DH speaking here: Look guys, to those that were rude," Its cool I'm used to it." To those of you that were supportive of my wife's attempt to find some kind of middle ground, "thank you".
To help those of you that might need further explanation so that you may have mercy on others that might not have your "affliction" let me elaborate on a few points.
I will not be as rude as some chose to be, but I will defend myself. I have "grown up", enough so that I know better than to deliberatly offend people in a manner that I would never even consider speaking in in real life. I appreciate constructive critisism, but I am entitled to my opinion and some people hate oranges and love bananas, my wife is an orange type of gal and I just don't get it. Get over yourself (Kellydisney). Your negative opinions of me are utterly ignored by my fantastic wife anyway so there is no point in uttering them. Honestly they annoy her and amuse me.
The cop thing was way overemphasized, perhaps that was my fault. I just explained to my wife, that is just a small....repeat.....small part of the pie of my dislike. However, for those of you who had so little sympathy or understanding for this (minor) concern: until you see the things that I have seen, or have been to the horrible places I have been.............I won't elaborate further......you have no right to judge. I have reason to be concerned or I wouldn't have mentioned it.
The selfishness described by many...well, its my vacation too. Should I not have a good time? Do I have to work 12 hour days, working bad hours, not seeing my wife or son but for a short time per day,then go looking for bad guys with my K-9 partner (whom I miss terribly when we are gone), and then on my vacation have an "okay" time?
And allow me to clarify. I do not have an awful time, I just don't get anything out of "The Disney Experience".
But you see this is good, my wife and I (she's sitting next to me as I write) have started to stamp some things out, with some of your (those that were actually constructive) suggestions.
From now on, we will:
Limit my exposure to the parks to no more than 1 day per 3 day trip.
Stay in a cabin that will allow my K-9 partner to join us.
Drive up so that I have a little more freedom to travel around to other places off site, and do some of my things (Old Town, go-carts, giving my girl massages).
Alternate vacation locales...i.e. not Disney every time (not that we did that now).
I love my wife and family more than anyone can possibly understand, they are my life, reason for being, ...I cannot explain, some people may feel what I feel but they are few, trust me in this, very few.
As for my kids, I do it for them. I actually feel .....weird ...when my 2 yr old isn't with me when we go on the rides. He is mine to take care of and I do so very much love it when I see his eyes light up, but he's only 2, and as of now he really doesn't get much more out of it than I do. On the very rare occasion that my wife cares for him on a ride I really don't know what to do with myself.
We will work this out. I will let her end it.
OK, Blackerbys17 here. Don't worry Kelly, my husband stopped beating me long enough so that I could write this.
Well, by the looks of it, it seems we have already worked it out. I did ask DH for another "compromise". When we are home, I handle the finances so I'd rather keep it that way when we are on vacation. If I decide I want all 4 pictures from our breakfast at Chef Mickey's, I don't want to hear one peep out of him or see him roll his eyes, or clear his throat, or anything else that lets me know he is displeased. He doesn't gripe about my shopping at home so he needs to apply that philosophy when we are on vacation. I don't over spend anyways, just on the things that matter most, like pictures of our lovely family even if it is WAY overpriced.
So, in closing, thank you for (most of) your suggestions and for the time you took to help us. We really do appreciate it and all is well that ends well. I guess we'll see how the Xmas trip goes, keep your fingers crossed!
Thanks guys!
Monica
