I am in Band and the girl I like sits right in front of me and plays the flute. I have no clue what to say to her to strike up a conversation. I want to get to know her better, but I don't know how. Last year, I was on a bus with her on a field trip and flirted like crazy, but now we haven't really said much to each other. I am friends with one of her best friends, and I don't know what to do. And to throw another wrench into things, my best friend likes her too! HELP!!
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How to ask a girl out? HELP!!!!
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WDWScottieBoy
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Since you're both in band, and she plays the flute...you could always start off with...
"This one time, in band camp...." and get the conversation going from there. Might give you a good laugh, and the possibility to work up some nerve to ask her on a date.
:lookaroun :wave:
"This one time, in band camp...." and get the conversation going from there. Might give you a good laugh, and the possibility to work up some nerve to ask her on a date.
:lookaroun :wave:
Anybody else have suggestions?
StitchCrazy626 said:
Yes, say, "You remember that bus ride last year on the field trip? I had a great time." Smile, alot, and if she smiles back, ask her out, or hang out, whatever you youngins do these days.....
catinthehat
New Member
to be honest, if your friend likes her, you need to talk to him first. a girl is never worth ruining a friendship over. decide who liked her first so you don't hurt each others feelings. trust me, it is never worth it. he may even have some tips for you if he's spoken with her before!
imagineer boy
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I kinda have the same problem. I used to be in a few classes and go to church with this one girl where we did flirt like crazy, but now in High School, we have absolutly no classes together, and havn't spoken to each other for a long time. And I really like her. 
25and7
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First of all, BE YOURSELF! You guys obviously share common interests seeing that you are in band together. Personally, I would recommend talking with your friend about it first just to avoid any messy situations.
As for how to ask her out...
-Make sure when you do it you look straight into her eyes and smile! That way she knows you are being sincere and really are attracted to her. Also, when asking her out, BE SPECIFIC. DONT SAY: "You wanna go out sometime!" Thats taking the easy way out. She'd rather hear you ask her out to go somewhere and do something at a specific time and place.
I'm guessing this is your first time asking a girl out. Trust me, once you do it for the first time it becomes much easier afterwards.
One more piece of advice: if you keep on getting cold feet when it comes time to ask her, just immagine you and her being together in the future in your head and immagine how happy it would make you to be with her. That was what really worked for me.
Good Luck! And keep us updated!
Remember: the key in life is to live life with no regrets. Just immagine if you had 1 month left to live. Don't let this opportunity pass you by because you will regret it for a long time!
As for how to ask her out...
-Make sure when you do it you look straight into her eyes and smile! That way she knows you are being sincere and really are attracted to her. Also, when asking her out, BE SPECIFIC. DONT SAY: "You wanna go out sometime!" Thats taking the easy way out. She'd rather hear you ask her out to go somewhere and do something at a specific time and place.
I'm guessing this is your first time asking a girl out. Trust me, once you do it for the first time it becomes much easier afterwards.
One more piece of advice: if you keep on getting cold feet when it comes time to ask her, just immagine you and her being together in the future in your head and immagine how happy it would make you to be with her. That was what really worked for me.
Good Luck! And keep us updated!
Remember: the key in life is to live life with no regrets. Just immagine if you had 1 month left to live. Don't let this opportunity pass you by because you will regret it for a long time!
Figment1986
Well-Known Member
good luck.. I have yet to figure it out.. (and there are alot of girls i like in the HCC band program and the HCC broadcasting program.)
WDWScottieBoy said:
NOOOOOOOOOO!!!! Under no circumnstances :lol:
I'd be willing to bet everything I own she is sick to death of hearing that.
Best advice I can give- just be straightforward. A simple "Would you like to go to (fill in the blank) this Saturday?" can work wonders.
However, keep in mind that if your best friend likes her also, you might be in for some rough times.
WDWScottieBoy
Well-Known Member
Erika said:
Awww...come on Erika. You know you'd jump the opportunity to date a guy if he used that as a pick up line (and if were in band and played flute). :lol:
Way to ruin all the fun.
In all seriousness, just do as everyone else has said. Be yourself, there's nothing more important. Try not to stress over it.
WDWScottieBoy
Well-Known Member
Erika said:
:zipit:
You'd WHAT now? :lookaroun :lol:
General Grizz
New Member
Go for the great pick up lines like, "Did you just fart? Because you blew me away..."
:lookaroun
(kidding...)
:lookaroun
(kidding...)
Captain Hank
Well-Known Member
General Grizz said:
Grizz!!!!!!!!I'll echo what others have said: be yourself! Band is a great icebreaker, so try to build off some common experiences you've had, and build from there.
Number_6
Well-Known Member
First off, if you want to know what not to say, go here: http://thesims2.ea.com/liveinsim/
Second, if you ask her out right away, it might backfire. Just talk to her. Say hello, ask how she's been, how classes are going... the usual stuff. Eventually, you'll find out that there is something that she wants to do that maybe she's having a hard time finding someone else that wants to go do it. In my case, in High School, there was a girl I knew that wanted to see "The Lion King" in theaters(it was awhile ago). I knew I wanted to see the movie so I told her that I wasn't doing anything on Saturday if she wanted to go see it, I would go with her, just as a friend, so there would be no pressure. I had already been talking to her for awhile before this so we already were friends for the most part. We went and enjoyed the movie, had some popcorn and soda, then went for lunch afterwards. When I talked to her the next day she asked outright if it was a date that we had. I told her it was up to her if she wanted to consider it a date and she said she would and wanted to go out again. I ended up dating her for close to a year(this was senior year of High School) and ended the relationship while we were each at different colleges because the long distance thing was too difficult. But I wanted to share what had worked for me. Not saying that will always work, but just giving my thoughts.
Second, if you ask her out right away, it might backfire. Just talk to her. Say hello, ask how she's been, how classes are going... the usual stuff. Eventually, you'll find out that there is something that she wants to do that maybe she's having a hard time finding someone else that wants to go do it. In my case, in High School, there was a girl I knew that wanted to see "The Lion King" in theaters(it was awhile ago). I knew I wanted to see the movie so I told her that I wasn't doing anything on Saturday if she wanted to go see it, I would go with her, just as a friend, so there would be no pressure. I had already been talking to her for awhile before this so we already were friends for the most part. We went and enjoyed the movie, had some popcorn and soda, then went for lunch afterwards. When I talked to her the next day she asked outright if it was a date that we had. I told her it was up to her if she wanted to consider it a date and she said she would and wanted to go out again. I ended up dating her for close to a year(this was senior year of High School) and ended the relationship while we were each at different colleges because the long distance thing was too difficult. But I wanted to share what had worked for me. Not saying that will always work, but just giving my thoughts.
The_CEO said:OK well if you haven't talked to her in awhile, asking her out randomly isn't going to win her over. Sit with her at lunch, talk to her and get to know her. Then.. If she is nice back, and you all flirt AGAIN.. Ask her out on a date. It's easy..
And what makes you an expert? :lookaroun
DisneyFreak529
New Member
I have a great pick up line......
"I seemed to have lost my number can I borrow yours?"
"I seemed to have lost my number can I borrow yours?"
barnum42
New Member
Try a variation on this:
"Hi, as much fun as it is playing in the band with you , I think it would be great to get to know each other better. How about we meet up some time?".
It's an open question that can't be answered with a simple "yes" or "no". Also it puts no pressure on the girl but is a good start point for where to go from there.
If she is interested say "OK, how about we go bowling on Tuesday at 7:00?" Best to pick an activity rather than a straight meeting so that you have something to do that can cover the potential pregnant pauses.
"Hi, as much fun as it is playing in the band with you , I think it would be great to get to know each other better. How about we meet up some time?".
It's an open question that can't be answered with a simple "yes" or "no". Also it puts no pressure on the girl but is a good start point for where to go from there.
If she is interested say "OK, how about we go bowling on Tuesday at 7:00?" Best to pick an activity rather than a straight meeting so that you have something to do that can cover the potential pregnant pauses.
