It took a while for me to get my husband to put it into words, but his opinion is that the ST just re-told the OT with new faces. Yes, he enjoyed them, but they aren't anything special to him, either, nor does he feel a deep connection to the new characters. For a little bit of scope, he didn't hate the PT (except Jar-Jar). There were scenes in the ST that he loved, but for the most part he's sort of "meh". He WANTS to be excited about Star Wars again, though...that much is very clear to me. Is he angry about the ST? No...but he does feel sort of disappointed and let down.
I don't know that I'd call him a super-fan, but my MIL's basement was FULL of Star Wars stuff until she sold her house, and Star Wars quotes and references have been flying around on the regular since long before I met my husband in 1991.