Guys, I froze!!!

[JustPlainBill]

In my family, I'm the impulsive one and my wife is the one that exhibits restraint. I'm the spender, she's the saver. I'm sure your hesitation was the right thing to do. In my case if the roles were reversed if my wife wanted to suddenly go to WDW in a relatively short period of time, not only would I think she lost her senses, but I wouldn't 2nd guess it because I know if she want's to do it, we must be able to afford it. Though I guess I would try to talk her down a bit, just in case she did go crazy temporarily.
Just last night she was having second thoughts about our trip to WDW coming up in 9 days. She worried about the gas prices, or did we make too many table service ADRs, should we cut back?
I know at these times after 21 years of marraige that she just nervous. My first reaction is to brush her concerns off, but I know from experience that will only make it worse for her. I instead joke about it and try to lighten things up, and it seemed to calm her down. While vacations relax me, it taxes my wife to end, the eternal planner and worrier! If it wasn't for her I'd be in debt and living in filth!

 

[PhotoDave219]

Correct, a good wife knows her place.

Amen!!

 

[earningmyfins]

you did the right thing but you feel guilty now...
if it were me i would've done it only because he said so. that way later when he regrets it you can blame it on him.

that sounds pretty harsh! let's just say you did the right thing.

 

[Yankeeplex]

I would have booked it...he handed you the credit card...obviously he is fried and would like something to look forward to that doesn't bleed into 2009. You can always cancel, but clearly he was giving you the sign...

 

[wedway71]

I think I posted this in the right place, if not please feel free to move it.
This is kind of long...

Like many of you out there, my Husband and I love planning every detail of our vacations to WDW. It is part of the fun to be able to plan the months away and make our vacation as smooth and carefree as possible. With that being said, this is the situation that occured last night!

I could have taken total advantage of my Husband! He had a miserable day at work and was cooked when he got home. He is an Enviromental Engineer and works for a private construction testing company and was just exhausted mentally and physically from his day. We had our usual Monday night with dinner and our nightly walk with our dog and baby, nothing unusual until later in the evening. I was checking our E-Mail when he sat next to me and said, "Wouldn't it be fun to go to WDW for 4 days this October?" Of course I said yes and made sure he wasn't meaning in place of our longer trip we are beginning to plan for May 09. He said "No" and implyed we could do both! This is so completely out of character for him so I didn't ask too many more questions. Then he got out the calender, picked dates, had me check out the Jet Blue web sight for flights, checked out prices for rooms at a moderate resort, handed me the credit card and said, "Book it!" I froze!!! I didn't do it! I just felt like he had such a horrible day at work and this is where this was coming from! I didn't want to take advantage of him because I know he was in a "I really, really miss Disney mood" and I thought he would regret it once it was booked.
We are a once a year Disney family. With the cost of running our house, cars, my business and just life expenses, there really isn't too much room to plan a quick Disney getaway! We live very comfortably but I think this would just make things really tight.
I didn't sleep at all last night. I kept thinking I was nuts for not going for it! I haven't talked to him yet today (he left at 5:00 a.m.) so I don't exactly know what he is thinking but I want to know what you guys think! Do you think I did the right thing? Or do you think I should have taken advantage of the situation and booked everything?

Things to ask yourself if things are tight but want to go to WDW....

A- Do we really have to eat this month?

B-If we park the car in the Garage,can they still REPO it?

C-Can I fake a Chineese accent so when the bill collectors call I can answer..."WONGS CHINEESE RESTARAUNT.....YOU HAVE WRONG NUMBER!"

If so.....BOOK IT.

 

[Kelsybelle]

Probably not. As you can see on the main forum menu page (http://forums.wdwmagic.com/), the WDW Parks General Discussion board subheading reads, "Discuss everyday happenings at Walt Disney World." I did not read anything in your post pertaining to happenings at Walt Disney World. :shrug: Maybe Chit Chat, or possibly Trip Planning...

I really didn't know if I did post it in the correct place! Good to know that you are a thread placement pro, so in the future I know you'll be watching! :animwink:

KelsyBelle,
I wanted to wait to respond until you posted the update. I admire your restraint - something I could never do! LOL Have fun with your trip planning until May and I do hope you get to go for the F&WF in the future (as much as the weather sucked for us last year, the festival was fabualous - lots and lots of different and exciting foods to try!).

As for Timekeeper - I don't think anyone else had a problem with her posting where she did (as you can see by our responses).

And I think MousDad is right, Pumbas Nakasak - that is you in COP! LOL

You all have a great day!

Thank you!

You're asking if you SHOULD have taken advantage of your husband?! The answer is always "No!" Don't EVER take advantage of a spouse. Secondly, I wouldn't have thought about it all night or fretted about it in any way, I would have discussed the situation. If that discussion had to wait until the next day then so be it.

Hey what can I say, I didn't take advantage of him now did !? As for being up all night, that is just the way I'am! I knew I would talk to him as soon as we had time to! I'm a very sensitve person!

Correct, a good wife knows her place.

Absolutely!!! :ROFLOL:

In my family, I'm the impulsive one and my wife is the one that exhibits restraint. I'm the spender, she's the saver. I'm sure your hesitation was the right thing to do. In my case if the roles were reversed if my wife wanted to suddenly go to WDW in a relatively short period of time, not only would I think she lost her senses, but I wouldn't 2nd guess it because I know if she want's to do it, we must be able to afford it. Though I guess I would try to talk her down a bit, just in case she did go crazy temporarily.
Just last night she was having second thoughts about our trip to WDW coming up in 9 days. She worried about the gas prices, or did we make too many table service ADRs, should we cut back?
I know at these times after 21 years of marraige that she just nervous. My first reaction is to brush her concerns off, but I know from experience that will only make it worse for her. I instead joke about it and try to lighten things up, and it seemed to calm her down. While vacations relax me, it taxes my wife to end, the eternal planner and worrier! If it wasn't for her I'd be in debt and living in filth!

JustPlainBill, I hear just where your coming from! Your wife just sounds nervous that the trip is getting here so quickly! My husband would be doing the same thing!

you did the right thing but you feel guilty now...
if it were me i would've done it only because he said so. that way later when he regrets it you can blame it on him.

that sounds pretty harsh! let's just say you did the right thing.

Oh, no I don't feel guilty now at all! I would have felt guilty if I had booked everything and played on his emotions! My husband and I don't base our marriage on the blame game, if he really, really, really wanted to go, then I'm sure we could have figured out away to do it!

I would have booked it...he handed you the credit card...obviously he is fried and would like something to look forward to that doesn't bleed into 2009. You can always cancel, but clearly he was giving you the sign...

Your right Yankeeplex but when he got home and we talked about it, he was really relieved and thankful! It's funny how things work out because this morning we got a wopping oil delivery! 290 gallons at $4.82 a gallon!

 

[Senderella]

I think I posted this in the right place, if not please feel free to move it.
This is kind of long...

Like many of you out there, my Husband and I love planning every detail of our vacations to WDW. It is part of the fun to be able to plan the months away and make our vacation as smooth and carefree as possible. With that being said, this is the situation that occured last night!

I could have taken total advantage of my Husband! He had a miserable day at work and was cooked when he got home. He is an Enviromental Engineer and works for a private construction testing company and was just exhausted mentally and physically from his day. We had our usual Monday night with dinner and our nightly walk with our dog and baby, nothing unusual until later in the evening. I was checking our E-Mail when he sat next to me and said, "Wouldn't it be fun to go to WDW for 4 days this October?" Of course I said yes and made sure he wasn't meaning in place of our longer trip we are beginning to plan for May 09. He said "No" and implyed we could do both! This is so completely out of character for him so I didn't ask too many more questions. Then he got out the calender, picked dates, had me check out the Jet Blue web sight for flights, checked out prices for rooms at a moderate resort, handed me the credit card and said, "Book it!" I froze!!! I didn't do it! I just felt like he had such a horrible day at work and this is where this was coming from! I didn't want to take advantage of him because I know he was in a "I really, really miss Disney mood" and I thought he would regret it once it was booked.
We are a once a year Disney family. With the cost of running our house, cars, my business and just life expenses, there really isn't too much room to plan a quick Disney getaway! We live very comfortably but I think this would just make things really tight.
I didn't sleep at all last night. I kept thinking I was nuts for not going for it! I haven't talked to him yet today (he left at 5:00 a.m.) so I don't exactly know what he is thinking but I want to know what you guys think! Do you think I did the right thing? Or do you think I should have taken advantage of the situation and booked everything?

You did the right thing. Just ask him tonight or this weekend (if he's in a better mood/frame of mind) if he was serious. If he was DO IT! :wave:

 

[Kelsybelle]

Things to ask yourself if things are tight but want to go to WDW....

A- Do we really have to eat this month?

B-If we park the car in the Garage,can they still REPO it?

C-Can I fake a Chineese accent so when the bill collectors call I can answer..."WONGS CHINEESE RESTARAUNT.....YOU HAVE WRONG NUMBER!"

If so.....BOOK IT.

:ROFLOL:Wedway71, thanks for the good laugh!

 

[NewfieFan]

:ROFLOL:Wedway71, thanks for the good laugh!

Yes, that was a good one!:lol:

We could probably start a thread like that... Things to ask yourself if the money is tight but you still want to go to WDW...

 

[Timekeeper]

I really didn't know if I did post it in the correct place! Good to know that you are a thread placement pro, so in the future I know you'll be watching! :animwink:

The Timekeeper is always watching... :lookaroun

The message board category headings are really more like loose suggestions anyway.