I think either one works. As with most things, it probably comes down to personal preference as to how one would want to be referred to.
At a cocktail party that works, when you can see the person in the flesh and get verbal or non-verbal indications how he or she refers to themselves. But even then, you don't really bring it up in conversation, or do so rarely. But as a blanket statement on something like a message board? That's where you have to fall back on the seemingly ever-changing buzzwords du jour.
Just a few years ago all the Smart People were still using the word
"Latinx" in emails and conversation. Until actual Latinos spoke up and said
"Hey, white folks, that's not a real word. We call ourselves Latinos." and then suddenly the HR ladies and the Smart People in the faculty lounge had to quietly forget they ever invented that word in the first place.
I had no idea the word "dwarves" was offensive to someone who has the medical condition of dwarfism. But if someone who is a dwarf tells me they'd rather be called a "little person", I'll oblige. (Even though that phrase seems demeaning to me).
I can think of so many other folks who have medical conditions used to describe themselves; diabetics, hemophiliacs, asthmatics, autistic, etc. It's odd to me that the root word of "dwarfism" became taboo for some.
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And some of us <gasp> don't even find her to be particularly offensive at all. <double gasp>
True. But something tells me the people who don't find Rachel Zegler's controversial public statements the past few years to be offensive are going to need to buy extra movie tickets to cover the losses of the offended people who
will stay away from the upcoming
Snow White remake because of Miss Zegler's own statements and persona.
The box office on that one will be interesting to watch. Will the social media dustups of 2023-2024 from Miss Zegler still matter this March? My hunch is the response will be muted more than if the movie had been released as planned last year, but her old social media scandals will still resurface about six weeks from now. Stay tuned!
It also depends on the target audience. Wicked was designed to appeal to theater kids who don't tend to mind when actors get overly emotional and act a little extra. So while the Internet made fun of Cynthia and Ariana, the actual core fanbase of Wicked wasn't deterred. However, if Cynthia and Ariana had a similar press tour while appearing in a Marvel or Star Wars movie, their antics would have likely been received differently by the Marvel fandom.
To be clear, Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande didn't really do anything egregiously wrong on the Wicked press tour. I'm just saying they were fortunate that the Wicked fanbase isn't nearly as toxic as other ones.
Bingo! Another really good assessment on your part!
I mentioned previously that over the holidays I was talking to someone's date at a party, and he had already seen
Wicked five (5!) times, he goes with friends who have seen it multiple times, and he was planning to see it a sixth time with his friends on New Year's Day to celebrate 2025.
This was a grown man, but most definitely fit the description of a "theater kid". The disparity in the box office for Wicked between the USA and overseas is still notable. Apparently most foreign countries don't have the "theater kid" demographic?