First Date

[CaptainMichael]

I am a 17 year old guy who has never been on a date before . Tomorrow night I am probably going out with some girl from school. I live in a suburban town where the only thing to really do is go see a movie or go to the mall. What movie should I take my date to see? I was thinking of King Arthur. I've already seen Dodgeball, Anchorman, and Spider-man. Opinions would be appreciated!

 

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

yay dates are so fun!!!

ask her what she would like to see... you should go to a movie and then go get coffee or a snack a the diner or something and talk about the movie...it'll be a great ice breaker and then you'll feel comfortable enough to really get to know each other

have a wonderful time and come back to tell us how it went!!

 

[SpongeScott]

1. make sure the movie you see will not make her uncomfortable in any way. Give her a choice of which one she would like to see.

2. treat her like a lady (open doors for her, etc.)

3. don't be someone you're not--be yourself.

4. have fun!!

 

[TAC]

Yes, definitely ask her what she would like to see. If she wants to see Spiderman 2, DON'T say "I've seen that one before" and don't whisper stuff about what's going to happen next in the theatre.

After (as someone else mentioned), go for ice cream or something, where you can talk.

Don't put her on a pedestal, but don't be a jerk to her either.

GL!

 

[Wilt Dasney]

1. Apply cologne sparingly and strategically.

2. Do not, at any point, ask her to pull your finger.

3. Do not stare openly. Learn the value of a prolonged sideways glance or strategic use of mirrors.

4. Don't listen to anything I say.

5. Have fun. :wave:

 

[barnum42]

2. Do not, at any point, ask her to pull your finger.

That could be where I have been going wrong :lol:

Seriously though - Str8 just be yourself, act naturally and dont worry about taking a few seconds to formulate a reply rather than just rattling off the first fool thing that comes into your head. If the girl is worth it she will like the fact that you think before you speak.

Oh yes - and don't let her find out you refered to her as "SOME girl" :lol:

Have fun.

 

[JBSLJames]

Funny thing is that dates haven't changed much over the years. My idea of a date with my wife of over 12 years is Dinner, Movie, and out for some Ice Cream (which we get extra of and take some back to the sitter as a bonus-of course the sitter is usually the in-laws).

Have a great time. The advice above is right on. Be yourself. :wave:

 

[Erika]

All of the above is good advice!

I can't stress enough how important it is to do something after the movie. Otherwise you both end up back at home realizing you don't know each other any better than before the date.

King Arthur could be a really good or a really bad choice, depending on how squeamish she is. A lot of girls have a hard time with all that gore. I liked the movie well enough but I know some people who would not see it. Ask her ahead of time what she wants to see.


Have fun :wave:

 

[WDWFREAK53]

2. Do not, at any point, ask her to pull your finger.

I disagree...it worked for Gary! :lookaroun

Ok...

Is dinner out of the question?

 

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

I disagree...it worked for Gary! :lookaroun

Ok...

Is dinner out of the question?

well we dont want to assume he's made of money...
I mentioned going AFTER the movie only so they definately have something to talk about just in case they're nervous

 

[speck76]

I never thought movies were good for a first date....you spend 2 hours watching a movie, not talking/getting to know each other.

You may want to stick with dinner and an activity, like miniature golf, or something like that.


(and take the bases as they come, don't try to steal a base on the first date)

 

[Boo's Mom]

don't feel bad that you are 17 and haven't been on a date. i'm 18 and have never been on a date or actually had a boyfriend. i guess i'm too independent. I don't have enough hours in the day now as it is

 

[WDWFREAK53]

I don't have enough hours in the day now as it is

:lol: *ticket to the busy thread*

Now...miniature golf...I had thought of this but didn't post because I thought (at that age)...girls may think that's not "cool" ...but after thinking about it...if she doesn't like miniature golf...she's not FUN!

I agree about not stealing bases before they are available...a kiss on the cheek on a first date is the way to go! That's like a bunt to first...but not actually getting to first...but almost "walks" you to first the next time you get up :lol:

 

[Erika]

I never thought movies were good for a first date....you spend 2 hours watching a movie, not talking/getting to know each other.

You may want to stick with dinner and an activity, like miniature golf, or something like that.


(and take the bases as they come, don't try to steal a base on the first date)

Mini golf is a great idea. I hadn't even thought about that one, but yes, I went there lots of times on dates! It's good because it allows you to talk more than going to the movies, but still keeps you occupied enough to avoid too many of those awkward silences.

And don't forget to fudge the scorecard so that she is always winning :lol:

 

[WDWFREAK53]

And don't forget to fudge the scorecard so that she is always winning :lol:

Or go with Turkey...and everyone wins :sohappy:

Mini-golf is the way to go...seriously...lots of laughs because you can hit REALLY bad and joke about it and she can rub it in because she'll be better than you

(BTW...I've just noticed that none of the guys (including myself) have good "game" :lol: )

 

[speck76]

I agree about not stealing bases before they are available...a kiss on the cheek on a first date is the way to go! That's like a bunt to first...but not actually getting to first...but almost "walks" you to first the next time you get up :lol:

In short, a sacrifice bunt on your first at bat may lead to an intentional pass the next time you come up....in a short while, the pitcher will be throwing them straight down the middle

 

[Wckd Queen]

I never thought movies were good for a first date....you spend 2 hours watching a movie, not talking/getting to know each other.

You may want to stick with dinner and an activity, like miniature golf, or something like that.


(and take the bases as they come, don't try to steal a base on the first date)

I agree Specky, although I have been on more than my fair share of first dates that made me WISH we had gone to a movie and spent 2 hours NOT talking! :lol:

I too think dinner and a fun activity like mini golf is a good way to go. Had Mr Potatohead thought of that instead of Mexican food on our first outting, I might be MRS Potatohead now :lol:

 

[WDWFREAK53]

Ok...you want to look good...

I suggest...if you're going out "casually"...

If it's cool out...

Nice fitting jeans (preferably with a "faded/worn" color)
A long sleeved button up shirt (try a gray/blue...like the darker color of the forums LOL)
CLEAN UNDERWEAR :lol:
NO WHITE SOCKS
NO SNEAKERS

If it's casual and warm out.
Khaki cargo shorts (a little frayed at the bottom is good...if not, that's fine)
a long sleeve shirt (some shade of blue or green)...loosely roll the sleeves up to your elbows.
Sandals.

That's all for todays edition of Queer Freak for the Straight Geek :lol:

(No offense)

 

[stranger]

I agree about not stealing bases before they are available...a kiss on the cheek on a first date is the way to go! That's like a bunt to first...but not actually getting to first...but almost "walks" you to first the next time you get up :lol:

...or a simple hug will do :wave: .

 

[speck76]

...or a simple hug will do :wave: .

sure....if he wants to be "just friends" :lookaroun