Help neeeded for a college aged student...

[DroppedBurger]

Ok I have a big problem! I just moved back home to go to college. I had lived on campus for two years but decided that the "dorm life" wasn't for me. Well now that I'm back home all of my old friends have gone off to other things and there is practically nobody my age around here to hang out with. I need some tips on what to do to make new friends! I know this sounds like something a 2nd grader would ask but I think its hard when you go through life with the same people and now you have nobody! Hard times.... If anyone has gone thru this and could tell me what they did it'd be great! Thanks!

 

[DDuckFan130]

Hi and welcome to the boards :wave:.

I can tell you from my perspective that I did not move away to go to college. My campus is 10 minutes away from where I live. As far as my friends go, I still have one (maybe 2) best friend that I've known since 10th grade (am now a junior in college). I put maybe 2 because my other friends have moved on to other things and the 2nd friend is distancing herself so it's just my best friend and I. Anyway, I now made a new friend in a class I took in the summer. We found we had a lot in common and we're still friends. My point is that you can make friends in your very own classes. You probably will have a lot of group work in your classes anyway, so take advantage and strike up some conversations :lol:. In the end, it's not about quantity, but quality that counts .

Did I make sense? Hope so :wave:

 

[Tramp]

Ok I have a big problem! I just moved back home to go to college. I had lived on campus for two years but decided that the "dorm life" wasn't for me. Well now that I'm back home all of my old friends have gone off to other things and there is practically nobody my age around here to hang out with. I need some tips on what to do to make new friends! I know this sounds like something a 2nd grader would ask but I think its hard when you go through life with the same people and now you have nobody! Hard times.... If anyone has gone thru this and could tell me what they did it'd be great! Thanks!

Get a part-time job and you'll meet a brand new group of friends. :wave:


PS: I hope you're not pulling our leg. Seems a bit strange that someone looking for life advice would pick a Mickey Mouse forum to find it.

 

[DroppedBurger]

Get a part-time job and you'll meet a brand new group of friends. :wave:

I do, but the problem is is that "most" of them are either married or engaged and not very close to my age. Although there are a few people around my age, it would be too awkward for me to say "hey wanna hang out outiside of work!?" Lol I guess maybe I'm afraid of rejection and change.

 

[Legacy]

It's normal for the circle of friends from high school to fall apart after graduation. It's inevitable. Best advice is to just get a new group of friends, be it from school or from work.

 

[DroppedBurger]

Best advice is to just get a new group of friends, be it from school or from work.

Gee you think!? LOL My problem is how! It's been so long since I've had to make new friends and its so very hard to start from scratch with nobody.

 

[Tramp]

Lol I guess maybe I'm afraid of rejection and change.

I think you've identified your problem. Rejection and change are major components of life and maturity will teach you to deal with them.

I know of a surefire way to overcome your shyness......USMC. :wave:

 

[Legacy]

I know of a surefire way to overcome your shyness......USMC. :wave:

Or the Army.

That works too.

:animwink: :wave: HI TRAMP!

 

[tigger248]

I know exactly how you're feeling droppedburger. I don't really have any friends either. I guess I'm a little shy in places like school. I have friends at work who I don't really do much with outside of work. I have a friend a school (who I also work with) who I hang out with during breaks between classes (we both have a 2 hour break at the same time). And I have a friend who lives in Fl and was my roomate on my cp. She's on her second program. Otherwise, that's about it. I see people from high school, and we exchange numbers and say we'll hang out and never do. Good luck in the friend department!

 

[Atta83]

Ok I have a big problem! I just moved back home to go to college. I had lived on campus for two years but decided that the "dorm life" wasn't for me. Well now that I'm back home all of my old friends have gone off to other things and there is practically nobody my age around here to hang out with. I need some tips on what to do to make new friends! I know this sounds like something a 2nd grader would ask but I think its hard when you go through life with the same people and now you have nobody! Hard times.... If anyone has gone thru this and could tell me what they did it'd be great! Thanks!

Yep thats me all around.. I have no friends here as well. I am though actually proud to say i am friends with a 4 year old. . I would get a part time job to make friends but my parents do not want me working a part time job due to the fact of how many hours i am taking. I have friends in my classes but no one really wants to hang out..its either they are busy or i guess im not cool to hang around with LOL :lookaroun :lol:

 

[Erika]

I did not go away to school either.

I stayed in touch with my friends who did and got to know others in my classes. I was working a lot though and didn't really have a lot of time to do too much outside of work/school.

I wouldn't pass on making a friend just because he/she is married or engaged. We like to have fun too :lol:

Are there any school activities that you could get involved in? Clubs, etc?

 

[WDWScottieBoy]

Just go to coffee shops or gatherings in the area. Sporting events are awlays fun and you might find friends there. There are plenty of places to find them, you just have to look or sit back and wait for them to come to you.


Also, how is it that after the posts he's made, his post count is still at 0?!?

 

[imagineer99]

^^ CHIT CHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Become a tour guide...that's what I did!

 

[Wilt Dasney]

I graduated from college a few months ago and came back home to find almost everybody I used to spend time with moved, married, or still away at school. It's just a part of life, I think. I used to have no less than half a dozen people I could call on at any given time, and I came back to basically one.

I've since started working and met a few people I feel comfortable spending time with, but then, my job gives me access to meeting people outside of work, so that may not work for everybody.

Hang in there...don't be afraid to do things by yourself. Go to ballgames, movies, bars, beaches, wherever you feel comfortable. Eventually you'll find a couple of people you click with...usually when you least expect to.

There's no real secret formula, other than this, I think: Whenever you get to the point that you're not bothered by the thought of being alone, you'll probably find that you won't have to be. Translation: Find ways to enjoy being by yourself, and eventually the friends will come. Good luck.

 

[stranger]

... but I think its hard when you go through life with the same people and now you have nobody!

I find it more exciting meeting new people, but agree it can be difficult to get the ball in motion. One way of meeting new people is by getting out there. Go out do something you enjoy, like a sport activity, hanging out at the gym or something that peaks your interest. This will give you an opportunity of meeting people you have something in common with. I started taking a dance class and meet many nice and interesting people. We shared the same passion for dance and as the weeks went by we became more comfortable with each other. I agree with Erika, married and engaged people like to have fun too. Don’t cross them off you potential friends lists.

:wave:

 

[disneymoc]

I agree with Erika, married and engaged people like to have fun too. Don’t cross them off you potential friends lists.

:wave:

Couldn't have said it better. This is coming from a married man. -- Who has a craving for cheese on occasion. :lookaroun

 

[Al]

I think if you try everything that has been said you should be well on your way. A good idea would just be to try talking to people, maybe you could a make a point of talking to someone each day who you haven't spoken to before?

You say you're still at College and are missing out on things, what I would say would be that if you can't get to the party, why don't you bring the party to you?