Where in the World Isn't Bob Saget?

[Mike S]

I don't know what opening phase your city/state is currently in (per the Covid19 situation), but if perhaps any coffee shops might be open now -- could you contact her (online) and maybe suggest that you and her could get together for a cup of coffee and to chat, at her convenience?

I live in Florida and cases here are going up badly since we’ve reopened stuff. That’s another thing to consider.

 

[NYwdwfan]

I did ask her out once before all those years ago. What got me to overcome my shyness back then? I saw another guy from class go up and talk to her so after the next class I was driven to make my move. I attribute it to the male competitive instinct taking over.

Right now I feel like it would be better if there was some actual conversation going on first. Even back then we talked a bit before I asked her out. Now could also be different as she could already have the suspicion that I’ll try to ask her out again eventually. There’s almost no doubt in my mind she remembers that I asked her out. I wish she’d just give me some kind of sign because I don’t like all this confusion.

I once had a super big crush on a guy. I turned into a total and complete awkward idiot every time I saw him (which was ALL the time since he lived close by). Finally I just asked if he wanted to grab a drink sometime. So when we were actually hanging out I admitted that I had been trying to ask for about 10 months. He laughed at me. He had NO CLUE I was interested. Like ZERO. I said I was even pulling out my “A” game and his exact quote was, “your A game sucks”.

 

[Mike S]

I once had a super big crush on a guy. I turned into a total and complete awkward idiot every time I saw him (which was ALL the time since he lived close by. Finally I just asked if he wanted to grab a drink sometime. So when we were actually hanging out I admitted that I had been trying to ask for about 10 months. He laughed at me. He had NO CLUE I was interested. Like ZERO. I said I was even pulling out my “A” game and his exact quote was, “your A game sucks”.

Considering this is over Facebook I can’t even look for those kinds of signs lol. This is why I never liked the idea of online dating.

 

[PUSH]

Happy Father's Day!

 

[Goofyernmost]

Well there’s no real potential relationships I could be ignoring now as I mostly keep to myself. If I’m not working I’m home and I work pretty much every day so I don’t really see any girls outside of family. I have a real job plus a food delivery app as my side job that I can sign into whenever I want. I get what everyone’s telling me but I still think there should be an actual conversation going first before I make the move. It seems like it would be weird otherwise

Well, start the damn conversation. Sitting home thinking about it will not make it happen. Spend some time thinking about some things that you believe you have in common and get the ball rolling. Life doesn't come to you, you go to it.

 

[Goofyernmost]

Well, start the damn conversation. Sitting home thinking about it will not make it happen. Spend some time thinking about some things that you believe you have in common and get the ball rolling. Life doesn't come to you, you go to it.

I quoted myself because I wanted to add something to my post..... Some conversation starters that come to mind. Say things like.. I can't wait until this mess is over because I love WDW and would like to plan to go again sometime. Or that same can't wait reference applied to other things like going to the movies or out to dinner.

You don't have to include the person in your "I wish" or "I like" statements. You are just stating something that you feel about something not related to dating. I found the Disney conversations to be a great ice breaker. If you are talking to someone the has been and enjoyed it, you can share fun experiences that you both can relate too. If they have never been, then there are so many things that can be said to tell them why you love it and trying to get their interest. Everyone is human and we all have our fears and insecurities whether male or female. If you get to direct in the beginning it might bring those defense reflexes into play. Make it non-threatening and the conversations can begin. Another is, in your case, is to ask her what she has been doing during all this, that can lead to more questions about what she is looking forward to. Completely innocent conversations with nothing to fire up the defense. So in affect @Mike S, I am agreeing that conversation comes first, so just start the conversations.

 

[Mike S]

Well, start the damn conversation. Sitting home thinking about it will not make it happen. Spend some time thinking about some things that you believe you have in common and get the ball rolling. Life doesn't come to you, you go to it.

Tough love.

I quoted myself because I wanted to add something to my post..... Some conversation starters that come to mind. Say things like.. I can't wait until this mess is over because I love WDW and would like to plan to go again sometime. Or that same can't wait reference applied to other things like going to the movies or out to dinner.

You don't have to include the person in your "I wish" or "I like" statements. You are just stating something that you feel about something not related to dating. I found the Disney conversations to be a great ice breaker. If you are talking to someone the has been and enjoyed it, you can share fun experiences that you both can relate too. If they have never been, then there are so many things that can be said to tell them why you love it and trying to get their interest. Everyone is human and we all have our fears and insecurities whether male or female. If you get to direct in the beginning it might bring those defense reflexes into play. Make it non-threatening and the conversations can begin. Another is, in your case, is to ask her what she has been doing during all this, that can lead to more questions about what she is looking forward to. Completely innocent conversations with nothing to fire up the defense. So in affect @Mike S, I am agreeing that conversation comes first, so just start the conversations.

The thing is with my first messages I already tried starting up something asking how she’s been over the years and what she’s doing now and got no response. I only got a “thank you so much” when I sent condolences for her cousin. When I asked how she’s doing a few days after that, again nothing. I know this is probably a sign of disinterest on her part if I’m always the initiator

That’s why I thought of waiting to see if she says something first next time. Even just happy birthday. Also back to the thing of coming off too desperate.

 

[JenniferS]

Mike’s new part-time 3 day/week gig may be full time for a few weeks.

His partner, on her way to work for the first time today, got T-boned by a guy running a red. In hospital as we speak, having a panic attack because no one can be with her; waiting for x-rays. Suspected broken ribs. Hopefully that’s all it is.

 

[NYwdwfan]

Mike’s new part-time 3 day/week gig may be full time for a few weeks.

His partner, on her way to work for the first time today, got T-boned by a guy running a red. In hospital as we speak, having a panic attack because no one can be with her; waiting for x-rays. Suspected broken ribs. Hopefully that’s all it is.

That’s awful! I hope she is OK.

 

[Goofyernmost]

Tough love.

The thing is with my first messages I already tried starting up something asking how she’s been over the years and what she’s doing now and got no response. I only got a “thank you so much” when I sent condolences for her cousin. When I asked how she’s doing a few days after that, again nothing. I know this is probably a sign of disinterest on her part if I’m always the initiator

That’s why I thought of waiting to see if she says something first next time. Even just happy birthday. Also back to the thing of coming off too desperate.

Well, that is new information for me. I must have missed that someplace along the way. If you keep trying she may decide to give you a try, but, the odds are she isn't interested. So I have no advice other then to stop chasing unicorns and find a way to connect with others. You might be surprised but, I have had a lifetime desire for the girl that I went out with in my last year of High School. She was also a neighbor. We went our separate ways and made another life. After all it was 54 years ago that we were an item. She married and had three boys, I married and had two girls, but there has hardly been a day when a thought of her didn't jump in my mind. Asking myself what I could have done different back all those years ago to have a ride off into the sunset ending. Not an obsession, I never pursued anything. We made contact again during my 50th High School reunion and have maintained an occasional back and forth via e-mail and Facebook since then.

I live in NC and she lives in Conn. She is still married and by all indications has had a happy life. Guess what? So have I! I was married for 29 year before we focused on new horizons. I don't regret my life as it turned out, and today being Fathers Day, I realize just how great my life was. My daughters are my legacy and one of the best anyone could ask for. Your life will work out however it was intended, just don't miss out on the direction because you are focused on a road that is a dead end. Be realistic and don't be in a hurry. That person, whomever it is, just like most of us experienced will suddenly be there when you are least expecting it. Just don't close your eyes and miss the other signals, if they are out there, that might just be the answer to all of your problems. At this point I will hold my non-requested opinions on this because I already sound like somebody's Mom. Just good luck and be patient, what we are intended to be will happen and there is nothing much we can do about it other then to make sure it is real.

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

Mike’s new part-time 3 day/week gig may be full time for a few weeks.

His partner, on her way to work for the first time today, got T-boned by a guy running a red. In hospital as we speak, having a panic attack because no one can be with her; waiting for x-rays. Suspected broken ribs. Hopefully that’s all it is.

I hope it's all okay with her.

 

[Mike S]

Well, that is new information for me. I must have missed that someplace along the way. If you keep trying she may decide to give you a try, but, the odds are she isn't interested. So I have no advice other then to stop chasing unicorns and find a way to connect with others. You might be surprised but, I have had a lifetime desire for the girl that I went out with in my last year of High School. She was also a neighbor. We went our separate ways and made another life. After all it was 54 years ago that we were an item. She married and had three boys, I married and had two girls, but there has hardly been a day when a thought of her didn't jump in my mind. Asking myself what I could have done different back all those years ago to have a ride off into the sunset ending. Not an obsession, I never pursued anything. We made contact again during my 50th High School reunion and have maintained an occasional back and forth via e-mail and Facebook since then.

I live in NC and she lives in Conn. She is still married and by all indications has had a happy life. Guess what? So have I! I was married for 29 year before we focused on new horizons. I don't regret my life as it turned out, and today being Fathers Day, I realize just how great my life was. My daughters are my legacy and one of the best anyone could ask for. Your life will work out however it was intended, just don't miss out on the direction because you are focused on a road that is a dead end. Be realistic and don't be in a hurry. That person, whomever it is, just like most of us experienced will suddenly be there when you are least expecting it. Just don't close your eyes and miss the other signals, if they are out there, that might just be the answer to all of your problems. At this point I will hold my non-requested opinions on this because I already sound like somebody's Mom. Just good luck and be patient, what we are intended to be will happen and there is nothing much we can do about it other then to make sure it is real.

My initial thoughts when I found out about her cousin was that maybe that was why she wasn’t talking or I guess it could just be me having false hope. I’m going to be 27 and not getting younger and I don’t really interact with girls anymore since I left college. I’m just too busy just trying to support myself and save. I also did say this before you can look back and see.

 

[Goofyernmost]

I once had a super big crush on a guy. I turned into a total and complete awkward idiot every time I saw him (which was ALL the time since he lived close by). Finally I just asked if he wanted to grab a drink sometime. So when we were actually hanging out I admitted that I had been trying to ask for about 10 months. He laughed at me. He had NO CLUE I was interested. Like ZERO. I said I was even pulling out my “A” game and his exact quote was, “your A game sucks”.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, unless that is who you married then... good choice. BTW, in case you hadn't noticed all of us, at that young age, were complete awkward idiots. I try not to look back on that because I don't want to think about how much of a dork I was back then. Certainly nowhere near as much of a cool dude that I am now.

 

[Goofyernmost]

My initial thoughts when I found out about her cousin was that maybe that was why she wasn’t talking or I guess it could just be me having false hope. I’m 27 and not getting younger and I don’t really interact with girls anymore since I left college. I’m just too busy just trying to support myself and save. I also did say this before you can look back and see.

Just continue sending small notes, like how are you doing, you know like that. Not forever though, maybe a couple of times. If you still get no response if it were me I'd just lick my wounds and try to move on. I know right now it is hard to find someplace to go to meet others, but, this will pass and you will still be young. I am the reverse of your age. I'm 72 and you are 27, just trust me that you have a lot of time left. I was 23 when I got married and that was a long, long, long time ago.

 

[NYwdwfan]

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, unless that is who you married then... good choice. BTW, in case you hadn't noticed all of us, at that young age, were complete awkward idiots. I try not to look back on that because I don't want to think about how much of a dork I was back then. Certainly nowhere near as much of a cool dude that I am now.

This was actually post-divorce so not a young age at all!!! Was more an “I don’t know how to get back out there” anxiety. Which has passed thankfully!!

 

[JenniferS]

This was actually post-divorce so not a young age at all!!! Was more an “I don’t know how to get back out there” anxiety. Which has passed thankfully!!

 

[Mike S]

Just continue sending small notes, like how are you doing, you know like that. Not forever though, maybe a couple of times. If you still get no response if it were me I'd just lick my wounds and try to move on. I know right now it is hard to find someplace to go to meet others, but, this will pass and you will still be young. I am the reverse of your age. I'm 72 and you are 27, just trust me that you have a lot of time left. I was 23 when I got married and that was a long, long, long time ago.

That’s exactly the last thing I sent

 

[trr1]

Baked Chicken Chimichanga

 

[Mike S]

Baked Chicken Chimichanga
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[JenniferS]

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Mystery filling? Hmmmmm.