i know very little about autism. so, i'm genuinely asking a question(s) out of wanting to understand.
you said that going to disney has helped him, even though he has had his moments in the past. i'm curious, if you know, if there were certain things, sounds, sights, and so on, that you picked up on that helped him while at disney that you learned to better help him and also perhaps notice other certain things that might cause a disruption? have you been able to better plan a trip to disney for him, and your family, to enjoy by learning what helps and what doesn't?
Not a problem! (Advance warning for a long post. If anyone doesn't want a long winded recap of how I tour WDW with my son, feel free to skip this post.)
And the answer is absolutely, we have used his reactions to adapt the way we do the parks. I’ll give you a few examples.
- Our first trip with my son when he was three and mostly non-verbal included some of his first non-scripted interactions since he had regressed at age 1. He showed a preference for Small World, Pooh, and the carousel. We were so astonished by his actual expression of desire for anything that we basically rode those rides non-stop the entire week. To this day they are still some of his favorites having since been joined by Pirates, Spaceship Earth, LWTL, and Kilimanjaro Safaris.
- On subsequent trips we used those rides as rewards for driving behavior. When we started he could barely wait on any line. So, I would start easy with the requirement he wait the 10 minutes for small world or Tiki Room and if he did a good job reward hime with a GAC’d ride on Pooh (the ultimate favorite and best driver of behavior). Over time we’d expand on that. Longer lines, multiple rides. Longer shows.
- These days, we don’t really do one for one rewards anymore. He’s 10 now and has mostly grown out of the need for that. But we make a visual schedule for him of his day. If we are going to Epcot and MK one day, He will have a visual schedule that has the hotel room-epcot-hotel room- MK- hotel room. This way he knows the routine for the day. Then we negotiate our plans.
Typical morning conversation:
Son(looking at schedule): First Epcot, then hotel, then Magic Kingdom, then sleep.
Me: That’s right
Son: What will you do at Epcot today?
Me: We’ll go on rides, then eat at the restaurant then take the bus home.
Son: First Spaceship earth, then restaurant, then bus.
Me: First Spaceship earth, then “go on rides”. Then restaurant, then bus.
Son: First Spaceship earth, then “farm ride” then go on rides, then restaurant, then bus.
This continues until we’ve negotiated our morning plans. Once he has the schedule down in his head, he is far less likely to have any issues. Although a break in that schedule due to weather or ride breakdown can be problematic. I always try to leave in “go on rides” to create a buffer. Then he can’t accuse me of lying no matter what we do in between.
We are always out of the park by 12:30 and don’t go back until dinner time to keep him away from the worst crowds. We always travel at less busy times of year, to lower the impact on his comfort level. We always fly first thing in the morning to minimize security waits at the airport. All things I’ve picked up over time that make it a more comfortable experience for him and therefore more fun for the rest of us. It’s an evolving strategy. There are always new issues each time we go. But, I’d rather work at this than rely on Disney to make his experience perfect. What they do with DAS is welcome and has been a great help, but I don’t want him reliant on it, because things change. And he doesn’t respond well to change. So, I like to leave the variables like GAC/DAS to a minimum. Now if I could only find some way to ensure they never close down that Pooh ride.
Sorry for the long post.