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MouseMadness
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I just assumed it was the water in Detroit making me infertile. :lookaroun
Stitch79
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Yup, I feel your pain! I've been with my boyfriend for 5 and a half years. 
There are reasons we are waiting, but I'm still impatient.
The one bonus is that I have done so much planning and research that I'll only need about 6 months to be engaged since I know what and how I want to do things.
There are reasons we are waiting, but I'm still impatient.
The one bonus is that I have done so much planning and research that I'll only need about 6 months to be engaged since I know what and how I want to do things.
wdwhoneymooner
Well-Known Member
I've been married now for 5 years and it's been fantastic. If a person waits for a "perfect ring" or for more money, then the wait may be forever. I didn't give my wife a ring from Tiffany's nor did I have tons of money, but what I gave her represented all my love including my willingness to dedicate my life to her. We've built a good life together so far which includes two great children. Money will be earned and things will be purchased. But love is not based on what can be bought.
I suppose the same could be applied to having children. Some couples hold off for more $ or the "right time". Just remember this: Did your parents hold off having you for these reasons? Perhaps not. But they did try to do the best they could.
I suppose the same could be applied to having children. Some couples hold off for more $ or the "right time". Just remember this: Did your parents hold off having you for these reasons? Perhaps not. But they did try to do the best they could.
JBSLJames
New Member
Originally posted by Erika
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I guess they are everywhere
I concur on some issues, but I think my wife and I viewed our dating (4 1/2 years) and the 2 years after marriage as our "Time together - Phase 1". We both wanted kids and to be done with birth issues before we reached 30. That way, when our kids are teens, we will still be in our 40's. As you said Erica, there are trade-offs around every corner.
If you wait until you "think" you have the money you "need" than you may wait forever.
Best of luck to you and yours. GB.
All these things are true- but remember- for every couple that waits too long, there is another couple who rushes into things. Getting married as soon as John and I did was the right decision for us, but that doesn't mean it's the right decision for everybody.
As far as parents holding off- actually mine did the exact same thing as us! Spent a good 5 years alone together before I came along. Monkey see, monkey do!
To add a PS- financially speaking- sometimes it is not about having more money, but about being able to stay at home with your children. That's how we plan to do things. If we had them now I would never see the poor things. If we start next year, after our move cross-country, I'll be able to stay with them all day long with plenty of relatives nearby for back-up if needed.
Anyway, I brought up the children to prove a point, hoping to make this poor girl feel better. Whether you have them now or later is really not the point. I only meant to say that there are things in life that go differently for different people, and just because she is not engaged right now does not mean that there is not a beautiful future ahead for her and her boyfriend.
wdwhoneymooner
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Couldn't agree with you more. I've just become a stay-at-home dad because we believe having one of us around during while our children are very young is important. Our priorities revolve around our children and not about material things. We are fortunate that we don't have to "do without", but we must now amend our spending habits to live on one salary.
As for being engaged, I think a couple's level of maturity as well as their dedication to each other, especially when things get tough, is more important than anything that can be purchased. Love is stronger than any diamond.
tigsmom
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Six years here without kids (though not all of it was planned).
I was very lucky that I was able to stay home with my kids while they were young. Money was very tight for awhile, but it was more than worth it. It was a decision we made before we married.
To be honest, I don't know how working moms do it. You have to really give them credit.
Don't rush anything you aren't ready for (male or female), it will only cause hard feelings down the line. Thats the hardest part about being part of a couple...both being on the same page.
There's nothing wrong with waiting... on marriage or on children! I had always thought (when I was in high school) that the day after I graduated from college I would be getting married... have a kid a couple years after that...
Well, I didn't even start dating my husband until 2 weeks after graduation. Dated for over 2 years, had a 6 week engagement (no... we didn't "have" to get married- he was moving away, and the date was open at the church) and waited over 7 years before our daughter was born.
If we'd waited until we had money, we'd still be dating! My ring is beautiful although it didn't cost a fortune. In fact it has a carbon flaw in it (a black streak) that often reminds me that even something as beautiful as a diamond isn't perfect.
If we'd waited until we had money, we wouldn't have our precious daughter. She is our pride and joy, and although times are tight because I'm staying at home with her, we wouldn't change a thing in the world.
Yes, girls can be vicious in their comparisons of one another's plans. It's a shame that we can't just be happy for our friends. WHen they do start to give you problems, just remember that the time will come when the moment is "right" and your boyfriend will propose. And nothing they say or do will diminish that special moment.
So... be patient and enjoy all these times with your boyfriend. Your patience and love will reap you many rewards somewhere along the way!
Well, I didn't even start dating my husband until 2 weeks after graduation. Dated for over 2 years, had a 6 week engagement (no... we didn't "have" to get married- he was moving away, and the date was open at the church) and waited over 7 years before our daughter was born.
If we'd waited until we had money, we'd still be dating! My ring is beautiful although it didn't cost a fortune. In fact it has a carbon flaw in it (a black streak) that often reminds me that even something as beautiful as a diamond isn't perfect.
If we'd waited until we had money, we wouldn't have our precious daughter. She is our pride and joy, and although times are tight because I'm staying at home with her, we wouldn't change a thing in the world.
Yes, girls can be vicious in their comparisons of one another's plans. It's a shame that we can't just be happy for our friends. WHen they do start to give you problems, just remember that the time will come when the moment is "right" and your boyfriend will propose. And nothing they say or do will diminish that special moment.
So... be patient and enjoy all these times with your boyfriend. Your patience and love will reap you many rewards somewhere along the way!
tigsmom
Well-Known Member
Originally posted by sarajo
There's nothing wrong with waiting... on marriage or on children! I had always thought (when I was in high school) that the day after I graduated from college I would be getting married... have a kid a couple years after that...
Well, I didn't even start dating my husband until 2 weeks after graduation. Dated for over 2 years, had a 6 week engagement (no... we didn't "have" to get married- he was moving away, and the date was open at the church) and waited over 7 years before our daughter was born.
If we'd waited until we had money, we'd still be dating! My ring is beautiful although it didn't cost a fortune. In fact it has a carbon flaw in it (a black streak) that often reminds me that even something as beautiful as a diamond isn't perfect.
If we'd waited until we had money, we wouldn't have our precious daughter. She is our pride and joy, and although times are tight because I'm staying at home with her, we wouldn't change a thing in the world.
Yes, girls can be vicious in their comparisons of one another's plans. It's a shame that we can't just be happy for our friends. WHen they do start to give you problems, just remember that the time will come when the moment is "right" and your boyfriend will propose. And nothing they say or do will diminish that special moment.
So... be patient and enjoy all these times with your boyfriend. Your patience and love will reap you many rewards somewhere along the way!
:sohappy: very eloquent.
Pippa
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Its bizarre, the cards life deals you and what you thought you'd get dealt. I got married at 21 after being with Darrell for 4 years and even though I knew it wasn't really right I went ahead and became the first of my friends to be married and then became the first of my friends to be divorced (and I was only 23). Now I'm 30 and with Glen, have been for 7 years and we are now planning the wedding for next year, all our friends have children but we soooooooo aren't in that place yet and maybe we won't ever be but we happy doing what we're doing and thats cool, besides none of our friends can afford to go to WDW now!!!
Anyway, surely you'd want Chris to propose in WDW! That would be so much better than a diamond! :lol:
Anyway, surely you'd want Chris to propose in WDW! That would be so much better than a diamond! :lol: