Thanks!
What frustrates me is she didn't do anything wrong from the sounds of it. She didn't take any drinks from him....I don't think she had been drinking at all. She just wanted to have a fun night singing karaoke. I'm sure she'll be cautious, but I don't know what more women can do. She wasn't flirting, she wasn't drinking....how was this able to happen to her? I think the best thing that could come of this is that OTHER people are more aware and looking out for women, making it a safer environment for them to have fun without jerks feeling entitled to attention, time, whatever. Those two men who stood there and watched....that should never have happened. They should have done something....call the police, pull the guy off of her, anything! They should never have felt that it was ok for them to just stand there and watch that happen. All it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.
Closest I’ve ever come to being involved in a situation anything like that was when Carolyn and I first started dating.
We went down to 6th Street in Austin to have a drink, before we were to meet some friends at another place.
We sat at the bar and ordered a coupla’ drinks, and I excused myself to visit the men’s room.
I came back, and some dude was sitting in my seat totally hitting on her and admiring her cashmere sweater.
I told him it was my seat and that we were together, and asked him to please move. Carolyn quickly verified, and said she had already told him that she was there with someone else, several times. He and I locked eyes for a coupla’ seconds, and I raised my eyebrows. He cracked a bit of a sneer as he finally got up, and moved to a nearby table. While we nursed our drinks, he had 3 more.
As we were settling the tab to leave, he walked out the front door. When we got out there he was leaning against the wall. We had a bit of another stare-down as we walked by, but he didn’t try anything. Pretty sure I coulda’ destroyed him, if I needed to, though.
I think part of the problem with these types of situations, these days, is the perp ends up getting defended as the victim, too many times.
Not all that long ago, a similar situation happened here, and the boyfriend/husband(?) ended up punching the other dude to the ground, hitting his head against a curb. Yep, DRT (Dead Right There).
IIRC, the dude ended up getting acquitted, but the case was long and drawn out.
Granted, different situations in the fact that myself and the other guy were with our dates, and the guys in your friends’ daughters case were, as far as I know, strangers.
At my age now, I probably wouldn’t have gotten involved physically, as I don’t wanna’ end up dead, but I damn sure woulda’ gotten a bouncer or two from the bar while calling 911. I guess you could run over yelling and see if it scares him off.
Plus, ya’ never know if the perp has a knife or some other weapon. There’s been more than one case where some “hero” ran to help, only to get stuck in the neck and bleed out in the street, before help could even show up.
Either way, it s ucks all the way around.
The only thing to legally do when these things happen is to prosecute these turds to the fullest extent of the law, and to keep them locked up for as long as is lawfully possible (as I said, legally).
I, personally, hope they lock him up, chop up the key and feed it to him.