Duggars 1st grandchild arrives

[maggiegrace1]

I think everyone has valid points it really is a tricky waters to navigate when talking about The Duggers. The thing about the older kids helping to raise the younger is to them thats the normal, thats how they live and were raised. To the rest of us it seems odd but in all honesty who are we to judge whats odd. :shrug:
I do feel bad for the girls in the family I just feel like they almost live in an environment that teaches them women are just supposed to have babies and take care of the home, but thats because I was raised to believe women can do anything.

While the parents would like them to do what the mother does, they have said in one of the shows that they will and do encourage their kids to do whatever they choose to do as they grow older.

Granted they may choose to follow in their mothers footsteps but they will not be forced to do that if they choose to do something else.

I know the oldest sons wife works with him at their car dealership and she was raised in the same manner as the Duggars.

 

[sbkline]

I don't think this is a direct response to Kelle0702's post. As best I can tell, she said she felt sorry for the Duggar girls because they are likely to be denied the opportunity to decide for themselves whether they'd rather pursue a career, a family, or some balancing act of the two. (Whether that's true or not, I can't say. I don't watch the show enough to judge.)

Your issue seems to be with people who look at women who, in your judgment, have chosen a domestic life of their own free will and after being presented with all alternatives and feel pity and scorn.

There's an important distinction there.

I don't think the Duggar parents are going to deny any of their daughters their dreams in life. But I do think that, given their upbringing, the girls are more likely to want to follow in the mother's footsteps, which is fine if that's what they choose.

From watching that show, and from observing the family and some of the things they've said, I think it is more a matter of the kids discussing their goals with their parents and the parents encouraging them to pray about it and seek God's will for their lives, whether it be to stay at home, or to go to college, etc.

 

[Lucille]

I noticed that one of the daughters seems into photography. It'll be interesting to see if that's something she pursues.

 

[kstella]

I think the one daughter who helped out at the Josh's daughter's birth is interested in being a midwife.

 

[Erika]

While the parents would like them to do what the mother does, they have said in one of the shows that they will and do encourage their kids to do whatever they choose to do as they grow older.

Granted they may choose to follow in their mothers footsteps but they will not be forced to do that if they choose to do something else.

I know the oldest sons wife works with him at their car dealership and she was raised in the same manner as the Duggars.

Michelle started out doing the same.

Working mom, stay at home mom, whatever :shrug:

I choose to stay at home and my husband and I chose our home and his career based on this decision. It was a top priority for us and I wouldn't trade this life for the world. There are plenty of career moms who look at my situation and think, NO WAY would they want to be in my shoes :lol: and that's cool. What's right for me is not right for everybody and vice versa.

One thing I have picked up from watching the show is that these are very non-judgmental people. They don't require everybody to be like them and they don't restrict themselves to interacting strictly with people who are exactly like them (although that other huge family they hang around is pretty similar!). I would imagine that once their kids are grown, they'll respect whatever decisions they make. At least I like to think so.

 

[GrannyJill2]

A stay-at-home mom is very much a "working" mom. She just doesn't collect a paycheck.