Girlfriend Mad

[durangojim]

Hi guys,

Just wanted some advice. I have had a holiday booked to Walt Disney World for two years and been talked about for three years with a couple of friends. I was really looking forward to it, then about a year ago I met my girlfriend. She is not happy about me going even though she knew about it from the start. Am I being horrible by still going or do you think I should have cancelled it.

I couldn't add her in to the holiday as my friends wouldn't like it and money would have been an issue. Just wanting advice on whether I'm being a really horrible person here.

Thanks

This is not rocket science.
Why can't you add her? If money is the issue, just ask her to pay. If it's not the issue and she can't understand, then dump her before you go so you can hopefully meet a fellow Disney World fan and enjoy some great company besides your friends on your trip.

 

[Laura]

Hi guys,

Just wanted some advice. I have had a holiday booked to Walt Disney World for two years and been talked about for three years with a couple of friends. I was really looking forward to it, then about a year ago I met my girlfriend. She is not happy about me going even though she knew about it from the start. Am I being horrible by still going or do you think I should have cancelled it.

I couldn't add her in to the holiday as my friends wouldn't like it and money would have been an issue. Just wanting advice on whether I'm being a really horrible person here.

Thanks

Did anyone actually read the original post?

The only thing he said was that his girlfriend was unhappy about him going. But because she's unhappy, everyone's jumped on some bandwagon that she's a horrible, controlling person that deserves to be dumped?

No one likes to be left out. No one likes to be away from the person they love for an extended amount of time. Given the fact that the OP used the term "holiday" implies that he's probably traveling from halfway around the world. That's a huge separation. The fact that she expressed her feelings doesn't make her some sort of evil psycho-maniac. It's probably going to be hard on her.

All these assumptions have been made about the girl, but none about the guy. Maybe the OP has a history of getting into trouble (drinking, flirting, etc.) when he's with this particular group of friends. I don't think it's fair to make so many hasty judgements about the girl, knowing absolutely nothing about her.

 

[durangojim]

Did anyone actually read the original post?

The only thing he said was that his girlfriend was unhappy about him going. But because she's unhappy, everyone's jumped on some bandwagon that she's a horrible, controlling person that deserves to be dumped?

No one likes to be left out. No one likes to be away from the person they love for an extended amount of time. Given the fact that the OP used the term "holiday" implies that he's probably traveling from halfway around the world. That's a huge separation. The fact that she expressed her feelings doesn't make her some sort of evil psycho-maniac. It's probably going to be hard on her.

All these assumptions have been made about the girl, but none about the guy. Maybe the OP has a history of getting into trouble (drinking, flirting, etc.) when he's with this particular group of friends. I don't think it's fair to make so many hasty judgements about the girl, knowing absolutely nothing about her.

You're not the girlfriend are you?:lol:
If the OP -- the guy had been the type who's gotten into trouble in the past, I doubt seriously he'd be posting on this board, let alone care about what his GF is worried about. I don't think anyone said she's horrible, just that she doesn't seem too mature, and frankly neither does the OP as is evidenced by posting his problem to a bunch of strangers on an internet message board.

 

[Walt Disney1955]

Well man put it this way. In October of 2006 I met my future wife. I told her right off the bat that I had a trip planned with some male friends to Pittsburgh for a hockey game in January 2007. She was okay with it. And I had a weekend trip with my brother in law planned the summer of 2007 to old Yankee Stadium to watch a baseball game. I did both of these trips without her and she was fine with it. I picked her up a souvenir of course.

The point is we weren't attached at the hip. We are individuals and while we had/have some excellent memories together we also know there needs to be a time once in a while for a trip with just your guys. I was faithful to her of course and we got married in 2008. Your girlfriend just missed the boat going to Disney and while that might be rough, plan a trip (or a honeymoon) with her there. Nothing stops her from taking a trip with some girlfriends somewhere else right?

Trust me, absence makes the heart grow fonder

 

[FreedomWrangler]

I wonder what The Mom would say about this scenario. I agree, go.

The following quote is, obviously, from a wise individual:

Honestly...harshly honest...Tell her she is nuts and that you are going. Hold up Jay-Z's "Da Rock" sign while telling her as well.

 

[cowanfamily]

You're not the girlfriend are you?:lol:
If the OP -- the guy had been the type who's gotten into trouble in the past, I doubt seriously he'd be posting on this board, let alone care about what his GF is worried about. I don't think anyone said she's horrible, just that she doesn't seem too mature, and frankly neither does the OP as is evidenced by posting his problem to a bunch of strangers on an internet message board.

"Stage 4 clinger"

 

[Herky]

I'm not sure if I can answer correctly without more information.

Is she good looking?

Are you out-kicking your coverage by dating her?

 

[acishere]

Hmm based on the information given this sounds like it could be every single one of my ex-girlfriends that you are seeing now. At this point you put too much money and effort into planning a vacation to cancel. Just tell her that, then say you can go on a trip with her another time. Buy her a gift if she gets over it. If she still wants you to cancel you just have to make a decision. Do you have a chance of scoring a girl that is just as hot as this one or better ever again? If yes, then get on the plane, and don't get her anything. If this is a girl that you are shocked you are even dating, well have fun watching The Notebook while your friends ride Space Mountain.

 

[isman250]

Just another case of a woman testing her power, go on the trip and enjoy yourself. I had to laugh, that you are actually caring when she knew a long time ago.

 

[MAF]

Dump. Her. No woman is worth missing a WDW trip!

 

[lighteningqueen]

Guys since his post he has not once responded to anything.I think this is someone trying to start something up He is new here as well. I would not respond anymore to this poster.Get onto ALL THINGS DISNEY.. not a psychiatrist office. LOL

 

[Bravo 229]

Go and have fun bro, this is a once in a lifetime trip for some people!

 

[blackthidot]

I wonder what The Mom would say about this scenario. I agree, go.

The following quote is, obviously, from a wise individual:

Yeah I was totally serious too. That or chuck them deuces up!

 

[loveofamouse]

Wow... so much hate for the girl. He didn't say she wanted him to cancel. He's feeling guilt. lol. Maybe she's just going to miss you and feels left out. Yeah, she knew it a year ago when you met but she might not have thought y'all would be together a year later. I would think, since you guys have been together for a year, that she just wishes she was going. Start talking to her about a trip the two of you could take later. Tell her to search out some places/ideas.

 

[captainkidd]

go on the trip! Dump the girl! Then take the money you were putting back for a ring and book a bounceback offer while your there!

:lol:

 

[Tomi-Rocket]

what if.....

This trip has been planned for longer than you've even known her. Imagine that you don't go and then for whatever reason you break-up. Are you mad at yourself for cancelling?

Be careful, she sounds extremely insecure. And that is not a quality that gets better over time, unfortunately. How she gets that you don't care for her by going on this trip is beyond me. It could also be a case that if she truly cared for you she'd want you to go?

Good luck, I hope everything works out for you!!

 

[disneyrcks]

"Stage 4 clinger"

:ROFLOL:

OP...go and have a good time, you are not a bad person for going on your trip and you should not feel guilty. If she is feeling insecure or left out, let her know that when you get back you will spend some QT with her and try to check in with her from time to time on your vacation. Trust me the day will come when she will want to have a girls trip and she will understand why she is being unreasonable in this senario. Have fun!

 

[TalkingHead]

A Disney theme park fan site is probably not the best place to go for relationship advice, especially if it involves a question about a WDW vacation.

 

[disneyrcks]

Yeah I was totally serious too. That or chuck them deuces up!

I just don't understand how throwing poops in the air will help this situation?

j/k :lol:

 

[blackthidot]

I just don't understand how throwing poops in the air will help this situation?

j/k :lol:

Haha ask Chris Brown.