place to crash while we foot the bill and spend our vacation watching their Kid which AINT GONNA HAPPEN.

Normally I would be VERY clear that I didnt want them around but due to the sensitivity with family connections We have taken a DONT ACKNOWLEDGE THE EMAILS stance and Hope it goes away...

I have a Bad feeling that they may not get the hint...maybe even just decide to show up at which point Id probably snap.

HOW DO I HANDLE THIS??
 
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Todd L

Todd L

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PrincessMia said:
@"SMS55- I'm right there with you! We have a trip planned in October and I haven't told a single person on my side of the family. They've even asked when we're going back and I just say I'm not sure. I put way too much work into planning something that works great for the 3 of us in my immediate family, and I have ZERO interest in sharing that with anyone else. I totally see how some people enjoy large extended family trips. That's not us, we know that about ourselves, and we don't publicize it until the last minute.
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We did two Family reunion type trips and Id be very happy to never do one again!!!! My immediate family is 4 people and my kids are 11 years apart so it can be tricky to keep everyone in my small group happy never mind when you add the expectations of extended family...
 
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disneygirl76

disneygirl76

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Todd L said:
Hello everyone.....Okay so...

I have family In florida. My aunt and Uncle sadly lost their son in a Tragic accident several years ago and while at the wake and funeral My parents got friendly with some of my cousins friends.

Last year one of These friends came to visit my Parents for a week and while they were here pushed their very young child off on my parents almost every night .

They would be off having a good time until all hours and My parents (in their 70's ) would be home watching , feeding , bathing and putting this kid to sleep..This kid didnt know my parents from a hole in the wall.

I found it incredibly low class and negligent to say the least and At some point My uncle who was also visiting had to step in and put an end to it.

Well...thanks to social media these people found out that we are staying at WDW and have attempted to invite themselfs to our vacation with subtle hints that they would like to see us while we are there......

They actually said..."we REALLY wanted to go to Wdw for a few days But cant find a Baby sitter to take care of the child overnight so we can celebrate our anniversary ."

The reality is that they want a Free baby sitter and maybe a free place to crash while we foot the bill and spend our vacation watching their Kid which AINT GONNA HAPPEN.

Normally I would be VERY clear that I didnt want them around but due to the sensitivity with family connections We have taken a DONT ACKNOWLEDGE THE EMAILS stance and Hope it goes away...

I have a Bad feeling that they may not get the hint...maybe even just decide to show up at which point Id probably snap.

HOW DO I HANDLE THIS??
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If the ignoring doesn't work, and if they do ask more directly, I would just say that you are very sorry but this is time that you spend with your immediate family. Some people don't get hints and I have had some very uncomfortable conversations when people invite themselves on our vacations. Some people just dont get it but after all the money you are spending, you don't want to have to deal with this, especially on vacation. I'm sorry you are being put in this situation.
 
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All this "I'm sorry but....." In the responses. Puh-leeze! You're not sorry and you shouldn't be. You want a vacation with just your family and that's nothing to feel guilty about. They weren't invited, aren't going to be invited and if they pull a "surprise" like Eddie in Christmas Vacation, do not pull a Clark Griswold and invite them in. Remember where that got him. Enjoy your opportunity to make memories with your kids.
 
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Ariel Savage

Ariel Savage

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I know you don't want to be rude, but what they are doing to your family is rude. I don't think there's anything wrong with ignoring their pleas for a babysitter. You could be like "Too bad you can't find a sitter. Maybe try a local babysitting service? Hope you have a great anniversary!" When people play dumb, just play dumb back.
 
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Weather_Lady

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JIMINYCR said:
DON"T give them any details of where you will be staying, or any other info. If they do track you down by chance tell them all your plans are made, can't be changed and sorry but they will have to find other arrangements. Cut em off at the knees.
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THIS! Disney World is huge. Unless they know your exact whereabouts, they'll never be able to find you. :)
 
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aristo_cat

aristo_cat

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How would I handle this?
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jencor

jencor

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I go with the being blunt. Let them know this is your vacation and you have spent a lot of time planning it out. I agree with an earlier post of if you want to hang around with us for an evening in the park, come join us, but have them understand they are joining you and the plans you have made and you are not changing what you have planned. In other words they are going by your game plan, not theirs. I have not had to look into this, but does not many places in and around Disney have babysitting services available. If so, make sure they know that.
 
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smk

smk

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I invited my sister and my mother on our trip, I got a lukewarm response, so I dropped the idea as fast as I could. Once I thought it over I wanted to take back the invite words as they were floating out of my mouth! I was secretly happy about the lukewarm response. WDW is our place, we love just strolling around and would hate the idea of being around people who bring us down OR are not wanting to be there. It is your problem in reverse, kind of. Just do what you have to do to tell them this is your family vacation that you have simply decided not to share with anyone. Time together is precious and do not share it with people who do not want to share it with you but rather want to use you for your babysitting skills.
 
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s&k'smom

s&k'smom

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People like this will take offense because there used to being pushy and rude and getting there way because people don't want to hurt there feelings, well too bad. Be blunt otherwise they will try to get in your time. I would also block there emails and unfriend them if you are on FB. Well that's what I would do. Having worked in customer service for so many years I see this all the time.
 
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mickeymatt

mickeymatt

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I agree with being blunt. Maybe it's just the older I get but i don't care about hurting someone's feelings if they are that pushy and presumptive. I would just ignore like you are doing and if they bring it up again tell them you don't know really them and what you do know of them you don't like. Chances are what ever relatives feelings you are trying to spare by being hospitable to these people will not be that hurt. They probably don't like them either even if it's their kids. Stand your ground and have a magical vacation!
 
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Tiggertoo56

Tiggertoo56

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Be blunt - why should you have your vacation ruined. Also don't post on social media for everyone to see - wait until you are actually there! And have a wonderful family trip.:)
 
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LucyK

LucyK

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Be blunt but polite. This is your family vacation and you don't want to share the moment with others. Don't give excuses, just say you won't be able to accommodate them into your schedule.

Be assertive because otherwise they'll just ignore what you're saying and show up and act like since you said nothing they're sure you won't mind.

Loved the idea of wishing them a happy anniversary while firmly saying you won't baby-sit for them.
 
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